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COL422: LTAS: Playspace Etiquette

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud,  it’s another Let’s Talk About Sex! For this topic, we start the discussion about playspace etiquette. Listen in as we give the dos and don’ts about your favorite back bar space, dark room, bathhouse, frolic and mingle rooms. So, should you enter a playroom chatting on your cellphone while eating a plate of nachos?

Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Back in Action/W Bear
  • Damon: Glamping Trip
  • Chester: Apt Approved, packing, and Evan’s first drive-in
  • Gary: July is here!

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  • Ches Clark SHOW NOTE [re: COL421]: I realized after the fact that I didn’t get in the whole story about my birthday dinner. (I think I cut myself off because I felt like I was monopolizing and rambling on.) That being said, I wanted to make a small addendum, especially given that I was giving someone who wasn’t present to defend himself a bit of a hard time. Brady *did* sincerely apologize for initiating the song and spectacle debacle as part of owning up to it, and had no idea beforehand that I was so vehemently opposed to that sort of public display. He truly did feel terrible about it afterward, but I was just in no mood to hear it at the time. He was just trying to be playful and funny, and so for those who might be worried about him getting “two black marks in my little book,” have no fear–most of that accounting business is tongue-in-cheek. Brady and I are very much okay with each other. Cheers!
  • Re: COL421: Greg Ballard I would love to do a co host spot someday. Love this channel! Watching right now!

 

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    • I’m looking for some movie recommendations! I’m after a movie featuring the bear/chub community. Romantic, drama, comedy – all work. Not looking for a porn flick but sex scenes are fine. I’ve heard BearCity might be a good place to start. What are some others? Maybe some ideas on the next @cubsoutloud? Thanks Tumblr folks!
  • Rotundaplomb in re: to COL420: State of the Community 2017
    • Wish I could have stayed for more of the live stream. You miss so many of Gary’s faces on the podcast version. Great list of some Pride documentaries to watch – check the show notes.
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    • Now that’s what I call a late Sunday night delight!!

Weekly Topic

Article from Bear World Magazine website interview re: the W Bear app

Let’s Talk About Sex: Playspace Etiquette

  • You may/will be seen/watched – not possible to be invisible
  • Always be respectful
  • Consent needs to be given, whether subtle or pronounced
  • You know what is best for yourself, not anyone else
  • Keep safety in mind, yours and everyone else’s
  • Be courteous to others in the space
  • Prepare yourself; mentally and physically

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COL399: Tabletop Gaming

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs roll the dice on the topic of tabletop gaming. Listen in as the guys throw their cards on the table about what games they enjoy, what they like and don’t like about tabletop and card gaming. From the groans when someone mentions Monopoly to the joy and excitement of Exploding Kittens, have some fun gathering around for a great gaming adventure.

Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: AGDQ
  • Damon: Fuck You, Mother Nature!
  • Chester: Travel!
  • Gary: Ick

Did I Do That?

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  • Chester Beltowski: I’m listening to episode COL398: Bud Sex and I am laughing my ass off at the “old fluids” bit, man I wish I was on the show for this! BTW Damon, the “wall” you were describing can be considered anthropologically significant.

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From right after Christmas…

Hi, guys.  I’m about 2 months behind in listening to your podcast, and I’m having a problem with Chester’s “I’ll Tumbl For You” links.  Whenever I try to open one (current example), I get “The URL you requested could not be found.”  I tried following Chester’s “The Cub Up There” blog back to the date of the show (slow-scrolling thru 2 months of backlog), but I couldn’t find anything there that looked like what he described on the show.

Is it possible that Chester deletes his Tumblr posts after the “Cubs Out Loud” podcast?

Keep ’em coming, & merry holidays,

Henry

Atlanta, Ga.

From after COL398 ‘Bud Sex’

Hi there cubs!

First of all, Happy New Year and thanks for having Hadrian read those stories a few episodes ago! It definitely made the cold weather somewhat warmer 😀 Second, I just finished listening to the Bud Sex episode you just released. I also briefly read the scientific journal article afterward. Being that you have indirectly summoned the COL scientist (thanks for the title, Jeff), I considered writing about a few things relevant to the discussion.

  1. Defining/measuring sexual orientation: A few of you mentioned the Kinsey scale to define sexual orientation. As revolutionary as this scale was back in the 50s, it does not represent sexual orientation accurately. Consider it more of a legacy instrument than a good one to define and measure sexual orientation. More recent models have proposed at least 3 dimensions to sexual orientation that can explain most of what we observe: identity, behavior, attraction.

        Identity refers to how you define yourself, in this case, sexually. If you identify as gay, bi, straight, queer, etc. that is your identity.

        Behavior refers to what people do sexually. In other words, who are people having sex with?

        Attraction refers to the gender you are attracted to.

