In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another All T, No Shade show. For this episode, the guys debate regarding the recent news regarding Disney and its original silence then missteps regarding the “Don’t Say Gay” Bill in Florida, due to be signed into law in July 2022. As a beloved international corporation, what happens when it steps into a pile of political crap? Can and should the LGBTQ+ community continue to support their business when they once again reveal they are not as supportive back? Can the House of Mouse fix their LGBTQ+ problem? The cubs share their thoughts and opinions on this and more in this heated discussion.
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ATNS: The Disney Conundrum
The challenge of when an international corporation with multiple loved IPs steps into a pile of political crap. Can the House of Mouse fix their LGBTQ+ problem? Can we support the land where dreams come true when villains threaten to destroy the world we live actually in?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this episode, Damon is on assignment in Detroit, Michigan and will fill us in on his experience in a future episode while Jeff and Gary chat with Edward about what is a chosen family. From our origins to the aunties, cousins, sisters, and brothers we choose, the LGBTQ community has developed its own families. But are they still needed today?
“chosen families are nonbiological kinship bonds, whether legally recognized or not, deliberately chosen for the purpose of mutual support and love.
Families We Choose: Lesbians, Gays, Kinship, cultural anthropologist Kath Weston defines chosen family as consisting of “friends, partners and ex-partners, biological and non-biological children, and others who provide kinship support.”
The term originated within the LGBTQ community and was used to describe early queer gatherings like the Harlem Drag Balls of the late nineteenth century.
Movies like Paris is Burning, shows like Pose as well as RENT highlighted the concept of chosen families
Often times a protective factor against forms of discrimination and violence at home and helps create positive and, hopefully, secure, attachments with others.
Last year, New York City began allowing workers to use paid time off to care for anyone they personally define as family, whether they’re “related by blood or affinity.” In doing so, NYC joined other major metropolises like Chicago, San Francisco, and St. Paul, MN, as well as states like Arizona and Rhode Island, in honoring non-biological kinship.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, remember SESTA-FOSTA from 2018? Well, learn more about their newest family member EARN IT in this informative talkback. Listen in as the cubs share their opinions on the next “problem solving” legislation to combat the exploitation of those special victims. Is it really helpful or is it more harmful?
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Remember FOSTA-SESTA? Meet their newborn cousin, EARN IT Act 2022
The Supreme Court has long recognized that the Constitution forbids laws having the collateral effect of disproportionately censoring legal speech.3 By allowing states to lower the standards for liability even further than SESTA/FOSTA, the amended EARN IT Act would create just such an impermissible collateral effect and presents even graver risks to online expression than SESTA/FOSTA, especially for the LGBTQ and sex worker communities.
As we said in our previous letter, the aftermath of the passage of SESTA/FOSTA,4 which eliminated Section 230’s liability shield for content related to sex trafficking, makes the overbroad implications for online speech clear.5 Even if the speech covered by the law could be restricted without raising constitutional concern, the content moderation practices the companies will deploy to avoid liability risk will sweep far more broadly than the illegal content.6 SESTA/FOSTA was intended to protect people engaged in sex work from being trafficked against their will. It has, instead, sent them back out into the streets and made them less safe.7 Moreover, the platforms’ content moderation practices have disproportionately silenced the LGBTQ community, making it more difficult for them to come together and create community online.8 Under the amended EARN IT Act, Section 230’s shield for all state criminal and civil aws “regarding the advertising, promotion, presentation, distribution, or solicitation” of CSAM, as that term is defined by federal law, would be eliminated, permitting states to assign liability for negligence or recklessness. In other words, states would be able to go even further than SESTA/FOSTA in lowering the standards for liability for platforms.
Eliminating Abusive and Rampant Neglect of Interactive Technologies Act of 2022 or the EARN IT Act of 2022
This bill revises the federal framework governing the prevention of online sexual exploitation of children.
The bill establishes the National Commission on Online Child Sexual Exploitation Prevention. The commission must develop best practices for interactive computer services providers (e.g., Facebook and Twitter) to prevent, reduce, and respond to the online sexual exploitation of children.
Additionally, the bill limits the liability protections of interactive computer service providers with respect to claims alleging violations of child sexual exploitation laws.
The bill replaces various statutory references to child pornography and material that contains child pornography with child sexual abuse material.
Finally, the bill makes changes to the reporting requirements for electronic communication service providers and remote computing service providers (providers) who report apparent instances of crimes involving the sexual exploitation of children to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children. Among the changes, the bill requires providers to report facts and circumstances sufficient to identify and locate each minor and each involved individual. The bill also increases the amount of time that providers must preserve the contents of a report.
