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COL694: LTAS: Masturbation (Day)

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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About Sex. This time around, the cubs are coming back to a topic that was previously discussed several years ago: Masturbation. As it’s National Masturbation Day and International Masturbation Month, the guys get hands on letting you all know how they spank the monkey. From self-love to gooning and all that’s in between, find out more about the healthy and unhealthy ways to seek self-pleasure.

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LTAS: Masturbation (Day)

That’s right, a national holiday has arrived and it begs the question, how did you celebrate? This time around we discuss the day in the US dedicated to ‘self-care’, as well as the International Day coming up in a few weeks and the ENTIRE MONTH for our own health and wellness. From throwbacks in COL350 to now, let’s just say the hosts have put in some research first hand on today’s topic.

UrbanDictionary – Gooning

 

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COL636: LoR: Love Languages

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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this episode, the guys show how they feel the love within the five love languages. From learning what the languages are to sharing their results, listen in as the guys gift us some touching acts of quality words to help understand how these languages affirm the love and affection one can feel for their loved ones. In addition, learn more about more recent developments in the love languages from neurodivergent to kink play dynamics.

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Landscape of Relationships: Love Languages

Love Languages (Gary Chapman):

  1. Words of Affirmation 
  2. Quality Time
  3. Acts of Service 
  4. Gifts
  5. Physical Touch 

The 5 Love Languages (according to Britney, Bitch!):

  • Physical Touch: My loneliness is killing me
  • Words of Affirmation: I must confess I still believe
  • Quality Time: When I’m not with you I lose my mind
  • Give Giving: Give me a sign
  • Acts of Service: Hit me baby one more time

The 5 Neurodivergent Love Languages:

  • Infodumping
  • Parallel Play
  • Support Swapping
  • Please Crush My Soul Back into My Body
  • “I found this cool rock/button/leaf/etc and thought you would like it”

Comparison of Results:

Gary Chapman, PhD, 1992, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts 

Fear not: John Gottman and the Gottman approach, which I reference often, is a good overlap with the 5 languages of love….and allows some flexibility with the concepts.

BDSM and Love Languages  

Have Fun With It

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COL632: LoR: Goals & Accountability

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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this episode, the guys come together in the new year to discuss goals and accountability. As many begin each year making new year’s resolutions that they often never keep,  listen in as Ed and the cubs break down the reasons why this may be a regular occurrence. From creating your goal roadmap to making yourself accountable for the roads you take, listen in as the guys give yet another perspective on the wandering journey of relationship building.

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Landscape of Relationships: Goals & Accountability

New Years resolutions

The Hobbit and LOTR “The Road Goes Ever On”

The Road goes ever on and on,

Down from the door where it began.

Now far ahead the Road has gone,

And I must follow, if I can,

Pursuing it with eager feet,

Until it joins some larger way

Where many paths and errands meet.

And whither then? I cannot say.

  • Gotta know what “The Road” or our values are.  

Values List 

Four Domains 

  • Work/Education 
  • Relationships
  • Leisure 
  • Personal Health and Wellness 

Translating Values into Goals – “Be a mapmaker”

  • Chose three guiding values 
  • SMART goals (Specific, Meaningful, Adaptive, Realistic, Timely)
  • Immediate (24 hours), Short Term, Medium-Term goals, Long-Term goals
  • Living Goals vs Dead Person Goals
  • Make sure you are heading in the right direction.  Ex. downhill skiing
  • Expected barriers 

Accountability 

  • We are ultimately responsible for our actions 
  • We get to be accountable to the goals we set for ourselves and the map that we make.
  • Feelings, situations, emotions, urges, memories are going to happen.  Make sure you have the needed resources.
  • Be mindful of avoidance and unhelpful sticky thought patterns
  • Be willing to address unhelpful patterns
  • Remember: you can always change your course, but at what and whose expense?  Honor your values and your commitments 
  • Let someone know your goals and work towards shared accountability.
  • Feeling guilty?  Good. You have values. 
  • Remember, not all those who wander are lost. Keep going.  
  • Progress is not always a straight line.  

 

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COL432: Summer Hits ’17

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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs celebrate the end of summer with another Summer Hits show. The guys humbly present to you our wild thoughts on some unforgettable hits. Are the guys believers in these songs and providing congratulations or will they tell them to hit the back road?

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What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Star Trekin’
  • Damon: Ginger Minj!!
  • Chester: Life Sucks but I at least I’m enjoying my job.
  • Gary: Work is work, DF14 planning begins, Cincy again!

Did I Do That?

Jeff: Paw’d toe

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In Person Feedback:

  • Met James in Lexington last night!

Facebook Comment/Post:

  • COL427: LTAK: Flogging – Ches Clark A pal said we look like a K-pop group. 

  • COL430: Labor Gays – Henry Mazade Sometimes a man in a suit will turn my head especially if his pants are real tight and you can see an outline of his goods. Working in home improvement I always enjoyed contractors who would come in with holes in their pants at the right spots or they come in commando showing the head of their cock. Always a good time for drooling. Great for fantasies
    • Tony Bossaller In general, the uniform is what it portrays in a guy. I’ve seen some blue collar and white collar which are both awesome.  Blue collar just tends to be a big snug. White collar can be made tailored to be even moreso.
    • Jeremiah Adams Blue collar.
    • Pugsley Michael Urness Oh yes. An average guy in a military uniform is much more likely to get my gaze..
  • COL431: OTR: Amusement Park – Cisco Salgado I will definitely watch later. Now, we are celebrating our wedding anniversary. Hugs for all the cubs.
    • Chester Beltowski We had some technical difficulties with the sound, but eventually it got ironed out. -chester
    • Cisco Salgado No wonder! I started watching but couldn’t hear anything and then we started brunching. I’m glad it got fixed

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  • GBearTrekker65: @cubsoutloud The Twitter link @WoodsCampground is indeed where Bear City 3 was filmed. I was there the Saturday they showed it by the pool.

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Billboards Summer Songs ‘17

The summer’s most popular songs across all, based on cumulative performance on the weekly Billboard Hot 100 chart from Memorial Day through Labor Day. Rankings are determined by radio airplay audience impressions as measured by Nielsen BDS, sales data as compiled by Nielsen and streaming activity data from online music sources tracked by Nielsen BDS.

  1. Despacito – Luis Fonsi & Daddy Yankee Featuring Justin Bieber
  2. That’s What I Like – Bruno Mars
  3. I’m The One – DJ Khaled Featuring Justin Bieber, Quavo, Chance The Rapper & Lil Wayne
  4. Wild Thoughts – DJ Khaled Featuring Rihanna & Bryson Tiller
  5. Shape Of You – Ed Sheeran
  6. Believer – Imagine Dragons
  7. HUMBLE. – Kendrick Lamar
  8. Unforgettable – French Montana Featuring Swae Lee
  9. Body Like A Back Road – Sam Hunt
  10. Congratulations – Post Malone Featuring Quavo

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