In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About Sex. This time around, the cubs show their age and reveal what has or hasn’t changed regarding sex. From growing pains to changing stigmas, the guys share their feelings about what is different for them from sex in their 20s to sex as they approach 50 and beyond.
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LTAS: Now That We’re Older
As we’ve aged out of our 20s and 30s, how have things changed for us when it comes to sex? Are we falling in lock step with stereotypes? Or is this a natural occurrence? What does getting older mean in general when it comes to sexual activities?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs present another chapter of our “What Is…” series. The guys are joined by COL Resident Sex Therapist Edward Angelini-Cooke to unravel authenticity. As many folks had time on their hands in 2020 to be introspective, the idea of being authentic to themselves and what that means rang true. But, what does this mean and what steps can one take to find authenticity?
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Our ‘What is…’ series – focusing on Authenticity. We survived 2020 which tried us in so many ways. Some took the opportunity to look inward and reflect on self-improvement.
Authenticity is a process, that involves progress and context
“The Good Place” – We can’t just forget our progress
Phones don’t allow us to do that….every video can be interpreted as a present moment in time
YouTube creators deleting content reduces authenticity similar to ripping up pages in a diary so you are only seeing “the good stuff”
Similar to “Burn” in Hamilton
Brené Brown is a social worker and researcher with the University of Houston’s Graduate School of Social Work. She has spent the past two decades studying courage, shame, empathy, and vulnerability.
Basically, in order for us to practice authenticity, we need courage, compassion, and connection.
Fear keeps us distant from courage where vulnerability gets us closer
Sympathy keeps us distant from compassion where empathy gets us closer
Shame keeps us distant from connection where vulnerability, empathy, power, and freedom get us closer.
“The Compass” analogy
Values = North, West, South, East
Action = Points on the map
Ten Questions to explore authenticity
What is my greatest strength? What is my greatest weakness?
What is my proudest achievement? What is my biggest failure?
What am I worried about? (Think about a room where all your worries live…what is in there?)
What do I believe in? What are my values?
What am I interested in that I haven’t tried?
How are my relationships?
What do I like and dislike about my job?
What does my inner critic tell me?
Is your inner monologue more critical than not?
I know when I am stressed when I ____.
Think of a recent experience with a partner, friend, family member, or co-worker where you wanted to be authentic but weren’t. Imagine pausing at the height of this interaction and asking yourself the following questions:
What am I afraid would happen if I shared my experience right now with this person?
How will I feel if I don’t share what I’m thinking and feeling?
If I weren’t afraid, what would I most want to say to this person right now?
How can I share this with even more vulnerability?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another All T, No Shade show. This time, the cubs spill the tea on some of the messes in recent weeks among the LGBTQ+ community. From partying during a pandemic to thirsting after terrorists, the guys spare no amount of shade and give their honest opinions about their feelings on this misbehavior.
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From circuit parties, secret orgies, to Puerto Vallarta New Years fallout. What do we think of the ‘misbehavior’ by members of our very own community? How much criticism is fair? Can we do better?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another “What is…” show. The guys return after a 2 week break and get down and dirty! The cubs describe sexual satisfaction. Is the release and orgasm the only way to show this, or can one be satisfied with pleasurable company?
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What Is Series: Sexual Satisfaction
What do we consider sexually satisfying? Is completion important? Do we focus on others or ourselves?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About Sex. This time around, the cubs show their age and reveal what has or hasn’t changed regarding sex. From growing pains to changing stigmas, the guys share their feelings about what is different for them from sex in their 20s to sex as they approach 50 and beyond.
