In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon return along with the queens as this season takes its final lap around the track. From a top 4 to a top 3 to all 16 queens reuniting, it’s bound to be a book you’ll never wanna put down. Listen in as the guys critique and we find out which queen takes the ultimate crown. The blessing of Ru is almost upon us again.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another installment in the Let’s Talk About… series. Damon’s away spreading love and affirmations at the 2024 Virginia Bear Contest Weekend. Jeff and Gary have a nice chat about what they’ve discovered in becoming grown ups including lessons learned. Speaking of, there was a bit of an oops in this show. Let’s just say this is pretty much a one-sided conversation. Listen in as Gary gives his views on adulting.
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LTA… Adulting
With the passage of time, as cubs of a certain age, we’ve had to deal with some things that came along our paths that we weren’t exactly prepared for in our youth. In recent years we’ve discussed the desire for aging cubs to relive their youth. Has adulting been too stressful? Is getting older not so enjoyable? Are there any shining moments we recall from being adults and on our own?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke for another Let’s Talk About Sex. For this episode, the cubs “cum” together to discuss ejaculation and orgasms. The first thing to learn is that they are not the same thing. Listen in as Ed breaks it down from the scientific to the emotional and all that’s in between.
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Let’s Talk About Sex: Orgasm vs Ejaculation
This topic is going to be super straight forward, y’all….
Orgasm refers to the subjective experience of pleasure associated with ejaculation.
Ejaculation is the process of pushing the seminal fluids out of the verumontanum (“balloon”) inside the prostate through the urethra and out of the penis.
Usually these are experienced at the same time, however they are two different physiological processes.
Basically, ejaculation happens between your legs, and orgasm happens between your ears.
Human Sexual Response Cycle (Kaplan, 1974; Masters & Johnson, 1966)
Desire
Excitement (Arousal)
Plateau
Orgasm/Ejaculation
Satisfaction
The Journey to Ejaculation
Erection (brain, nervous system, vascular system leads to penile rigidity….this process is controlled by the parasympathetic nervous system…think “Point”)
Emission
Collection and transport of fluids that make up semen in preparation for ejaculation. Sperm travels from your testicles through the vas deferens, which meet at the prostate gland with the exiting your bladder to form your urethra tube. The urethra tube runs through the prostate gland and out through the penis. When we get an erection, the exit of the bladder closes (which it is why it is hard to pee in the morning when you have a hard on), your testicles are drawn up against your body, and semen collects in the verumontanum or the “balloon”, which is a balloonlike chamber inside the prostate gland. When someone gets so stimulated to the point of ejaculation, the verumontanum fills with semen to three times its size. The pressure triggers the ejaculatory inevitability sensation and then the reflex of ejaculation. Once we reach this point, there is no turning back, someone could walk in your room with gun’s ablazing, you are still going to shoot your load.
Ejaculation
Ejaculation does completely happen between your legs, your brain is involved too. When a critical level of nerve input from the verumontanum reaches the spinal cord, that triggers the ejaculatory response. The pelvic floor muscles play a role here too in contracting which helps in the pushing out of the semen. (This process is controlled by the sympathetic nervous system….think: s for shoot) Pro-tip: if you want to delay ejaculation, learn some relaxation pelvic floor exercises to use during sex.
What’s going on between our ears when we orgasm?
During sex, the logical part of our brain (the lateral orbitofrontal cortex) shuts down. This is the part of the brain that is responsible for reason, decision making, and value judgements. Also, likely why we might not always make the best choices when we are having sex. We are less likely to experience a decrease of fear and anxiety during this time.
Oxytocin and vasopresin, the “cuddle hormones” are building up, and are released out of the hypothalamus at the point of orgasm with a rush of dopamine, the “the feel good hormone”.
As we are revving up closer to orgasm, the mix of endorphins, oxytocin, and vasopressin, help to make us less sensitive to pain during sex (note to all you kink-folks out there). So, the same areas in our brain that process pleasure ALSO PROCESS PAIN THERE!
After we orgasm, the body releases serotonin, the happy hormones, which can also stimulate a sense to take a nap.
Questions:
What are some common problems men face during sex?
What are some other questions you guys want to ask me?
Final take-aways: Erection is not needed for orgasm; ejaculation is not required for orgasm; ejaculation and orgasm are not required for a positive sexual experience.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of September. This month, it’s another gentle reminder that there is still a pandemic going on. Listen in as the cubs share their opening up to friends and also having to quarantine after exposure. Plus, lots of super sentai, more COVID-19 talk, and enjoying the COL Entourage being master debaters.
Re: COL B&D008: On the Road Pt 2 – Oan R. commented: “Another good name for this would be Bear Dens & Dragons.”
Re: COL571: ATNS: Pedestal 2 Cancel – dindin mooshi commented: “i didn’t like this episode, cancel culture is not a real thing because it’s doesn’t apply to melanin deficient ppl.”
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs bring back a forgotten topic thread from their history. Grab your teacups as it’s time for another All T, No Shade show! As we approach the halfway point of the year 2020, the cubs spill the tea on the hell of a ride it has been so far. From the coronavirus causing Pride celebrations to become virtual parades to the bringing of the racial and systemic issues in the US, listen as the guys have a no holds barred, frank discussion on the half-year of unprecedented circumstances.
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2020 isn’t even half way over just yet and it’s been a helluva ride so far. We talk about the changing face of Pride during COVID-19. From Virtual Pride to Black Lives Matter, nobody’s 2020 bingo card could have prepared us for this.
In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon return along with the queens as this season takes its final lap around the track. From a top 4 to a top 3 to all 16 queens reuniting, it’s bound to be a book you’ll never wanna put down. Listen in as the guys critique and we find out which queen takes the ultimate crown. The blessing of Ru is almost upon us again.
