In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another installment in the Let’s Talk About Kink series. This time around, one of the guys turns from interviewer to interviewee as Damon, Mr. Cincinnati Leather 2023, and Trayla Parks, Mx. Cincinnati Leather 2023, sit down to discuss their title win. As #twinners in an unprecedented set of circumstances, two titleholders were sashed. Listen in as Damon and Trayla speak on their experiences, ideas, and plans for the remainder of their title year.
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LTAK: Cincinnati Leather Titleholders 2023
Let’s talk about TWINNING! Last year in August, history was made in the Cincinnati Leather Contest when not one BUT two winners were announced. We’re excited to have both Damon and Trayla join us for an extra special interview show!
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another installment in the Let’s Talk About… series. Damon’s out on travel this week and we’re excited to have PupZeo return for a chat about the changes in recent years to events for LGBTQIA+ communities. From volunteerism and feedback to the challenges of feeding the masses, it’s time to line up and enjoy ample servings.
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LTA… The Future of Events
Since the inception of the leather, bear, and kink communities events have been a way for people to come together and share time and space to make memories. With over fifty years of events having occurred, a lot has changed the landscape. From the digital revolution to worldwide pandemics, now we’re looking at how things have evolved. But has it all been for the betterment of the experience for attendees? Are there areas that need work? What opportunities are there for the coming years of activities?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Kink. The guys are again joined by Tony aka Cubziz to discuss their experiences with visiting the Leather Archives and Museum located in Chicago, IL. From rotating exhibits to archiving the leather kink dynamic, listen in as the cubs give their thoughts on the relevance of this piece of queer history. With connections to many aspects of the LGBTQ+ community, find out more about what the LA&M has to offer to everyone; from established kinksters to the fresh-eyed “baby gays”.
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Let’s Talk About Kink: The Leather Archives and Museum
We’re joined once again by kinky boy Tony aka Cubziz for a chat about their experiences with visiting and supporting the Leather Archives and Museum in Chicago, IL.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this episode, the guys come together in the new year to discuss goals and accountability. As many begin each year making new year’s resolutions that they often never keep, listen in as Ed and the cubs break down the reasons why this may be a regular occurrence. From creating your goal roadmap to making yourself accountable for the roads you take, listen in as the guys give yet another perspective on the wandering journey of relationship building.
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Landscape of Relationships: Goals & Accountability
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke for another Let’s Talk About Sex. For this episode, the cubs “cum” together to discuss ejaculation and orgasms. The first thing to learn is that they are not the same thing. Listen in as Ed breaks it down from the scientific to the emotional and all that’s in between.
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Let’s Talk About Sex: Orgasm vs Ejaculation
This topic is going to be super straight forward, y’all….
Orgasm refers to the subjective experience of pleasure associated with ejaculation.
Ejaculation is the process of pushing the seminal fluids out of the verumontanum (“balloon”) inside the prostate through the urethra and out of the penis.
Usually these are experienced at the same time, however they are two different physiological processes.
Basically, ejaculation happens between your legs, and orgasm happens between your ears.
Human Sexual Response Cycle (Kaplan, 1974; Masters & Johnson, 1966)
Desire
Excitement (Arousal)
Plateau
Orgasm/Ejaculation
Satisfaction
The Journey to Ejaculation
Erection (brain, nervous system, vascular system leads to penile rigidity….this process is controlled by the parasympathetic nervous system…think “Point”)
Emission
Collection and transport of fluids that make up semen in preparation for ejaculation. Sperm travels from your testicles through the vas deferens, which meet at the prostate gland with the exiting your bladder to form your urethra tube. The urethra tube runs through the prostate gland and out through the penis. When we get an erection, the exit of the bladder closes (which it is why it is hard to pee in the morning when you have a hard on), your testicles are drawn up against your body, and semen collects in the verumontanum or the “balloon”, which is a balloonlike chamber inside the prostate gland. When someone gets so stimulated to the point of ejaculation, the verumontanum fills with semen to three times its size. The pressure triggers the ejaculatory inevitability sensation and then the reflex of ejaculation. Once we reach this point, there is no turning back, someone could walk in your room with gun’s ablazing, you are still going to shoot your load.
Ejaculation
Ejaculation does completely happen between your legs, your brain is involved too. When a critical level of nerve input from the verumontanum reaches the spinal cord, that triggers the ejaculatory response. The pelvic floor muscles play a role here too in contracting which helps in the pushing out of the semen. (This process is controlled by the sympathetic nervous system….think: s for shoot) Pro-tip: if you want to delay ejaculation, learn some relaxation pelvic floor exercises to use during sex.
What’s going on between our ears when we orgasm?
During sex, the logical part of our brain (the lateral orbitofrontal cortex) shuts down. This is the part of the brain that is responsible for reason, decision making, and value judgements. Also, likely why we might not always make the best choices when we are having sex. We are less likely to experience a decrease of fear and anxiety during this time.
Oxytocin and vasopresin, the “cuddle hormones” are building up, and are released out of the hypothalamus at the point of orgasm with a rush of dopamine, the “the feel good hormone”.
As we are revving up closer to orgasm, the mix of endorphins, oxytocin, and vasopressin, help to make us less sensitive to pain during sex (note to all you kink-folks out there). So, the same areas in our brain that process pleasure ALSO PROCESS PAIN THERE!
After we orgasm, the body releases serotonin, the happy hormones, which can also stimulate a sense to take a nap.
Questions:
What are some common problems men face during sex?
What are some other questions you guys want to ask me?
Final take-aways: Erection is not needed for orgasm; ejaculation is not required for orgasm; ejaculation and orgasm are not required for a positive sexual experience.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another installment in the Let’s Talk About Kink series. This time around, one of the guys turns from interviewer to interviewee as Damon, Mr. Cincinnati Leather 2023, and Trayla Parks, Mx. Cincinnati Leather 2023, sit down to discuss their title win. As #twinners in an unprecedented set of circumstances, two titleholders were sashed. Listen in as Damon and Trayla speak on their experiences, ideas, and plans for the remainder of their title year.
