In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another installment in the Let’s Talk About Kink series. This time around, one of the guys turns from interviewer to interviewee as Damon, Mr. Cincinnati Leather 2023, and Trayla Parks, Mx. Cincinnati Leather 2023, sit down to discuss their title win. As #twinners in an unprecedented set of circumstances, two titleholders were sashed. Listen in as Damon and Trayla speak on their experiences, ideas, and plans for the remainder of their title year.
Show Topic
LTAK: Cincinnati Leather Titleholders 2023
Let’s talk about TWINNING! Last year in August, history was made in the Cincinnati Leather Contest when not one BUT two winners were announced. We’re excited to have both Damon and Trayla join us for an extra special interview show!
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this episode, the guys discuss the potential red, yellow and green flags in relationship and kink dynamics. While a potentially funny meme, these flags are no laughing matter. Listen in as the cubs unfurl some details and give some insight into looking out for the signals of a healthy (and unhealthy) relationship.
Show Topic
Landscape of Relationships: Red Flags, Green Flags
What are Relationship Flags?
Relationship flags are indicators of healthy, unhealthy, and dangerous behaviors or feelings within relationships.
They can be red, yellow, or green.
Red Flags
Controlling behaviors
Violence
Emotional and verbal abuse
Intentional sabotage or hurting of feelings
Walking on eggshells
Friends and family (support) are not trusting of your partner
Using things against you that were told in confidence
Usually can improve for short periods of time but abuse is usually cyclical
Yellow Flags
All or nothing communication
Pushes boundaries
Codependency or enmeshment
Difficulty with finding things in common
Lack of similarities with goals and values
These can be improved upon in meaningful ways
Green Flags
Healthy communication
Respecting boundaries
Interdependence
Supportive of goals and values
Knowing love languages
Awareness that no relationship is perfect
Let’s Get Kinky
Red Flags in Kink
Expect you to immediately obey them and call them an honorific or title before agreed upon/Call you a title one honorific immediately before agreed upon
Don’t ask you about your hard or soft limits
Tell you what “real” or “true” submissive or a dominant does
Separate you from friends and family or kinky friends
Tell you that they have no limits and expect you to have no limits as well
Expect you, as the Dominant, to take full responsibility for their health and wellbeing, both physically and emotionally
Dismiss opinions
Dictate how your dynamic will go
Green Flags in Kink
Want to get to know you on a deeper level, and have an interest in more than just your kinks and sexual preferences
They won’t do anything without your expressed consent, and will respect your stated boundaries and limits, as well as sharing their own
They’re interested in hearing about your journey in kink, as well as what turns you on and off, along with your opinions on how you’d like your dynamic to grow
They respect your existing friendships and relationships, even if they may not be directly introduced to the other important people in your life
They emphasize the importance of safety, consent, negotiation, and safe words in kinky dynamics
They take responsibility for their actions, understanding that you are not the cure for their problems
If you feel you are in a dangerous relationship situation. Please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs have a little holiday mixer. With some listeners joining along, the guys play some games and spread a little holiday cheer.
Show Topic
Jingle Mingle
The COL hosts have an online year end social. It’s holiday themed games of virtual bingo, this or that, and we find out who’s on the naughty list!
If you’re interested in our Jingle Jingle Bingo virtual game, below are some details/links to play the same game online. Btw, yes Gary misspelled the word ‘bells’ as ‘beels’ in the list that created this specific game. The website myfreebingocards.com allows you to create virtual games with certain limitations but upgrade options for a cost.
Play virtual bingo free
Share the Virtual Link below with up to 30 friends. They can play virtual bingo on any device or print out their bingo card. Virtual Link: https://mfbc.us/m/yj52w9w
Everyone who follows this link will get one of 30 random bingo cards. It’s possible that two players will get the same bingo card. If you want to make sure everyone gets a different bingo card you can send out these individual links. If you have more than 30 players choose a paid option. Each player will get a link to their own unique bingo card that they cannot change, and we provide a tool to quickly send out individual links by email. For more information check out our Virtual Bingo Guide.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About Food. In this episode, the guys focus on something thick, creamy and tasty to some…the wintertime favorite eggnog! Whether it’s spiced or spiked, listen in as the cubs pour a glass on this and other festive beverages for the holidays.
Show Topic
Let’s Talk About Food: The White Stuff
As the winter season arrives here in the United States, a popular holiday drink rises to the top. But what do the hosts think of the infamous Egg Nog? What is it anyways? And are there other beverages at this time of year that deserve some love too?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of October. It’s the end of Halloween month and the cubs bring us up to date on their lives as harvest closes. From working times to vacation vibes, it’s been quite the busy month for the guys.
What’s Going On?
Jeff: Nesting and Achievements
Damon: Enjoying the Swing and Time Off
Gary: Ramped Up and Getting Busier
Feedback
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Thomas McDonagh
Khan Khans
Facebook Comment/Post:
Edward AC re: COL621: LoR: Creating Your Party: – Here is the image we were discussing!
YouTube Subscribers:
Enrique Balzaretti
YouTube Comment:
Oan R. re: COL620: LTAF: It’s Autumn Time – Damon: – What do you prefer in your apple. Me: I prefer Gary. He’s the apple of my eye. Also Gary should get some cranberries and pecans, a nice pie crust and some flour and cinnamon for topping. Maybe throw some crystallized ginger in there too.
dindin mooshi re: COL621: LoR: Creating Your Party – Good topic, interesting discussion, relationship dynamics and interactions of LGBTQIA ppl are so peculiar, we are so different compared to the heteros. PS: Thank you ED.
Twitter Comment:
@Awq_Oan – Oct 3: Thoughts on today’s episode of @cubsoutloud from the : Man, I must say, Gary was looking nice today. Also, they all had some interesting points about the things. Yes. Well done.
@Awq_Oan – Oct 15: Anybody remember when on @cubsoutloud Jeff started talking about apples and Damon was saying how much he hated applesauce and then Gary was talking about how he has to many apples and I was just thinking about rubbing against his beard? Good times.
@Awq_Oan – Oct 15: G A R L I C S A L T E D B O O T Y H O L E @cubsoutloud
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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another installment in the Let’s Talk About Kink series. This time around, one of the guys turns from interviewer to interviewee as Damon, Mr. Cincinnati Leather 2023, and Trayla Parks, Mx. Cincinnati Leather 2023, sit down to discuss their title win. As #twinners in an unprecedented set of circumstances, two titleholders were sashed. Listen in as Damon and Trayla speak on their experiences, ideas, and plans for the remainder of their title year.
