In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke is back to broach the topic of sex after 50. As one of the hosts is approaching this milestone, Ed addresses and discusses the potential changes to one’s sex drive as they cross that age. From sexual health to sexual desire, listen as the guys boil down what you need to be aware of as you cross over that hill.
Show Topic
Landscape of Relationships: Sex After 50
Welcome to Your 50s!
Lots of people have healthy and active sexual lives at all stages of life. That being said, here are some aspects of your sexuality that MIGHT change.
Sexual Health
“The World Health Organization defines sexual health as a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity. Sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence.”
Regular doctors visits; talk to your doctor about your sexual health; bring a list of questions/comments/concerns helps
Colonoscopy and prostate cancer screenings
Maintain activity levels
Sexual Desire
We aren’t 16 anymore
Medical conditions, lifestyle, mood, hormone levels, medication
Spontaneous vs responsive desire
Possible adapt a sexual willingness mindframe
Erectile Dysfunction
Age doesn’t cause ED, but natural aging and illness can impact sexual response
ED is a biopsychosocial phenomenon with biological, physical, psychological, behavioral, emotional, and cognitive factors AS WELL AS identity, relationally (interpersonal and socially), and intimate factors.
Erections are not required for ejaculations or orgasms
Talk to your provider. Again, talk to your provider.
Medication and treatment options
Communication
”Adult sex is interpersonal” – McCarthy and Metz
Maintaining sexual intimacy is key; adapting a flexible sexual relationship
Creating
So remember,
Your sexual experience MAY change as you gets older
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to discuss the landscape of relationships. For this segment, the cubs go in depth on communication. From communication types and styles to learning some of the pitfalls of extreme words, listen as Edward guides the cubs on effective communication in all relationships.
Show Topic
The Landscape of Relationships – Communication
DISCLOSURE: Communication is important and vital in all relationships….not just open relationships. Duh.
Cognitive Triangle
Feelings: How we feel impacts how we think and how we act (No control)
Thoughts: How we think impacts how we feel and how we act (Mostly control)
Behaviors: How we behave impacts how we feel and how we think (Mostly control)
Communication Traps
Assumptions/Expectations
“Have you ever wondered, well I have, about how when I say, say red, for example, there’s no way of knowing, if red means the same thing in your head as red means in my head when someone says red.” – Matilda
In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon are serving all the drama, henny! Listen as the guys belt out their feelings as the All Stars form gurl groups and strut their stuff on some eleganza after dark. Plus, we spill some real tea on one of the queens. Which queen gets the platinum record and whose is the bargain bin?
Gia Gunn Gaggery:
[Damon] – Save the Drama for After Mama Ru
[Gary] – Dishing Up Drama
Girl Groups Challenge:
[Damon] – Music is Hard?
[Gary] – Teamwork versus Individuality
Runway:
[Damon] – Better Looks
[Gary] – Grand vs Grunt [Manila/Naomi vs Monique/Farrah]