barriers | Cubs Out Loud – The Bear Podcast of Indeterminate Length

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this episode, the guys come together in the new year to discuss goals and accountability. As many begin each year making new year’s resolutions that they often never keep, listen in as Ed and the cubs break down the reasons why this may be a regular occurrence. From creating your goal roadmap to making yourself accountable for the roads you take, listen in as the guys give yet another perspective on the wandering journey of relationship building.

Show Topic

Landscape of Relationships: Goals & Accountability

New Years resolutions

goals focused living versus values focused living
Values vs Goals – By Dr. Russ Harris

The Hobbit and LOTR “The Road Goes Ever On”

The Road goes ever on and on,

Down from the door where it began.

Now far ahead the Road has gone,

And I must follow, if I can,

Pursuing it with eager feet,

Until it joins some larger way

Where many paths and errands meet.

And whither then? I cannot say.

Gotta know what “The Road” or our values are.

Values List

Four Domains

Work/Education
Relationships
Leisure
Personal Health and Wellness

Translating Values into Goals – “Be a mapmaker”

Chose three guiding values
SMART goals (Specific, Meaningful, Adaptive, Realistic, Timely)
Immediate (24 hours), Short Term, Medium-Term goals, Long-Term goals
Living Goals vs Dead Person Goals
Make sure you are heading in the right direction. Ex. downhill skiing
Expected barriers

Accountability

We are ultimately responsible for our actions
We get to be accountable to the goals we set for ourselves and the map that we make.
Feelings, situations, emotions, urges, memories are going to happen. Make sure you have the needed resources.
Be mindful of avoidance and unhelpful sticky thought patterns
Be willing to address unhelpful patterns
Remember: you can always change your course, but at what and whose expense? Honor your values and your commitments
Let someone know your goals and work towards shared accountability.
Feeling guilty? Good. You have values.
Remember, not all those who wander are lost. Keep going.
Progress is not always a straight line.