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COL650: WGO: May 2022

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of May. As the unofficial start to summer begins, catch up with the guys as they deal with work issues, traveling and finding the best spot for a wedding. In addition, the guys got a lot of feedback after this month with plenty of likes and comments that gave them much to discuss.

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Oh, yay, hiring spree. 🙁
  • Damon:  Wedding Venues and Nashville
  • Gary: Up, Down, Sideways, and All Around

Feedback 

Facebook Likes:

  • Marc E Johnson
  • Sterling Aragon
  • Robert Bruce
  • Mike Guzman
  • Joseph Thompson
  • Mark D Rogers
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  • Carlos Perez
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  • Robert Prazner
  • Jason Bolton-Lambert
  • Harry Wright
  • Ruben Rios
  • BaoBao Lai
  • Damien Leahy
  • Louis LaBella
  • Jimm Baker
  • Brad Savage
  • Pedraza Jr Rodolfo
  • James Diele-Stein
  • Rennie Thomas
  • Mario Jimenez
  • Steven Remsing
  • Hassan Soliman
  • Jonathan A Crockett
  • Colin Ashante
  • Gonzalo Sos
  • Peter Stevenson

YouTube Subscribers:

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YouTube Comment:

  • COL647: Consent in 2022: Oan – “Jeff: “we can blame this all on the millennial.” Me: “what did I do?”
  • COL647: Consent in 2022: Berty Bertface – “You probably cover this in the show, but I believe the effect of social media on Gen Y and even worse still Gen Z, has not been a positive one. Consent or permission is absent from the younger generations. And they are having an impact in daily life. It’s the “Better to beg for forgiveness, than ask for permission” moto of Gen Z. Which is sooooo much fun, right up until you have kids, and they use it on you. Gen Z especially speak and act as though they are living permanently in a comment section, using terrible gramnar and appalling diction. They speak in an unfiltered manner, with such strong conviction that their opinion is the only one that should be heard. It’s not their fault however. Perhaps any generation that had (in certain circumstances) unrestricted access to incredible ammounts of information and disinformation all at once, in a easily digestible format, all at the touch of your fingers tips, would end up exactly the same? As well as the boldening of people’s opinions, many are far less tolerant, and far too sensitive than years past. P.C. (now wokeness) has gone haywire, and there is becoming less and less room for discourse. Internet pseudo science runs rampant in the minds of the young, who are armed only with opinions and feelings, whilst completely denying facts. Rant over, Soz.”
  • COL645: LTAS: Aging Adult Entertainers: Jonathan – “Hi guys. It’s terribly sad about Paul Reed Yinger a.k.a. Steve “Titpig” Hurley passing away as he was one of my favourite adult performers. A strong manly man who never disappointed onscreen. Like you, I often wonder about other performers who are no longer present onscreen and who I have this snapshot of in my brain but who haven’t performed in a long time now. I’m especially thinking about Will West and Ed Diamond, who specialised in bareback porn. There’s a hot scene with Titpig and Will West in a movie called Will West Raw. Then there’s Paul Morgan who did both gay and straight porn and was a prolific performer before vanishing. I guess I just want to know that these guys are out there, happy and healthy and when they leave the movie scene and aren’t heard of again, it’s almost impossible to know. Anyhow, great show and thanks for making mention of Mr. Yinger and raising the topic about ageing adult entertainers.” 
  • COL649: LOR: Red Flags, Green Flags: Oan – “Hey, so I had a question. I don’t know if Ed will ever read this but to the hosts, what would the social protocol be if you want to use the word “sir” in like a courtesy type manner while addressing a person who also happens to be in the bear (leather/bdsm/insert other category here) community?”

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  • @jeremycub
  • @pup_astrom 

Twitter Message:

  • “need some advice, my guy want to have a threesome. Not sure if I’m interested right now. how should I talk with him?”

Patreon Updates

  • BIG BEAR CUB HUGS to our Patrons! 
    • Cubsters: Charles W. 
    • Ubehrs: Dave T., Li, Michael Q, and Tim S.
    • plus our Buddies: Lloyd G., Michael V, and Zack B.

Recent Shows

  • COL646: WGO: April 2022
  • COL647: Consent in 2022
  • COL648: Voting in 2022
  • COL649: LoR: Red Flags, Green Flags

Shout Out

Obtw, previous guest Paul Lanner has an event coming up soon and would love to see you there. Visit HAH The Event.com for info for support and attending.

Also… remember when we had previous guest Joshua Pangborn from SideKick Productions on for the award winning series Skeleton Crew? Well they have a new project underway with their film “A Taste of Youth” where a fundraising campaign has been launched with Indiegogo. Consider supporting Queer Horror and Fat Positivity content by visiting A Taste of Youth.com to see how you can help make this horror feature happen.

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COL649: LoR: Red Flags, Green Flags

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this episode, the guys discuss the potential red, yellow and green flags in relationship and kink dynamics. While a potentially funny meme, these flags are no laughing matter. Listen in as the cubs unfurl some details and give some insight into looking out for the signals of a healthy (and unhealthy) relationship.

Show Topic

Landscape of Relationships: Red Flags, Green Flags

What are Relationship Flags?

  • Relationship flags are indicators of healthy, unhealthy, and dangerous behaviors or feelings within relationships.  
  • They can be red, yellow, or green.  

