In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon wrap up the All Stars All Winners season! As the legends show off their Charisma, Uniqueness, Nerve and especially Talent in a variety show eleganza AND a lip sync smackdown for the queen, find out which gurl is crowned the QUEEN OF ALL QUEENS. Listen in as the guys share their thoughts as we finally reach the end of this legendary journey.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this installment, the cubs share their thoughts on FWBs, otherwise known as friends with benefits. What are the building blocks of this type of relationship and how do you make it work? And, what exactly are the benefits?
Show Topic
Landscape of Relationships: Friends With Benefits
Is a friendship a relationship????
Thoughts?
Many cultures define friendships as a very important relationship
LGBTQ community- “chosen family”
Atlantic 2020 article that discussed the cultural and historical importances of friendships
A set of societal expectations for intimate relationships. Partners follow a set of progressive set of steps, each with clear markers, with a goal in mind.
In 2017, 171 University of Denver students (more women than men) were surveyed on sexual satisfaction, commitment and trust of FWB relationships
Big takeaways? *drumroll please* communication and setting healthy boundaries
They found sexual satisfaction was important but so was sacrificing for the good of the partner, and not looking for the next best thing.
Why? Lots of research is looking at young adults who are in school. Romantic relationships are oftentimes an added stressor that takes away from studying. Some students opt for FWB arrangements to reduce overall stress.
FWBs are supposed to decrease pressure, not add pressure.
You need to be friends in order to call it a FWB. Those take time, trust, shared history, etc.
Must be mutually beneficial and convenient
If the FWB ends, you are allowed to be upset.
“It’s confusing to try to develop friendship founded on a sexual relationship guided by a rule system that has to be invented as you go. Or, when you’re trying to force a friendship so that you can add sex as a benefit, where does the friendship part fit in? That’s putting the benefits before the friendship.”
“Sexual exploration can and often does become a part of an existing friendship between consenting people. Or you may have been in a romantic and/or sexual relationship with this person earlier in your life, but now it’s morphed into a friendship. In such circumstances, the sexual connection may remain, or may be reintroduced. But the common thread is the history between you, the investment you share in the friendship, and the trust that has formed. You recognize that you both enjoy the chemistry, but that you may not be as compatible emotionally as you are sexually. It’s a mutually understood experience. The connection you have as friends determines whether this time in your life and in your relationship is right to be sharing benefits.”
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. This time the guys discuss trust. For this first part, the guys begin to break down the anatomy of trust. From the romantic to the familial, Ed leads the cubs through the initial tenets as they begin to break down what trust truly is.
Show Topic
Landscape of Relationships: Trust
What is trust?
“Trust is choosing to make something important to you vulnerable to the actions of someone else” – Charles Feldman
“Mistrust is what I shared with you that is important to me is not safe with you.” – Charles Feldman
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, Let’s Talk About Sex! The guys are joined by resident Sex Therapist Edward Angelini-Cooke to discuss “sides”. You know of tops, bottoms, and versatiles; but do you know about sides? Listen in as the cubs define this role in the MSM community and what it means in the sexual spectrum.
Show Topic
Sides
Definition?
Joe Kort developed the term in 2013 after not engaging in anal intercourse and feeling frustrated answering the “top or bottom” question. “Can I be a side?”
A side is typically a man who has sex with another man (MSM) who does not engage in anal intercourse or penetration as it is not part of their erotic orientation. Erotic orientation reflects your sexual fantasies, desires, and sexual behaviors.
Self-labels (labels used to describe anal sex behaviors….or does it):
Top
Bottom
Versatile
What if you don’t fit into any of those groups? shame…guilt….FOMO…et al.
In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, we have made it to the finale! FINALLY!! Gary and Damon give their thoughts one last time as the Top 3 All Stars sing, dance, and sashay their way to the grand prize. What interesting twists and turns await them before they cross the finish line into the Drag Race Hall of Fame?
WEEKLY TOPIC
RuPaul’s Drag Race All Stars Season 5
Put the Pedal to the Metal:
Clap Back Music Video Performance
[Damon] – Some Good Moves, but One Outshined
[Gary] – Unfair Comparison aka I Agree with Vixen
Stomp the Runway:
Category Is…All Star Eleganza
[Damon] – “Best Runway Ever” Hmmm
[Gary] – Some Killer Presentations
Lip Sync for the Crown:
Lipsync For The Crown: “Make Me Feel” by Janelle Monae
[Damon] – Each Took It Differently, and I’m Not Hating That
In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon wrap up the All Stars All Winners season! As the legends show off their Charisma, Uniqueness, Nerve and especially Talent in a variety show eleganza AND a lip sync smackdown for the queen, find out which gurl is crowned the QUEEN OF ALL QUEENS. Listen in as the guys share their thoughts as we finally reach the end of this legendary journey.
