In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, Jeff forgets to turn on his mic and the cubs are joined by returning guest Drew to discuss a rather impactful topic. Before and during the pandemic, LGBTQ+ spaces have been shutting their doors as it becomes financially difficult to maintain them. Listen in as the guys share their thoughts on what the true cost of losing these spaces might be and how others may be able to survive post-COVID.
Show Topic
As the pandemic swept across the globe, LGBTQ+ spaces in the US faced financial devastation. From online fundraising, new owners, to closures – what have we lost? Will the community be able to recover in the future when pandemic is behind us?
Some of the known closures include:
Cuties, Flaming Saddles, Gold Coast, Gym Bar, Rage – West Hollywood, California, USA
Menz & Mollyz Bar – Halifax, Alberta, Canada
Boom! Nightclub – Fredericton, New Brunswick, Canada
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About Sex! For this episode, the guys are joined again by COL Sex Therapist Edward Angelini-Cooke to discuss the concept of asking and receiving. As we explore romantic relationships, the cubs review negotiations, consent, and getting your needs met and fulfilled. Also sandwiches, pizzas, and tea and what they mean in the grand scheme of things (Don’t worry Gary, there’s no food play involved).
Show Topic
Let’s Talk About Sex – Asking and Receiving
Why is it so hard to ask for something during sex?
Are you being rude if you don’t show appreciation for the other participant during sex?
What do you do if you wanted a blow job but they aren’t doing that thing that you really like when you are getting a blowjob? You know that thing…
The Good Touch Games….Drenched Fur….Gabe and Edward
Consent
“An agreement between two parties who are about to engage in sexual activity”-RAINN
Consent is just as much about no as it is about yes.
Consent is about both parties getting what they want
In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, IT’S MAKEOVER TIME!! Gary and Damon review the 10th episode of this season and it’s a twist on a classic challenge. As the queens are charged with bringing some super fans into their drag families, the guys get charged on their critiques. As we are nearing the final laps, do the gurls have it in them to stay on track?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to discuss the landscape of relationships. For this segment, the cubs go in depth on communication. From communication types and styles to learning some of the pitfalls of extreme words, listen as Edward guides the cubs on effective communication in all relationships.
Show Topic
The Landscape of Relationships – Communication
DISCLOSURE: Communication is important and vital in all relationships….not just open relationships. Duh.
Cognitive Triangle
Feelings: How we feel impacts how we think and how we act (No control)
Thoughts: How we think impacts how we feel and how we act (Mostly control)
Behaviors: How we behave impacts how we feel and how we think (Mostly control)
Communication Traps
Assumptions/Expectations
“Have you ever wondered, well I have, about how when I say, say red, for example, there’s no way of knowing, if red means the same thing in your head as red means in my head when someone says red.” – Matilda
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined by previous guest Edward Angelini-Cooke for an in depth discussion on relationships. Based on some of Edward’s research for his doctoral dissertation, the cubs breakdown some of the various dynamics in the vast landscape of relationships. From monogamy to polycules, listen as the cubs give some insight to the “It’s Complicated” relationship statuses and more.
Show Topic
The Landscape of Relationships
Relationship Anarchy – belief that relationships should not be bound by rules aside from what the people involved mutually agree upon
Closed Relationships – relationships that limits sexual and romantic to strictly the parties involved in the relationship
Monogamy – a two-person relationship in which an individual has only one partner during their lifetime—alternately, only one partner at any one time (Serial Monogamy)
Infidelity – violation of a couple’s assumed or stated contract regarding emotional and/or sexual exclusivity (synonyms include: cheating, straying, adultery (when married), being unfaithful, or having an affair)
Polyfidelity – a relationship structure where all members are considered equal partners and agree to restrict sexual activity to only other members of the group [considered both closed and open at the same time]
Open Relationships – a relationship that is non-monogamous; generally indicates a relationship where there is a primary relationship between two partners, who agree to at least the possibility of other people
Monogamish – In a July 20, 2011 column, Dan Savage coined the term, applying it to his own relationship with his partner; describing couples who are “mostly” but not 100% monogamous; such couples have an understanding that allows for some amount of sexual activity outside the relationship
Poly
Polyamory – the practice of, or desire for, relationships with more than one partner, with the consent of all partners involved; described as “consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy”
Polygamy – the practice of marrying multiple spouses
Polygyny – most common/accepted form of polygamy; marriage of a man with several women
Polyandry – marriage in which a woman takes two or more husbands at the same time
Bigamy – In cultures where monogamy is mandated, bigamy is the act of entering into a marriage with one person while still legally married to another
Swinging – [sometimes called wife swapping, husband swapping, or partner swapping] sexual activity in which both singles and partners in a committed relationship engage in such activities with others as a recreational or social activity
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, Jeff forgets to turn on his mic and the cubs are joined by returning guest Drew to discuss a rather impactful topic. Before and during the pandemic, LGBTQ+ spaces have been shutting their doors as it becomes financially difficult to maintain them. Listen in as the guys share their thoughts on what the true cost of losing these spaces might be and how others may be able to survive post-COVID.
