In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon are back in black as the queens go goth! From dark humor to dark ladies, listen in as the guys dig into the gurls’ Snatch Game and Neo-Goth looks.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke joins the cubs again to discuss self-care. From taking time for your personal needs to finding your stress levels minimize while out with friends, listen as the guys analyze the ins and outs of self-care. But is providing self-care selfish? Find out as Dr. Ed helps the guys learn more about it.
Show Topic
Landscape of Relationships: Self-care
What is self-care?
The National Institute in Mental Health says that “self-care means taking the time to do things that help you live well and improve both your physical health and mental health. When it comes to your mental health, self-care can help you manage stress, lower your risk of illness, and increase your energy. Even small acts of self-care in your daily life can have a big impact” (NIMH, December, 2022).
Examples of self-care
Exercise
Eating well and hydration
Regular sleep
Relaxing activity
Goal setting (realistic goals, I mean)
Gratitude
Practice acceptance and mindfulness
Stay connected
What isn’t here?
Important question when it comes to self-care. Am I practicing self-care or am I avoiding something?
Short term discomfort for long-term gain
What does it mean to practice self-care in relationships?
Differentiation of Self
One of the cornerstones of Bowen family systems theory, which states that families are an emotional system. A person’s ability to manage the relationship between individualization and togetherness determines someone’s differentiation of self.
Differentiated individuals are able to manage conflict without emotional reactivity, maintain their I-state, reach compromises; whereas, undifferentiated individuals tend to fuse with others or blend their emotional state with others, or their will exhibit emotional cutoff, which is where someone will manage their own emotional process by creating emotional and physical distance with someone.
Social Self-care
No person is an island and neither are you, ok?
Sometimes self-care is connecting with others and working on our relationships with others.
Reach healthy differentiation of self by identifying your own needs in conjunction with your relationship needs….AND recognize, accept, and validate the individual needs of the members of your relationships. You will do yourself and everyone else a HUGE favor.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About Sex. This time the guys bring us up to speed on monkeypox, now known as mpox, and the current talk about its continued presence in the MSM community. While not nearly as talked about as last year, mpox is still around, so the cubs are bringing it back to the table for further discussion. Get the 411 on spread and review the CDC’s reports on cases and how to keep yourselves safe.
Show Topic
LTAS: Mpox 2023 Update
Let’s Talk About Sex series returns. A year ago we discussed social media and the development of Monkeypox cases in the MSM community. Mpox cases have not gone away completely, so let’s check on where things stand this summer.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About… For this episode the topic is…ummm…aging! While they may refer to themselves as cubs, the hosts have definitely gotten older over time. And with that passage of time, things have also changed for them physically, mentally and beyond. With Gary reaching a milestone birthday later this year, what are some of the new experiences the guys have had in recent years and are there any lessons of wisdom that others could learn? What might younger members of the community have in store for their future? Listen in as these old gays–I mean cubs–wax nostalgia about getting older, but wiser.
Show Topic
LTA… Aging
While we may refer to ourselves as cubs, it’s been a bit o’time since COL got started. And with that passage of time, things have also changed for us physically and beyond. As Gary leads the pack in reaching a new milestone birthday later this year, what are some of the new experiences we’ve had in recent years? Are there any lessons of wisdom that others could learn from? What might younger members of the community have in store for their future?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of February. Despite the month being short, the guys had a lot going on. From bear runs to emergency dentistry, those 28 days were packed full! Catch up with the cubs and get acquainted with their goings-on.
What’s Going On?
Jeff: Take care of your teeth, kids.
Damon: NABW 2023
Gary: Family Stuff Was the Theme
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In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon are back in black as the queens go goth! From dark humor to dark ladies, listen in as the guys dig into the gurls’ Snatch Game and Neo-Goth looks.