Further, imagine that these 3 dimensions can be measured on a scale (for example, 1 to 10) instead of a “yes” or “no.” For example, I identify as gay (10) and do not identify as bi (0), straight (0), or queer (0); I have only had sex with men (10) and I have not had sex with women (0); and I feel very attracted to men (9) and a little attracted to women (3).  Now, based on our understanding of sexual orientation with these 3 dimensions we can conceive the existence of men who identify as straight, have sex with men and women at different levels, and feel attracted to both males and females at different levels. That is what sociologists, anthropologists, and the community at large may consider MSM, brojob, or bud-sex dude. Consider also those guys who identify as gay (8-10), who have only had sex with women because of social expectations or other reasons, and may be attracted to men way more than to women. I have met bears who were married, had kids, ended up getting a divorce, and are in a current relationship with another guy. They do not consider themselves as bisexual. The combinations are endless and could also encompass asexual (identity) people who are not interested in sex (behavior), but like people of their own, opposite, or both genders(attraction). I have found in my own research that this model captures way more information than a simple yes/no or Kinsley scale. Also, with this more comprehensive model, there is no need to challenge anyone’s identity because of who they are having sex with. Science is not barely catching up. In psychology we have had this and similar models for a long time (probably 30 years) but since it is more complicated to understand and does not raise much controversy, popular publications outside the field pay little attention.

  1. Sample size: Yes, 19 participants are not much and all of them are self-selected. Both things affect generalizability. Unless you have millions of dollars to conduct a study or you are gathering data for a census, this limitation is common, especially on research using interviews as the method to collect data. This limitation does not prevent the information to be valuable, especially when it elicits new ideas and a few hypotheses just like the ones Hadrian presented.

As usual, if you have any extra questions please let me know.

Cisco

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Bears and Tabletop Gaming

Why do so many bears like TTG/CG?

  • Common interest
  • Forced social interaction

Kickstarter:

  • Cards Against Humanity leads the charge
  • Exploding Kittens, Joking Hazard
  • Bears vs Babies!

Chester’s Quick Poll Results:

  1. Favorite Games
    1. Betrayal at House on the Hill (because the game changes every time you play it)
    2. Magic: The Gathering (for deck customization)
    3. Super Dungeon (because it’s co-op)
    4. Zombicide
    5. Joking Hazard
  2. Preference for group size
    1. People enjoy going to parties with lots of people, but prefer to play in smaller groups
  3. Gaming at bear runs?
    1. Absolutely!  They feel that official time slots should be part of the event schedule
  4. Where do people find other gamers?
    1. Word of mouth
    2. Facebook groups (Bears Be Gaming, Nerdybears, Geekybears)
    3. Personal ads (growlr shouts)
    4. Bear Runs
    5. Gaming stores!
    6. Gaming bars!   

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COL329: HNU: Is an Open Relationship for Me?

HostfulNewsUpdateIn this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another hostful news update! In today’s episode, the cubs discuss open relationships. From the articles presented, we talk about the joys and potential pains of opening a relationship, monogamy and whether or not it’s natural. Plus, are we still hungover from our Power Hour celebration?

Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff – Yu-Gi-Oh obsession has returned
  • Damon – Low Key week
  • Gary – My body hates me

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Randall Stratton

my favorite on this list is shut up and dance with me….

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Vince Dragulin

What an amazing power hour it was!

YouTube Comments for COL328:

comicfan1023

That was fun to watch and Gary you are so sexy.

Alex Rodriguez

That was a great stream, I had a lot of fun watching and even asked my roommate to go get beer for me but sadly when he returned it was over. Still had a blast an I look forward to the next Power Hour!

GROWLr Message: re: COL328 video show:

It looked like a lot of fun.

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Hey guys,

I happened to be listening to another podcast and they mentioned “cubsoutloud”.  I was thinking where did I hear that and then it dawned on me that was the podcast I used to listen to several years ago.  I’m assuming this is the same one that had Griff and Timcub, and Jeff..  I had not thought about you guys in years and was so happy to hear that is back on.  My question is how long have you guys been back.  My partner and I listened back in the day when it was Jeff, Griff, Tim and Kudzucub.  I’m assuming this was around 2010ish and thought yall stopped the podcast.  Was it ever stopped?  Wow, this made my day.  Who are the new hosts and what happened to the old ones.  My partner and I used to be friends with Griff (Keith).  I know you don’t remember me but I was the flight attendant for USAirways and now Delta and we moved from Charlotte to Atlanta.  We hung out with Griff a few times but lost contact with him.  Is he still here??  So excited to be listening again.

Excited to hear from you,

Greg

Urbandictionary with Gary

Trap Queen

A bomb-ass female. The baddest female. She is loyal to her friends,lives for her family,and gives no fucks to bitter,petty bitches. She also enjoys listening to trap music.

CL is a trap queen imo.

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Hostful News Update

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COL328: Power Hour 3: Jeff’s 35th Birthday Power Hour

COL328In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, we celebrate host and producer Jeff’s birthday by bringing back yet ANOTHER Power Hour! We are joined by several special guests, including Drew, Shutter, Musicbear Tony Banks, and the cubs Rich & Vince (plus a house party of pups and cubs). With good intentions, the Cubby Dozen proceeds to have an incredible hour of crazy, legal, and live debauchery.

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COL318: Father’s Day Update 2015

COL318In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, in honor of Father’s Day, we bring back one of our favorite gay dad, Tom McMillen-Oakley, to hangout with us. He updates the cubs on the goings-on with his family in the past year and includes some of his own personal projects. We have some fun while he takes a break to sit down and chat with us.

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Adoption Update:

  • COL264 “My Two Dads” episode from June 2014

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