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COL647: Consent in 2022

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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys return to a previous topic. It’s been almost five years since they produced episodes on Consent and Respect. So here in 2022, a number of years later, it’s time to revisit this important conversation. Since the COVID-19 pandemic, it seems that people are living their most bold lives when it comes to opinions and actions. The US political landscape is looking divisive between the majority conservative and progressive parties. How much do the cubs think the practice of recognizing and giving consent plays a factor outside of kink and sexual activities? Have any of their thoughts changed in the years since the previous debate?

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Consent in 2022

Con·sent   /kənˈsent/

  • Noun
      • noun: consent; plural noun: consents
      • permission for something to happen or agreement to do something.
  • Verb
    • verb: consent; 3rd person present: consents; past tense: consented; past participle: consented; gerund or present participle: consenting
    • give permission for something to happen.
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COL624: LoR: Unfriending

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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this episode, the guys discuss the topic of unfriending. Whether it be friends, family or “framily”, there are situations which may require a need to remove people from your lives. Listen in as the cubs share some advice on when, how and who should be unfriended.

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Landscape of Relationships: Unfriending

  • Top 8
  • Close Friends
  • Feed
  • Limited Feed
  • Unfollow 
  • Block

Parents – MyCounselor article – Healthy Relationships with Adult Children 

  • This comes from a Christian counseling website  
  • Look at this like a checklist to see if you have them 
  • Setting expectations of how you are to be treated is HUGE.  
  • Check out the boundaries podcast 
  • Think of boundaries like the rules of D&D

Friends – Psychology Today: 13 Essential Traits of Good Friends 

This is a great article on using yourself as a reference point to assess your friendships with others. (If we want honesty from others we have to make sure we are honest.)

  • Advice my Mom gave me growing up that I didn’t always take, “stick with the winners.”  I have adapted it to, “Stay close to the ones who know where they are headed.” I don’t like the winners/losers dichotomy, but it has the same idea. 
  • Like D&D, be mindful about who you party with. 

Friends and Family – Personal Excellence article – Unsupportive People 

  • Don’t go to the hardware store for bread. 
  • Find out where the hardware store is.
  • If I’m out of life, unless I have someone on my party who has regeneration….I need to get it from someone else.
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COL422: LTAS: Playspace Etiquette

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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud,  it’s another Let’s Talk About Sex! For this topic, we start the discussion about playspace etiquette. Listen in as we give the dos and don’ts about your favorite back bar space, dark room, bathhouse, frolic and mingle rooms. So, should you enter a playroom chatting on your cellphone while eating a plate of nachos?

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What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Back in Action/W Bear
  • Damon: Glamping Trip
  • Chester: Apt Approved, packing, and Evan’s first drive-in
  • Gary: July is here!

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  • Ches Clark SHOW NOTE [re: COL421]: I realized after the fact that I didn’t get in the whole story about my birthday dinner. (I think I cut myself off because I felt like I was monopolizing and rambling on.) That being said, I wanted to make a small addendum, especially given that I was giving someone who wasn’t present to defend himself a bit of a hard time. Brady *did* sincerely apologize for initiating the song and spectacle debacle as part of owning up to it, and had no idea beforehand that I was so vehemently opposed to that sort of public display. He truly did feel terrible about it afterward, but I was just in no mood to hear it at the time. He was just trying to be playful and funny, and so for those who might be worried about him getting “two black marks in my little book,” have no fear–most of that accounting business is tongue-in-cheek. Brady and I are very much okay with each other. Cheers!
  • Re: COL421: Greg Ballard I would love to do a co host spot someday. Love this channel! Watching right now!

 

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    • I’m looking for some movie recommendations! I’m after a movie featuring the bear/chub community. Romantic, drama, comedy – all work. Not looking for a porn flick but sex scenes are fine. I’ve heard BearCity might be a good place to start. What are some others? Maybe some ideas on the next @cubsoutloud? Thanks Tumblr folks!
  • Rotundaplomb in re: to COL420: State of the Community 2017
    • Wish I could have stayed for more of the live stream. You miss so many of Gary’s faces on the podcast version. Great list of some Pride documentaries to watch – check the show notes.
  • FirstRonin in re: to COLSP06: Daddy’s Day Storytime 2017 directed to Hadrian…
    • I just want to say that you have an amazing voice! No matter what you’re reading or saying, you make me melt a little.
  • NE-Plus-Ultra-Bears in re: to COLSP06: Daddy’s Day Storytime 2017
    • Now that’s what I call a late Sunday night delight!!

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Article from Bear World Magazine website interview re: the W Bear app

Let’s Talk About Sex: Playspace Etiquette

  • You may/will be seen/watched – not possible to be invisible
  • Always be respectful
  • Consent needs to be given, whether subtle or pronounced
  • You know what is best for yourself, not anyone else
  • Keep safety in mind, yours and everyone else’s
  • Be courteous to others in the space
  • Prepare yourself; mentally and physically

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COL354: Mr. North American Bear 2016

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RaymondSmithIn this episode of Cubs Out Loud, we have an exclusive interview with Ray Smith, the holder of the 2016 Mr. North American Bear title. Coming fresh off his win from NAB, Ray gives us some insight into the weekend, his life, and his plans for the title. So, join in as we talk with this sexy ginger.

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What’s Going On?

  • Jeff – New Chair and on the Job
  • Damon – Work Sucks
  • Gary – Post KY Life
  • Ray – Winning a title

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  • Chester Beltowski: Show idea… So I’m in the shower, lathering up my naked body, running my fingers through my luscious beard, and thinking about how full my schedule is once I return to the US (on Feb 29), and I realized I need to pick up some Vitamin C. Why? you ask… Because right after I get home, I head to my first bear run of the year, Fur Flee. I then thought, this would make a great topic for COL. I know our good friend Ches has mentioned that he has a pre-run regiment for warding off Kennel Cough aka bear flu. So why not have a show about the dos and don’ts of staying healthy at before, during, and after a bear run.

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Urbandictionary with Gary

  • titleitis: the overwhelming compulsion to have a title, any title, while failing to live up to the standard of that title.

    John’s breath reeks of titleitis – he sounds like some self-important schmuck since he became club treasurer. He still can’t balance the check book.

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Interview with Ray Smith, the newly titled Mr. North American Bear 2016 from Louisville, KY

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