In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About Sex. This time around, the cubs are coming back to a topic that was previously discussed several years ago: Masturbation. As it’s National Masturbation Day and International Masturbation Month, the guys get hands on letting you all know how they spank the monkey. From self-love to gooning and all that’s in between, find out more about the healthy and unhealthy ways to seek self-pleasure.
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LTAS: Masturbation (Day)
That’s right, a national holiday has arrived and it begs the question, how did you celebrate? This time around we discuss the day in the US dedicated to ‘self-care’, as well as the International Day coming up in a few weeks and the ENTIRE MONTH for our own health and wellness. From throwbacks in COL350 to now, let’s just say the hosts have put in some research first hand on today’s topic.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About… For this episode the topic is…ummm…aging! While they may refer to themselves as cubs, the hosts have definitely gotten older over time. And with that passage of time, things have also changed for them physically, mentally and beyond. With Gary reaching a milestone birthday later this year, what are some of the new experiences the guys have had in recent years and are there any lessons of wisdom that others could learn? What might younger members of the community have in store for their future? Listen in as these old gays–I mean cubs–wax nostalgia about getting older, but wiser.
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LTA… Aging
While we may refer to ourselves as cubs, it’s been a bit o’time since COL got started. And with that passage of time, things have also changed for us physically and beyond. As Gary leads the pack in reaching a new milestone birthday later this year, what are some of the new experiences we’ve had in recent years? Are there any lessons of wisdom that others could learn from? What might younger members of the community have in store for their future?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this episode, the guys discuss the potential red, yellow and green flags in relationship and kink dynamics. While a potentially funny meme, these flags are no laughing matter. Listen in as the cubs unfurl some details and give some insight into looking out for the signals of a healthy (and unhealthy) relationship.
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Landscape of Relationships: Red Flags, Green Flags
What are Relationship Flags?
Relationship flags are indicators of healthy, unhealthy, and dangerous behaviors or feelings within relationships.
They can be red, yellow, or green.
Red Flags
Controlling behaviors
Violence
Emotional and verbal abuse
Intentional sabotage or hurting of feelings
Walking on eggshells
Friends and family (support) are not trusting of your partner
Using things against you that were told in confidence
Usually can improve for short periods of time but abuse is usually cyclical
Yellow Flags
All or nothing communication
Pushes boundaries
Codependency or enmeshment
Difficulty with finding things in common
Lack of similarities with goals and values
These can be improved upon in meaningful ways
Green Flags
Healthy communication
Respecting boundaries
Interdependence
Supportive of goals and values
Knowing love languages
Awareness that no relationship is perfect
Let’s Get Kinky
Red Flags in Kink
Expect you to immediately obey them and call them an honorific or title before agreed upon/Call you a title one honorific immediately before agreed upon
Don’t ask you about your hard or soft limits
Tell you what “real” or “true” submissive or a dominant does
Separate you from friends and family or kinky friends
Tell you that they have no limits and expect you to have no limits as well
Expect you, as the Dominant, to take full responsibility for their health and wellbeing, both physically and emotionally
Dismiss opinions
Dictate how your dynamic will go
Green Flags in Kink
Want to get to know you on a deeper level, and have an interest in more than just your kinks and sexual preferences
They won’t do anything without your expressed consent, and will respect your stated boundaries and limits, as well as sharing their own
They’re interested in hearing about your journey in kink, as well as what turns you on and off, along with your opinions on how you’d like your dynamic to grow
They respect your existing friendships and relationships, even if they may not be directly introduced to the other important people in your life
They emphasize the importance of safety, consent, negotiation, and safe words in kinky dynamics
They take responsibility for their actions, understanding that you are not the cure for their problems
If you feel you are in a dangerous relationship situation. Please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About Food. It’s the start of a new year and typically there’s a lot of new diets. With dieting comes balancing between healthy foods and the foods that are desired. How much pressure is felt as the battle between maintaining good, healthy choices and access to the quick and convenient hits a boiling point? Listen in as the cubs break down this debate and share their ideas on what you can do.
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Let’s Talk About Food: Healthy vs Indulgent
It’s the start of a new year and typically here in the US we see lots of folks begin new diets. For some, it becomes about balancing healthy foods versus the things we crave/desire. How much pressure do we feel as the battle for what we shove in our mouth hole comes round once again?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys share the love of big boys. As the acceptance and affirmation of dad bods and thick thighs makes its way across culture, listen in as the cubs share their thoughts on the mainstream joy for the body cushion.
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The Thiccness of It All
Today’s body culture is some of the most affirming ever. Has the Bear culture come into its own now with Dad bods, bellies, and the thiccness of it all?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About Sex. This time around, the cubs are coming back to a topic that was previously discussed several years ago: Masturbation. As it’s National Masturbation Day and International Masturbation Month, the guys get hands on letting you all know how they spank the monkey. From self-love to gooning and all that’s in between, find out more about the healthy and unhealthy ways to seek self-pleasure.
