In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, Let’s Talk About Sex! The guys are joined by resident Sex Therapist Edward Angelini-Cooke to discuss “sides”. You know of tops, bottoms, and versatiles; but do you know about sides? Listen in as the cubs define this role in the MSM community and what it means in the sexual spectrum.
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Sides
Definition?
Joe Kort developed the term in 2013 after not engaging in anal intercourse and feeling frustrated answering the “top or bottom” question. “Can I be a side?”
A side is typically a man who has sex with another man (MSM) who does not engage in anal intercourse or penetration as it is not part of their erotic orientation. Erotic orientation reflects your sexual fantasies, desires, and sexual behaviors.
Self-labels (labels used to describe anal sex behaviors….or does it):
Top
Bottom
Versatile
What if you don’t fit into any of those groups? shame…guilt….FOMO…et al.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys present another All T, No Shade! This time around, the cubs discuss the recent fall of “pedestal level” celebrities due to their actions and beliefs both on and offline. Possibly attributed to social media spreading information faster, famous people are being canceled. Listen in as the guys discuss some recent “victims” of cancel culture and share their opinions and observations on its effect throughout society at large.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys present their next installment of the “What is…” series. For this installation, the cubs talk about being confident. The guys spend some time airing out their definitions of confidence and discussing what it means to them. Is confidence sexy? Where is the line between confidence and arrogance?
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What is. . . Confidence?
Is confidence something we work on projecting? How do we see confidence in others? How sexy is confidence?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys present their next installment of the “What is…” series. After COL508, where the cubs talked about self-love, this time they’re talking about the opposite: self-hatred. What does self-hate involve? Can you truly love yourself and still knock other people down?
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What is…Self-Hatred?
Discussion of what ‘Self-Hatred’ encompasses. Does the LGB community truly hate itself? Are our own micro aggressions ways of inflicting self-hatred? Can we talk about ‘love’ and still beat ourselves and others down? And what if you just don’t care? Is that self-hatred?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another Let’s Talk About Sex! For this topic, we start the discussion about playspace etiquette. Listen in as we give the dos and don’ts about your favorite back bar space, dark room, bathhouse, frolic and mingle rooms. So, should you enter a playroom chatting on your cellphone while eating a plate of nachos?
Chester: Apt Approved, packing, and Evan’s first drive-in
Gary: July is here!
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Ches Clark SHOW NOTE [re: COL421]: I realized after the fact that I didn’t get in the whole story about my birthday dinner. (I think I cut myself off because I felt like I was monopolizing and rambling on.) That being said, I wanted to make a small addendum, especially given that I was giving someone who wasn’t present to defend himself a bit of a hard time. Brady *did* sincerely apologize for initiating the song and spectacle debacle as part of owning up to it, and had no idea beforehand that I was so vehemently opposed to that sort of public display. He truly did feel terrible about it afterward, but I was just in no mood to hear it at the time. He was just trying to be playful and funny, and so for those who might be worried about him getting “two black marks in my little book,” have no fear–most of that accounting business is tongue-in-cheek. Brady and I are very much okay with each other. Cheers!
Re: COL421: Greg Ballard I would love to do a co host spot someday. Love this channel! Watching right now!
I’m looking for some movie recommendations! I’m after a movie featuring the bear/chub community. Romantic, drama, comedy – all work. Not looking for a porn flick but sex scenes are fine. I’ve heard BearCity might be a good place to start. What are some others? Maybe some ideas on the next @cubsoutloud? Thanks Tumblr folks!
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Wish I could have stayed for more of the live stream. You miss so many of Gary’s faces on the podcast version. Great list of some Pride documentaries to watch – check the show notes.
FirstRonin in re: to COLSP06: Daddy’s Day Storytime 2017 directed to Hadrian…
I just want to say that you have an amazing voice! No matter what you’re reading or saying, you make me melt a little.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, Let’s Talk About Sex! The guys are joined by resident Sex Therapist Edward Angelini-Cooke to discuss “sides”. You know of tops, bottoms, and versatiles; but do you know about sides? Listen in as the cubs define this role in the MSM community and what it means in the sexual spectrum.
