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COL624: LoR: Unfriending

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this episode, the guys discuss the topic of unfriending. Whether it be friends, family or “framily”, there are situations which may require a need to remove people from your lives. Listen in as the cubs share some advice on when, how and who should be unfriended.

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Landscape of Relationships: Unfriending

  • Top 8
  • Close Friends
  • Feed
  • Limited Feed
  • Unfollow 
  • Block

ParentsMyCounselor article – Healthy Relationships with Adult Children 

  • This comes from a Christian counseling website  
  • Look at this like a checklist to see if you have them 
  • Setting expectations of how you are to be treated is HUGE.  
  • Check out the boundaries podcast 
  • Think of boundaries like the rules of D&D

FriendsPsychology Today: 13 Essential Traits of Good Friends 

This is a great article on using yourself as a reference point to assess your friendships with others. (If we want honesty from others we have to make sure we are honest.)

  • Advice my Mom gave me growing up that I didn’t always take, “stick with the winners.”  I have adapted it to, “Stay close to the ones who know where they are headed.” I don’t like the winners/losers dichotomy, but it has the same idea. 
  • Like D&D, be mindful about who you party with. 

Friends and Family – Personal Excellence article – Unsupportive People 

  • Don’t go to the hardware store for bread. 
  • Find out where the hardware store is.
  • If I’m out of life, unless I have someone on my party who has regeneration….I need to get it from someone else.
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COL595: Landscape of Relationships: Trust Part 1

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. This time the guys discuss trust. For this first part, the guys begin to break down the anatomy of trust. From the romantic to the familial, Ed leads the cubs through the initial tenets as they begin to break down what trust truly is.

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Landscape of Relationships: Trust

  • What is trust?

“Trust is choosing to make something important to you vulnerable to the actions of someone else” – Charles Feldman

“Mistrust is what I shared with you that is important to me is not safe with you.” – Charles Feldman 

Vault -”Common enemy intimacy”

Brené Brown: Anatomy of Trust

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COLDR: AS5E02: I’m In Love!

In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon are back after technical difficulties delayed recording. For this one, the All-Stars book it to some epic hotel suites and then give us THREE runway lewks in one! It’s a suitcase full of fun, so listen in as the guys unpack their thoughts.

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RuPaul’s Drag Race All Stars Season 5

Put the Pedal to the Metal:

“Shantay Enjoy Your Stay” All Stars Ru-tique Experience

  • [Damon] – Remodel Shenanigans 
  • [Gary] – Lamé-hem, Club96 was better

Stomp the Runway:

Three in One Looks

  • [Damon] – Some Great Lewks
  • [Gary] – Some wowzers and some huhs?

Lip Sync for Your Legacy:

  • Bottom Two, Uh Three:  India Ferrah, Mariah Paris Balenciaga, and Shea Couleé
  • The Top Queen is. . . Jujubee
  • The Lip Sync Assassin is. . . Monét X Change

“Juice” by Lizzo

  • [Damon] – A Little Surprised
  • [Gary] – Something strange was going on

Monét X Change assassinates and Mariah sashays away

Snaps & Eyerolls:

What was a high point and low point for you

  • [Damon] – Snaps for… India’s 3-in-1 Look/Some Reality in Untucked
  • [Gary] – Snaps for… Creativity and Jujubee’s craziness
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for… The Golden Gals 
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… Alexis Mateo Cuntiness, Be the Fool Guhrl
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COL551: Sex Needs vs COVID-19

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke of EAC Therapy and COL’s resident sex therapist. For this episode, the cubs acknowledge their thirst due to many states’ social distancing regulations during the COVID-19 pandemic. Because of this, we bring in the good doc to discuss the sexual needs during this crisis. We all have needs and need to find ways to address them safely.

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COVID-19 isn’t going away. And now more than ever we’re facing challenges with having our sexual needs met. What’s a person to do?

This is an extended traumatic experience….which means that people are going to have traumatic reactions to this.  Here are some common traumatic reactions and ways to address them sexually:

IMPORTANT: Our reactions to this may be different therefore we may have different sexual libidos during this time (that is normal).

Overview:

The 5 Love Languages

    • Phone Sex 
    • Video sex
  • Looking into the future 
    • Research is seeing a decrease in STI rates
      • Decrease access to testing sites
    • Re-entry 
      • Sexual risk taking 

Additional Resources: 

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COL530: Hibearnation

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, this week it’s just Gary and Jeff as Damon is away on assignment at the Cincinnati Gay Men’s Chorus retreat. And the conversation is about…bears and hibernating. We talk about seasonal changes and their effects plus more.

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Bears and Hibernating: How does the seasonal changes affect you?

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