Looking to the past as prelude to the future, the only time that Congress has limited Section 230 protections was in the Allow States and Victims to Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act of 2017 (SESTA/FOSTA). That law purported to protect victims of sex trafficking by eliminating providers’ section 230 liability shield for “facilitating” sex trafficking by users. According to a 2021 study by the US Government Accountability Office, however, the law has been rarely used to combat sex trafficking. 9Instead, it has forced sex workers, whether voluntarily engaging in sex work or forced into sex trafficking against their will, offline and into harm’s way.10 It has also chilled their online expression generally, including the sharing of health and safety information, and speech wholly unrelated to sex work.11 Moreover, these burdens fell most heavily on smaller platforms that either served as allies and created spaces for the LGBTQ and sex worker communities or simply could not withstand the legal risks and compliance costs of SESTA/FOSTA.12 Congress risks repeating this mistake by rushing to pass this misguided legislation, which also limits Section 230 protections.
9Government Accountability Office. (2021). Sex Trafficking: Online Platforms and Federal prosecutions. (GAO Publication No. 21-385), (reporting that the Department of Justice had brought just one case under FOSTA, which at the time of the Report remained in court with no restitution sought, and that only one individual had pursued civil damages, in a case that was dismissed).
The EARN IT Act Jeopardizes the Security of Our Communications
The EARN IT Act Risks Undermining Child Abuse Prosecutions
The EARN IT Act would have devastating consequences for everyone’s ability to share and access information online, and to do so in a secure manner. We urge you to oppose this bill. Congress should instead consider more tailored approaches to deal with the real harms of CSAM online.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this episode, the guys show how they feel the love within the five love languages. From learning what the languages are to sharing their results, listen in as the guys gift us some touching acts of quality words to help understand how these languages affirm the love and affection one can feel for their loved ones. In addition, learn more about more recent developments in the love languages from neurodivergent to kink play dynamics.
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Landscape of Relationships: Love Languages
Love Languages (Gary Chapman):
Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Acts of Service
Gifts
Physical Touch
The 5 Love Languages (according to Britney, Bitch!):
Physical Touch: My loneliness is killing me
Words of Affirmation: I must confess I still believe
Quality Time: When I’m not with you I lose my mind
Give Giving: Give me a sign
Acts of Service: Hit me baby one more time
The 5 Neurodivergent Love Languages:
Infodumping
Parallel Play
Support Swapping
Please Crush My Soul Back into My Body
“I found this cool rock/button/leaf/etc and thought you would like it”
Fear not: John Gottman and the Gottman approach, which I reference often, is a good overlap with the 5 languages of love….and allows some flexibility with the concepts.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this episode, the guys discuss the often dreaded in-laws. As media seems to make it seem that most straight couples have to deal with their in-laws and spouse’s families, the cubs review how this translates into the relationships of the LGBTQ+ community. Are they really that different or can similar tactics, communication and boundaries help ease the potential tension?
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Landscape of Relationships: In-Laws
Lots of research and media about how in-law relationships are really difficult. That may be the case as some research out there says 3 out of 4 couples have difficult relationships with heterosexual in-laws. Is that the case with same-sex relationships?
Every family is different with a different rulebook that has been in creation for possibly generations.
Possibility for conflictual interactions, difficult pasts, and crunchy presents.
BOUNDARIES!!!!!
Know your values
Stay true to you.
Brene Brown’s BRAVING…specifically the Generosity part.
Keep those conflict skills in check.
LGBT in-laws (2019) 400 interviews from children in law who identified as gay or lesbian. Describe relationship with same sex in law parent.
Many of those interviewed struggled with acceptance by one or both of their parents-in-law.
Relationships usually improved with time
While parents-in-law became increasingly accepting, there was often someone else in the family who was not accepting
Acceptance by the mothers-in-law, according to the daughters-in-law, came as more of their friends and social circle either had children who were lesbian or gay, or their friends and social circle became more socially aware.
Feelings of ambivalence toward family members are typical.
Be the subject of your life, not the object.
You become an adult child the moment you set boundaries with your family (and in-laws).
What do YOU want to do with your partner in relation to each other’s families?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another All T, No Shade show. For this episode, the guys debate regarding the recent news regarding Disney and its original silence then missteps regarding the “Don’t Say Gay” Bill in Florida, due to be signed into law in July 2022. As a beloved international corporation, what happens when it steps into a pile of political crap? Can and should the LGBTQ+ community continue to support their business when they once again reveal they are not as supportive back? Can the House of Mouse fix their LGBTQ+ problem? The cubs share their thoughts and opinions on this and more in this heated discussion.
