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COL589: Losing Our ‘Gay’ Spaces

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, Jeff forgets to turn on his mic and the cubs are joined by returning guest Drew to discuss a rather impactful topic. Before and during the pandemic, LGBTQ+ spaces have been shutting their doors as it becomes financially difficult to maintain them. Listen in as the guys share their thoughts on what the true cost of losing these spaces might be and how others may be able to survive post-COVID.

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As the pandemic swept across the globe, LGBTQ+ spaces in the US faced financial devastation. From online fundraising, new owners, to closures – what have we lost? Will the community be able to recover in the future when pandemic is behind us? 

Some of the known closures include:

  • Cuties, Flaming Saddles, Gold Coast, Gym Bar, Rage – West Hollywood, California, USA
  • Menz & Mollyz Bar – Halifax, Alberta, Canada 
  • Boom! Nightclub – Fredericton, New Brunswick, Canada 
  • DC Eagle – Washington, D.C., USA
  • Stud, San Francisco, California, USA
  • Parliament House, Orlando, Florida, USA

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COL532: The Landscape of Relationships

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined by previous guest Edward Angelini-Cooke for an in depth discussion on relationships. Based on some of Edward’s research for his doctoral dissertation, the cubs breakdown some of the various dynamics in the vast landscape of relationships. From monogamy to polycules, listen as the cubs give some insight to the “It’s Complicated” relationship statuses and more.

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The Landscape of Relationships

    • Relationship Anarchy – belief that relationships should not be bound by rules aside from what the people involved mutually agree upon
    • Closed Relationships – relationships that limits sexual and romantic to strictly the parties involved in the relationship
      • Monogamy – a two-person relationship in which an individual has only one partner during their lifetime—alternately, only one partner at any one time (Serial Monogamy)
        • Infidelity – violation of a couple’s assumed or stated contract regarding emotional and/or sexual exclusivity (synonyms include: cheating, straying, adultery (when married), being unfaithful, or having an affair)
      • Polyfidelity – a relationship structure where all members are considered equal partners and agree to restrict sexual activity to only other members of the group [considered both closed and open at the same time]
    • Open Relationships – a relationship that is non-monogamous; generally indicates a relationship where there is a primary relationship between two partners, who agree to at least the possibility of other people
      • Monogamish – In a July 20, 2011 column, Dan Savage coined the term, applying it to his own relationship with his partner; describing couples who are “mostly” but not 100% monogamous; such couples have an understanding that allows for some amount of sexual activity outside the relationship
      • Poly
        • Polyamory – the practice of, or desire for, relationships with more than one partner, with the consent of all partners involved; described as “consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy”
        • Polygamy – the practice of marrying multiple spouses
          • Polygyny – most common/accepted form of polygamy; marriage of a man with several women
          • Polyandry – marriage in which a woman takes two or more husbands at the same time
    • Bigamy – In cultures where monogamy is mandated, bigamy is the act of entering into a marriage with one person while still legally married to another
      • Swinging – [sometimes called wife swapping, husband swapping, or partner swapping] sexual activity in which both singles and partners in a committed relationship engage in such activities with others as a recreational or social activity

Resources 

Books:

Podcasts 

  • Loving Without Boundaries 
  • Polamory Weekly 
  • Touch of Flavor [kink centric]
  • Non-monogamy Help
  • Savage Lovecast

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COL498: BEAR: Being a Virgin

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, North American Bear Weekend is just around the corner! So, it’s time for another Bear Experience Action Readiness show! For this BEAR, the cubs prepare you for your maiden voyage to your first bear event or run. The guys share their first time experiences and give some tips to navigate the choppy bear seas.

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Anon Porn and Sexuality Research Survey – by Edward Angelini-Cooke from COL441: The Decline of Gay Bars

Bear Experience Action Readiness: Being a Virgin

We discuss what to expect as a virgin at a bear event/run and what our personal experiences were like.

Audience Questions/Feedback:

  • Baron W.: My first big event was GLLA, and I really didn’t know what to expect! It was exciting yet terrifying all at once. I guess what I wish I had known is that people are (usually) very warm and welcoming and if you put yourself out there you’ll usually find a new friend or five!
  • Joshua P. [Skeleton Crew]: Hmmm…I have never been to an event. From what I see and hear, they are very cliquey, and a fear I have is I would end up spending the time mostly by myself, or just with the people I attend with (which seems to defeat the purpose of attending these events).

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