In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke is back to broach the topic of sex after 50. As one of the hosts is approaching this milestone, Ed addresses and discusses the potential changes to one’s sex drive as they cross that age. From sexual health to sexual desire, listen as the guys boil down what you need to be aware of as you cross over that hill.
Show Topic
Landscape of Relationships: Sex After 50
Welcome to Your 50s!
Lots of people have healthy and active sexual lives at all stages of life. That being said, here are some aspects of your sexuality that MIGHT change.
Sexual Health
- “The World Health Organization defines sexual health as a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity. Sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence.”
- Regular doctors visits; talk to your doctor about your sexual health; bring a list of questions/comments/concerns helps
- Colonoscopy and prostate cancer screenings
- Maintain activity levels
Sexual Desire
- We aren’t 16 anymore
- Medical conditions, lifestyle, mood, hormone levels, medication
- Spontaneous vs responsive desire
- Possible adapt a sexual willingness mindframe
Erectile Dysfunction
- Age doesn’t cause ED, but natural aging and illness can impact sexual response
- ED is a biopsychosocial phenomenon with biological, physical, psychological, behavioral, emotional, and cognitive factors AS WELL AS identity, relationally (interpersonal and socially), and intimate factors.
- Erections are not required for ejaculations or orgasms
- Talk to your provider. Again, talk to your provider.
- Medication and treatment options
Communication
- ”Adult sex is interpersonal” – McCarthy and Metz
- Maintaining sexual intimacy is key; adapting a flexible sexual relationship
- Creating
So remember,
- Your sexual experience MAY change as you gets older
References
- Coping with Erectile Dysfunction and Enjoy Great Sex
- AASECT – Directory for Sex Therapists and Counselors
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