Red Flags 

  • Controlling behaviors 
  • Violence 
  • Emotional and verbal abuse 
  • Intentional sabotage or hurting of feelings
  • Walking on eggshells 
  • Friends and family (support) are not trusting of your partner
  • Using things against you that were told in confidence
  • Usually can improve for short periods of time but abuse is usually cyclical 

 Yellow Flags 

  • All or nothing communication 
  • Pushes boundaries 
  • Codependency or enmeshment 
  • Difficulty with finding things in common 
  • Lack of similarities with goals and values 
  • These can be improved upon in meaningful ways 

Green Flags 

  • Healthy communication 
  • Respecting boundaries 
  • Interdependence 
  • Supportive of goals and values 
  • Knowing love languages
  • Awareness that no relationship is perfect 

Let’s Get Kinky 

Red Flags in Kink 

  • Expect you to immediately obey them and call them an honorific or title before agreed upon/Call you a title one honorific immediately before agreed upon
  • Don’t ask you about your hard or soft limits
  • Tell you what “real” or “true” submissive or a dominant does 
  • Separate you from friends and family or kinky friends 
  • Tell you that they have no limits and expect you to have no limits as well
  • Expect you, as the Dominant, to take full responsibility for their health and wellbeing, both physically and emotionally
  • Dismiss opinions 
  • Dictate how your dynamic will go 

Green Flags in Kink 

  • Want to get to know you on a deeper level, and have an interest in more than just your kinks and sexual preferences
  • They won’t do anything without your expressed consent, and will respect your stated boundaries and limits, as well as sharing their own
  • They’re interested in hearing about your journey in kink, as well as what turns you on and off, along with your opinions on how you’d like your dynamic to grow
  • They respect your existing friendships and relationships, even if they may not be directly introduced to the other important people in your life
  • They emphasize the importance of safety, consent, negotiation, and safe words in kinky dynamics
  • They take responsibility for their actions, understanding that you are not the cure for their problems

If you feel you are in a dangerous relationship situation.  Please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233

Resources 

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COL623: What’s Going On – October 2021

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of October. It’s the end of Halloween month and the cubs bring us up to date on their lives as harvest closes. From working times to vacation vibes, it’s been quite the busy month for the guys.

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Nesting and Achievements
  • Damon: Enjoying the Swing and Time Off
  • Gary: Ramped Up and Getting Busier

Feedback 

Facebook Likes:

  • Andrew Edwards
  • Blu McDavid
  • Thomas McDonagh
  • Khan Khans

Facebook Comment/Post:

  • Edward AC re: COL621: LoR: Creating Your Party: – Here is the image we were discussing!

YouTube Subscribers:

  • Enrique Balzaretti

YouTube Comment:

  • Oan R. re: COL620: LTAF: It’s Autumn Time – Damon: – What do you prefer in your apple.  Me: I prefer Gary. He’s the apple of my eye. Also Gary should get some cranberries and pecans, a nice pie crust and some flour and cinnamon for topping. Maybe throw some crystallized ginger in there too.
  • dindin mooshi re: COL621: LoR: Creating Your Party – Good topic, interesting discussion, relationship dynamics and interactions of LGBTQIA ppl are so peculiar, we are so different compared to the heteros. PS: Thank you ED. 

Twitter Comment:

  • @Awq_Oan Oct 3: Thoughts on today’s episode of @cubsoutloud from the : Man, I must say, Gary was looking nice today. Also, they all had some interesting points about the things. Yes. Well done.
  • @Awq_Oan – Oct 15: Anybody remember when on @cubsoutloud Jeff started talking about apples and Damon was saying how much he hated applesauce and then Gary was talking about how he has to many apples and I was just thinking about rubbing against his beard? Good times.
  • @Awq_Oan – Oct 15: G A R L I C S A L T E D B O O T Y H O L E @cubsoutloud

Recent Shows

  • COL619: WGO: September 2021 
  • COL620: LTAF: It’s Autumn Time
  • COL621: Landscape of Relationships: Creating Your Party
  • COL622: LTAS: Horror Stories

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COL617: LoR: Struggle Bus

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this episode, the cubs take a ride on the struggle bus. Discussing conflict and conflict resolution, listen and learn along with the guys as they reveal the common pitfalls and potential solutions to this common problem.

Show Topic

Landscape of Relationships: Struggle Bus

Four Horsemen 

  • Stonewalling
  • Criticism
  • Defensiveness
  • Contempt

Antidotes

  • Psychological Self-soothing [for Stonewalling]
  • Gentle Start Up [for Criticism]
  • Take Responsibility [for Defensiveness] – it’s okay to be wrong, make mistakes, own our limits, be vulnerable
  • Appreciation [for Contempt] – consider a ratio with 5 for 1 [5 appreciative thoughts for 1 contempt]

The Conflict BluePrint 

  • Current Conflicts
  • Attachment Injuries
  • Gridlock Issues 
    • Conflict is ongoing and recurring
    • 69% of conflicts are unsolvable
    • Utilize conversation/discussion to unearth the underlying source/cause

Resources:

The Marriage Minute – email newsletter signup site

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert – Amazon ordering info

Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love – Amazon ordering info

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COL598: Landscape of Relationships: Trust Part Two

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. This time the guys discuss trust. For this second part, the guys continue their break down of the anatomy of trust. Listen in as the cubs open their vaults and get courageous in the face of judgment. As integral parts of the anatomy, the guys further discuss vulnerability and how it is important to trust with others and themselves.

Show Topic

Landscape of Relationships: Trust

  • What is trust?

Brené Brown: Anatomy of Trust 

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