In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this episode, the guys show how they feel the love within the five love languages. From learning what the languages are to sharing their results, listen in as the guys gift us some touching acts of quality words to help understand how these languages affirm the love and affection one can feel for their loved ones. In addition, learn more about more recent developments in the love languages from neurodivergent to kink play dynamics.
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Landscape of Relationships: Love Languages
Love Languages (Gary Chapman):
Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Acts of Service
Gifts
Physical Touch
The 5 Love Languages (according to Britney, Bitch!):
Physical Touch: My loneliness is killing me
Words of Affirmation: I must confess I still believe
Quality Time: When I’m not with you I lose my mind
Give Giving: Give me a sign
Acts of Service: Hit me baby one more time
The 5 Neurodivergent Love Languages:
Infodumping
Parallel Play
Support Swapping
Please Crush My Soul Back into My Body
“I found this cool rock/button/leaf/etc and thought you would like it”
Fear not: John Gottman and the Gottman approach, which I reference often, is a good overlap with the 5 languages of love….and allows some flexibility with the concepts.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About Food. It’s the start of a new year and typically there’s a lot of new diets. With dieting comes balancing between healthy foods and the foods that are desired. How much pressure is felt as the battle between maintaining good, healthy choices and access to the quick and convenient hits a boiling point? Listen in as the cubs break down this debate and share their ideas on what you can do.
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Let’s Talk About Food: Healthy vs Indulgent
It’s the start of a new year and typically here in the US we see lots of folks begin new diets. For some, it becomes about balancing healthy foods versus the things we crave/desire. How much pressure do we feel as the battle for what we shove in our mouth hole comes round once again?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of September. The cubs keep on keeping on with the same old song & dance. From work and music to Netflix and chilling, listen in as the guys bring you into fall and the final quarter of the year.
What’s Going On?
Jeff: Same Old Dance
Damon: Same Old Song
Gary: HIV Work
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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this installment, the cubs share their thoughts on FWBs, otherwise known as friends with benefits. What are the building blocks of this type of relationship and how do you make it work? And, what exactly are the benefits?
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Landscape of Relationships: Friends With Benefits
Is a friendship a relationship????
Thoughts?
Many cultures define friendships as a very important relationship
LGBTQ community- “chosen family”
Atlantic 2020 article that discussed the cultural and historical importances of friendships
A set of societal expectations for intimate relationships. Partners follow a set of progressive set of steps, each with clear markers, with a goal in mind.
In 2017, 171 University of Denver students (more women than men) were surveyed on sexual satisfaction, commitment and trust of FWB relationships
Big takeaways? *drumroll please* communication and setting healthy boundaries
They found sexual satisfaction was important but so was sacrificing for the good of the partner, and not looking for the next best thing.
Why? Lots of research is looking at young adults who are in school. Romantic relationships are oftentimes an added stressor that takes away from studying. Some students opt for FWB arrangements to reduce overall stress.
FWBs are supposed to decrease pressure, not add pressure.
You need to be friends in order to call it a FWB. Those take time, trust, shared history, etc.
Must be mutually beneficial and convenient
If the FWB ends, you are allowed to be upset.
“It’s confusing to try to develop friendship founded on a sexual relationship guided by a rule system that has to be invented as you go. Or, when you’re trying to force a friendship so that you can add sex as a benefit, where does the friendship part fit in? That’s putting the benefits before the friendship.”
“Sexual exploration can and often does become a part of an existing friendship between consenting people. Or you may have been in a romantic and/or sexual relationship with this person earlier in your life, but now it’s morphed into a friendship. In such circumstances, the sexual connection may remain, or may be reintroduced. But the common thread is the history between you, the investment you share in the friendship, and the trust that has formed. You recognize that you both enjoy the chemistry, but that you may not be as compatible emotionally as you are sexually. It’s a mutually understood experience. The connection you have as friends determines whether this time in your life and in your relationship is right to be sharing benefits.”
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs are joined by special guest, TB, for an interview. TB is our trans bear listener whose feedback we discussed in recent episodes. We invite him on to discuss more about his coming out as trans, his life as a a gay transperson and his interactions with the bear community. Listen in as TB gives us a fun and introspective look into his life.
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Trans Bear Interview! – We invited our feedback audience member to join the co-hosts to talk about their experiences as a Trans man.
What was discovering you’re Trans like?
What has your experience been so far with self-image, coming out to family, friends, co-workers?
Are there memorable encounters for you with the LGBTQ communities?
How has the Bear community responded to you in general/specifically?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this episode, the guys show how they feel the love within the five love languages. From learning what the languages are to sharing their results, listen in as the guys gift us some touching acts of quality words to help understand how these languages affirm the love and affection one can feel for their loved ones. In addition, learn more about more recent developments in the love languages from neurodivergent to kink play dynamics.
