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COL576: Our Historic 2020 Election

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs get political again. The guys come together and discuss the 2020 presidential election. With the 46th President of the United States being projected this weekend, the guys talk about the importance of this historical election and what it means for their country.

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The US Presidential Election for 2020 took place. What do we think about the results, the four years to come, and the four years coming to a close, and how different things are since we last talked about this topic in 2016.

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COL551: Sex Needs vs COVID-19

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke of EAC Therapy and COL’s resident sex therapist. For this episode, the cubs acknowledge their thirst due to many states’ social distancing regulations during the COVID-19 pandemic. Because of this, we bring in the good doc to discuss the sexual needs during this crisis. We all have needs and need to find ways to address them safely.

Show Topic

COVID-19 isn’t going away. And now more than ever we’re facing challenges with having our sexual needs met. What’s a person to do?

This is an extended traumatic experience….which means that people are going to have traumatic reactions to this.  Here are some common traumatic reactions and ways to address them sexually:

IMPORTANT: Our reactions to this may be different therefore we may have different sexual libidos during this time (that is normal).

Overview:

The 5 Love Languages

    • Phone Sex 
    • Video sex
  • Looking into the future 
    • Research is seeing a decrease in STI rates
      • Decrease access to testing sites
    • Re-entry 
      • Sexual risk taking 

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COL532: The Landscape of Relationships

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined by previous guest Edward Angelini-Cooke for an in depth discussion on relationships. Based on some of Edward’s research for his doctoral dissertation, the cubs breakdown some of the various dynamics in the vast landscape of relationships. From monogamy to polycules, listen as the cubs give some insight to the “It’s Complicated” relationship statuses and more.

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The Landscape of Relationships

    • Relationship Anarchy – belief that relationships should not be bound by rules aside from what the people involved mutually agree upon
    • Closed Relationships – relationships that limits sexual and romantic to strictly the parties involved in the relationship
      • Monogamy – a two-person relationship in which an individual has only one partner during their lifetime—alternately, only one partner at any one time (Serial Monogamy)
        • Infidelity – violation of a couple’s assumed or stated contract regarding emotional and/or sexual exclusivity (synonyms include: cheating, straying, adultery (when married), being unfaithful, or having an affair)
      • Polyfidelity – a relationship structure where all members are considered equal partners and agree to restrict sexual activity to only other members of the group [considered both closed and open at the same time]
    • Open Relationships – a relationship that is non-monogamous; generally indicates a relationship where there is a primary relationship between two partners, who agree to at least the possibility of other people
      • Monogamish – In a July 20, 2011 column, Dan Savage coined the term, applying it to his own relationship with his partner; describing couples who are “mostly” but not 100% monogamous; such couples have an understanding that allows for some amount of sexual activity outside the relationship
      • Poly
        • Polyamory – the practice of, or desire for, relationships with more than one partner, with the consent of all partners involved; described as “consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy”
        • Polygamy – the practice of marrying multiple spouses
          • Polygyny – most common/accepted form of polygamy; marriage of a man with several women
          • Polyandry – marriage in which a woman takes two or more husbands at the same time
    • Bigamy – In cultures where monogamy is mandated, bigamy is the act of entering into a marriage with one person while still legally married to another
      • Swinging – [sometimes called wife swapping, husband swapping, or partner swapping] sexual activity in which both singles and partners in a committed relationship engage in such activities with others as a recreational or social activity

Resources 

Books:

Podcasts 

  • Loving Without Boundaries 
  • Polamory Weekly 
  • Touch of Flavor [kink centric]
  • Non-monogamy Help
  • Savage Lovecast

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COLDR: AS4E01: All Star Super Queen Variety Show

In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon are back, bitches! We’re taking another lap and the category is: All Stars 4!! Super queens from drag race history are back to gain a spot in the Drag Race Hall of Fame. Find out who gets a gold star in a patriotic variety show salute to our troops and who gets the goose egg.

Entrances & Twist #1: Latrila

  • [Damon] – I was looking for more
  • [Gary] – Some original, some not so much

Reading Challenge:

  • [Damon] – What is up with Gia?
  • [Gary] – Latrice sealed the coffin on Valentina & A return to mean vs funny?

Maxi Challenge:

  • [Damon] – Props to Monique!/5 Ps/Farrah’s Fall
  • [Gary] – Ummm…  [was Valentina’s song her own?]

Trinity / Monique Top 2 ~ Farrah / Jasmine Bottom 2

Lip Sync for Your Legacy:

  • [Damon] – KEEP YOUR MUTHAFUCKING WIG ON!!!
  • [Gary] – Wig Toss…haven’t we talked about this???

Trinity wins & chops Jasmine

Snaps & Eyerolls:

  • [Damon] – Snaps for… Latrice’s Reads
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for…Gia’s Attitude
  • [Gary] – Snaps for… Legends Can Deliver
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… Jasmine’s stand-up
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COLDR: S10E14: Finale

In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, we’ve once again reached the final lap! It’s the finale and the guys give us one last taste of T. From revealing fails to spectacular looks, give a listen as we put a cap on the last episode of season.

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Opening Segment/Intros:

  • [Chester] – (Almost) everyone (not Kalorie) looked gorgeous! Vixen & ___ natural sisters.
  • [Damon] – Clearly some came to impress…
  • [Gary] – Where was _______?

Interviews:

  • [Chester] – Was Kameron under the influence?
  • [Damon] – Moving/Drama Moments
  • [Gary] – Practiced, Poised, Prepared, and ….

Lip Sync Rounds:

  • [Chester] – Aquaria did her Miss Janet research, looked pissed at double save
  • [Damon] – Poor Asia. The gurls came prepared.
  • [Gary] – Does an outfit matter?

Last Call:

  • [Chester] – Choices (enough stunts already) and thank fuck it’s over…
  • [Damon] – Can we talk about the dancers/cameos/her-story?
  • [Gary] – The drama has come to a close

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