In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, believe it or not – we have a new On the Road show! After a multi-year hiatus [thanks COVID *sarcastic*], Damon and Gary report from Orlando Florida on their experiences at World Bear Weekend 2022. Let’s just say things did not go as planned. From delayed flights to bears sweatin’ in the heat.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys turn back time and examine their nostalgia. As adults that grew up in the 80s and 90s, the cubs debate if their childhood is being marketed to them as a grab for their wallets. From revamping classic cartoons to throwing 80s designs on t-shirts, listen in as the guys give their thoughts on the influence of these nostalgia trips and wonder if the current world climate is the reason why they want to bring back memories of childhood happiness.
Show Topic
Nostalgia For Sale?
As adults that grew up in the 80s and 90s, is our childhood being marketed to us as a grab for our wallets? Is the world environment with heightened anxiety and stress giving us more reason to buy up things that bring back memories of childhood happiness?
nostalgia: def. a sentimental longing or wistful affection for the past, typically for a period or place with happy personal associations.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this episode, the guys discuss the often dreaded in-laws. As media seems to make it seem that most straight couples have to deal with their in-laws and spouse’s families, the cubs review how this translates into the relationships of the LGBTQ+ community. Are they really that different or can similar tactics, communication and boundaries help ease the potential tension?
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Landscape of Relationships: In-Laws
Lots of research and media about how in-law relationships are really difficult. That may be the case as some research out there says 3 out of 4 couples have difficult relationships with heterosexual in-laws. Is that the case with same-sex relationships?
Every family is different with a different rulebook that has been in creation for possibly generations.
Possibility for conflictual interactions, difficult pasts, and crunchy presents.
BOUNDARIES!!!!!
Know your values
Stay true to you.
Brene Brown’s BRAVING…specifically the Generosity part.
Keep those conflict skills in check.
LGBT in-laws (2019) 400 interviews from children in law who identified as gay or lesbian. Describe relationship with same sex in law parent.
Many of those interviewed struggled with acceptance by one or both of their parents-in-law.
Relationships usually improved with time
While parents-in-law became increasingly accepting, there was often someone else in the family who was not accepting
Acceptance by the mothers-in-law, according to the daughters-in-law, came as more of their friends and social circle either had children who were lesbian or gay, or their friends and social circle became more socially aware.
Feelings of ambivalence toward family members are typical.
Be the subject of your life, not the object.
You become an adult child the moment you set boundaries with your family (and in-laws).
What do YOU want to do with your partner in relation to each other’s families?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to discuss the landscape of relationships. For this segment, the cubs go in depth on communication. From communication types and styles to learning some of the pitfalls of extreme words, listen as Edward guides the cubs on effective communication in all relationships.
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The Landscape of Relationships – Communication
DISCLOSURE: Communication is important and vital in all relationships….not just open relationships. Duh.
Cognitive Triangle
Feelings: How we feel impacts how we think and how we act (No control)
Thoughts: How we think impacts how we feel and how we act (Mostly control)
Behaviors: How we behave impacts how we feel and how we think (Mostly control)
Communication Traps
Assumptions/Expectations
“Have you ever wondered, well I have, about how when I say, say red, for example, there’s no way of knowing, if red means the same thing in your head as red means in my head when someone says red.” – Matilda
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys present their next installment of the “What is…” series. For this installation, the cubs talk about being confident. The guys spend some time airing out their definitions of confidence and discussing what it means to them. Is confidence sexy? Where is the line between confidence and arrogance?
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What is. . . Confidence?
Is confidence something we work on projecting? How do we see confidence in others? How sexy is confidence?