In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another All T, No Shade show. This time around, the topic is Pride and because the cubs have a lot to say about it, this will be a two-parter. In this second part, the cubs break down their views on the ongoing debate of kink at Pride and its inclusion in LGTBQIA+ spaces. From consent to caution, listen in as the guys paddle their way through this hard stop conversation.
Show Topic
ATNS: LGBTQIA+ Pride 2021 – Part 2: Kink
This year for our annual Pride discussion, we have a two-parter – previously we discussed Corporations. Now that we’ve told big business to fuck off with their pandering, let’s piss off even more people with our thoughts on kink being a part of Pride for the LGBTQIA community.
From COL previous guest Perrin on social media:
Perrin
So here’s the thing… cause it apparently needs to be said. Wearing a leash in public harms absolutely no one. It violates no consent.
This discourse reeks of “think of the children” and “no kink at Pride” and I’m not here for this sanitization.
For years these types of excuses were used to actively harm homosexuals, transfolk, and anyone else who didn’t fit the public’s perception of normal. Still to this day, we see people crying foul when anyone dares deviate from that norm.
Okay, y'all. This is going to be a very, very long thread because I am very, very tired of hearing "BDSM requires consent and therefore you Bad Queers should go back in the closet and leave Pride to us Good Clean Queers."
So we're gonna talk history, and we're gonna unpack shit.
— @vaspider.gay on BlueSky (@vaspider) May 27, 2021
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this installment, the cubs share their thoughts on FWBs, otherwise known as friends with benefits. What are the building blocks of this type of relationship and how do you make it work? And, what exactly are the benefits?
Show Topic
Landscape of Relationships: Friends With Benefits
Is a friendship a relationship????
Thoughts?
Many cultures define friendships as a very important relationship
LGBTQ community- “chosen family”
Atlantic 2020 article that discussed the cultural and historical importances of friendships
A set of societal expectations for intimate relationships. Partners follow a set of progressive set of steps, each with clear markers, with a goal in mind.
In 2017, 171 University of Denver students (more women than men) were surveyed on sexual satisfaction, commitment and trust of FWB relationships
Big takeaways? *drumroll please* communication and setting healthy boundaries
They found sexual satisfaction was important but so was sacrificing for the good of the partner, and not looking for the next best thing.
Why? Lots of research is looking at young adults who are in school. Romantic relationships are oftentimes an added stressor that takes away from studying. Some students opt for FWB arrangements to reduce overall stress.
FWBs are supposed to decrease pressure, not add pressure.
You need to be friends in order to call it a FWB. Those take time, trust, shared history, etc.
Must be mutually beneficial and convenient
If the FWB ends, you are allowed to be upset.
“It’s confusing to try to develop friendship founded on a sexual relationship guided by a rule system that has to be invented as you go. Or, when you’re trying to force a friendship so that you can add sex as a benefit, where does the friendship part fit in? That’s putting the benefits before the friendship.”
“Sexual exploration can and often does become a part of an existing friendship between consenting people. Or you may have been in a romantic and/or sexual relationship with this person earlier in your life, but now it’s morphed into a friendship. In such circumstances, the sexual connection may remain, or may be reintroduced. But the common thread is the history between you, the investment you share in the friendship, and the trust that has formed. You recognize that you both enjoy the chemistry, but that you may not be as compatible emotionally as you are sexually. It’s a mutually understood experience. The connection you have as friends determines whether this time in your life and in your relationship is right to be sharing benefits.”
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys have reached yet another milestone: 600 EPISODES!!! From its humble beginnings to the forging of new frontiers as the show becomes one of the longest running bear podcasts ever, listen in as the cubs share some stats about its 13 year history.
Show Topics
Recognizing achieving the 600 episodes of Cubs Out Loud.
Some Original Series Stats are:
600 episodes of Cubs Out Loud, the original series
13 plus years of shows
Three generations of hosts?
Transitioning from audio only to video and audio on YouTube
Hello, Ladies, Gentlemen and Gender Non-Conformists. It’s Jeff and welcome to another Flashback episode this week! We’re off this week. However, I present to you a COL Flashback to episode 356 from March 13th, 2016 – just over five years ago. This show is in our old format so you’ll recognize the current What’s Going On vibe followed by a ‘Shit Show of Shittery [thank you Urban Dictionary]. Grab your favorite beverage and settle in for a listen to a special Flashback show to COL Episode 356!
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s a Shit Show of Shittery (thank you Urban Dictionary). The best laid plans got derailed by life, so the cubs offer this show on the fly, talking about recent titleholder friends, drunken shenanigans, and playing games. It’s a short shit show of shittery for shit’s sake.
Introduction Topics
What’s Going On?
Jeff: Can’t wait to get on the floor and “work complete”
Damon: Walking Around All Day & Contemporary Art
Gary: Pour into blender, hit mix
Did I Do That?
Gary: I did it again
Feedback:
FB Group Comment:
Chester [aka Shutter]: Um… Gary… Can I have a shirt?
Google Plus:
Mike Reaser
YouTube Subscribers:
Bigtheddy bear
Yuri umi
Twitter:
Charles Stoner: It’s time for @cubsoutloud podcast 354!
Urbandictionary with Gary
Shit Show of Shittery: When everything that will go wrong does go wrong. An event of grand scale of utter shit. When all your shit of your life is just non-stop, it’s a shit show of shittery.
My life is a complete shit show of shittery !!! What’s with all this shit show of shittery happenin’ here ? My life sucks. It has plenty of shit shittery goin’ on.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About Food. For this time around, the cubs give you their fill of their fall/Halloween faves. From sweet eats to savory soups and stews, the guys discuss the foods that get them in a “spoopy” mood.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another All T, No Shade show. This time around, the topic is Pride and because the cubs have a lot to say about it, this will be a two-parter. In this second part, the cubs break down their views on the ongoing debate of kink at Pride and its inclusion in LGTBQIA+ spaces. From consent to caution, listen in as the guys paddle their way through this hard stop conversation.
