In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs have a little holiday mixer. With some listeners joining along, the guys play some games and spread a little holiday cheer.
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Jingle Mingle
The COL hosts have an online year end social. It’s holiday themed games of virtual bingo, this or that, and we find out who’s on the naughty list!
If you’re interested in our Jingle Jingle Bingo virtual game, below are some details/links to play the same game online. Btw, yes Gary misspelled the word ‘bells’ as ‘beels’ in the list that created this specific game. The website myfreebingocards.com allows you to create virtual games with certain limitations but upgrade options for a cost.
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Share the Virtual Link below with up to 30 friends. They can play virtual bingo on any device or print out their bingo card. Virtual Link: https://mfbc.us/m/yj52w9w
Everyone who follows this link will get one of 30 random bingo cards. It’s possible that two players will get the same bingo card. If you want to make sure everyone gets a different bingo card you can send out these individual links. If you have more than 30 players choose a paid option. Each player will get a link to their own unique bingo card that they cannot change, and we provide a tool to quickly send out individual links by email. For more information check out our Virtual Bingo Guide.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of August. As things heat up before the end of summer, listen as the guys tell us about their mostly busy month. From class teaching to bear events and more on the horizon, the cubs bring us up to date before fall sets in.
What’s Going On?
Jeff: The Calm
Damon: WBW, CMCB, & SOSWOH
Gary: Busier than before
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COL613: Landscape of Relationships: New Relationship Energy
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. Today’s topic is New Relationship Energy. That euphoric feeling one gets from their glorious new relationship! However, there can be some challenges. From Limerence of monogamy to the NRE of Polyamory, the cubs break down the pros and cons of this addiction to love.
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Landscape of Relationships: New Relationship Energy
How many songs can you think of that frame romantic love to addiction?
Dorothy Tennov, psychologist, coined the term limerence in her 1979 book Love and Limerence to describe the phenomenon of the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors of beginning a relationship. We also call it having a crush. These feelings are categorized as being intrusive and everything seems to be about this person. We can’t listen to the radio because every song seems to be about them. Everything we see seems to remind us about them. They become the central force of gravity in your life. A black hole of attraction. We have all had it at some time or another….and sometimes it is even reciprocated.
New Relationship Energy (NRE)
Similar to limererance but for individuals in polyamorous relationships to describe and help manage the thoughts and feelings that arise during new relationship among already existing ones. This is helpful to frame especially when feelings of jealousy from other partners are present.
NRE is a hot topic in poly circles because it often comes up.
You know that song “Your Love is a Drug” by Kesha?
She wasn’t lying.
The same chemical reactions that occur neurologically during the limerence phase of a new relationship also occur during crack cocaine addiction. The relationship gives us the all of that feel good dopamine and norepinephrine, but also comes with obsessive thoughts when you are not with that other person…similar to withdrawal. That is because we are experiencing low serotonin production at these times, which satiates us and lets us know “mmmm…..I’m full.” Like Alexander Hamilton, we can never be satisfied in those early months.
Cons of NRE
Hyperfocus on new relationship, neglect other relationships and responsibilities
Increases likelihood of negatively evaluating other partner’s behaviors.
Sometimes questionable behavior that is uncharacteristic (e.g. moving, big purchases)
Overlooking red flags
Pros of NRE
Good feelings
High energy
Increased likelihood to try new things
Community wisdom (you are not alone…there are MANY others who have been there too)
What to do?
Head in the Clouds, Feet on the Floor
Its okay to be feel the good feelings….but be practical.
Don’t make big purchases: ( e.g. sign anything anything over $500 without consulting outside party)
Check In’s with friends and date nights with partners
USE THAT ENERGY IN OTHER RELATIONSHIPS!!!
This, too, shall pass.
Research suggests 6 months to 2 years.
Old Relationship Energy (aka Established Relationship Energy, Existing Relationship Energy)
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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs have a little holiday mixer. With some listeners joining along, the guys play some games and spread a little holiday cheer.
