In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys continue their “What is…” series with an episode on pleasure. So, what’s your pleasure? What’s my pleasure? Is it a pleasure to meet you or a pleasure to make your acquaintance? Is pleasure just sexual or are there multiple types of pleasure? Listen in as the cubs get to the pleasure principle and break it all down for you. Will this episode be pleasurable to you?
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What is… Pleasure?
Definition: noun – a feeling of happy satisfaction and enjoyment. Adjective – used or intended for entertainment rather than business. Verb – give sexual enjoyment or satisfaction to.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About Sex! For this episode, the guys are joined again by COL Sex Therapist Edward Angelini-Cooke to discuss the concept of asking and receiving. As we explore romantic relationships, the cubs review negotiations, consent, and getting your needs met and fulfilled. Also sandwiches, pizzas, and tea and what they mean in the grand scheme of things (Don’t worry Gary, there’s no food play involved).
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Let’s Talk About Sex – Asking and Receiving
Why is it so hard to ask for something during sex?
Are you being rude if you don’t show appreciation for the other participant during sex?
What do you do if you wanted a blow job but they aren’t doing that thing that you really like when you are getting a blowjob? You know that thing…
The Good Touch Games….Drenched Fur….Gabe and Edward
Consent
“An agreement between two parties who are about to engage in sexual activity”-RAINN
Consent is just as much about no as it is about yes.
Consent is about both parties getting what they want
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke of EAC Therapy and COL’s resident sex therapist. For this episode, the cubs acknowledge their thirst due to many states’ social distancing regulations during the COVID-19 pandemic. Because of this, we bring in the good doc to discuss the sexual needs during this crisis. We all have needs and need to find ways to address them safely.
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COVID-19 isn’t going away. And now more than ever we’re facing challenges with having our sexual needs met. What’s a person to do?
This is an extended traumatic experience….which means that people are going to have traumatic reactions to this. Here are some common traumatic reactions and ways to address them sexually:
IMPORTANT: Our reactions to this may be different therefore we may have different sexual libidos during this time (that is normal).
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to discuss the landscape of relationships. For this segment, the cubs go in depth on communication. From communication types and styles to learning some of the pitfalls of extreme words, listen as Edward guides the cubs on effective communication in all relationships.
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The Landscape of Relationships – Communication
DISCLOSURE: Communication is important and vital in all relationships….not just open relationships. Duh.
Cognitive Triangle
Feelings: How we feel impacts how we think and how we act (No control)
Thoughts: How we think impacts how we feel and how we act (Mostly control)
Behaviors: How we behave impacts how we feel and how we think (Mostly control)
Communication Traps
Assumptions/Expectations
“Have you ever wondered, well I have, about how when I say, say red, for example, there’s no way of knowing, if red means the same thing in your head as red means in my head when someone says red.” – Matilda
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another “What is…” show. The guys return after a 2 week break and get down and dirty! The cubs describe sexual satisfaction. Is the release and orgasm the only way to show this, or can one be satisfied with pleasurable company?
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What Is Series: Sexual Satisfaction
What do we consider sexually satisfying? Is completion important? Do we focus on others or ourselves?