In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another Let’s Talk About Kink. The guys are again joined by Tony aka Cubziz to discuss gear. In this second part, the cubs get into the ownership and usage of gear. From intent of the usage to safety and storage, listen as the cubs start getting deeper into the larger aspects of gear.

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Let’s Talk About Kink: Gear – Part 2

We’re joined one again by kinky boy Tony aka Cubziz for a chat about the ‘gear’ we see and experience when it comes to leather/BDSM/kink. 

• General Terminology – see episode COL549
• Kinds/Types/Categories – see episode COL549
  • Common
  • Social Acceptability
• Owning/Usage
  • Storage/Cleaning
  • Safety

Part 2:

• What’s involved in owning/using
  • The hardest part is figuring out your intent.
    • For yourself, your jollies or for others’ and/or their jollies.
    • Not always for yourself. Especially in role playing, you may not have an interest in a particular “gear” set, but they may, so your purpose is to arouse them and you enjoy the benefit, in that case.
      • But this CAN change… and frequently does. Someone who learns that they look damned hot in gear and they can get more action that way… will probably begin associating that extra sex with the gear, and thus it becomes seuxalized.
  • I mention because this will adjust the approach.
    • For yourself, being aroused by the wearing of the uniform… you may be happy with just a basic piecemeal uniform.
    • For yourself, but maybe for an image or concept of power… you may put your best into that uniform to achieve EXACTLY what you want.
      • Use Leather as an example here. I can throw a harness on or I can be dressed in full cow, both would make me a leatherman, but one is a bit more involved. Neither is more important, but today I may want a full cow attire, the next day a jock and harness are fine. But you determine your level of involvement for yourself there. (Likewise, if I’m going to a formal leather dinner, just the harness may not be acceptable in that context…)
    • Lastly, some people want it because of how it looks.
      • It isn’t necessarily a fetish, but it does get attention from others.
        • For example, this is a gear fetish item, but penis “packers” can be used as a confidence builder, showing a bit of a bulge. Even if it isn’t flesh, THEY feel better with their projection and thus enjoy it. (Even if it isn’t in a sexual way, just in a “normal” capacity.)
          • Each person determines their own purpose for the gear.
        • Cups are another example of an item that crosses between toy gear and fetish gear. Worn with a football uniform, it would be part of that uniform. Worn under a pair of tight fitting jeans… that may just be the toy gear side of things. Worn with a speedo… that might confuse people. But it could excite someone with that same fetish. 😉
  • On owning and using…
    • Before buying, determine your proper storage and cleaning.
      • Some sportsgear, for example, wrestling singlets needs to be treated better than your daily jeans.  (Never throw a singlet in with anything that has a zipper in fact, or the zippers will shred the lycra and you’ll have a billion burrs.)
      • But fireman’s attire? Pfft… Chuck that into the fastest roughest cycle in the washer and it’ll be the exact same when it comes out. It is desire to survive freaking fire after all.
    • And on storage, leather needs certain levels of conditioning and needs to stay in certain humidity levels, can’t get wet, etc.
      • Whereas a white football uniform can have grass/whatever stains and it’s acceptable. Likewise to clean you throw it into the washer with a ton of bleach. Don’t do that with your leather!
    • Safety is another factor.
      • If you want to get into football attire because you want to do tackling drills, then you probably want a full set of pads.
      • If you are wearing it to the crowded bar, you probably DON’T want the full set of pads *unless it is a uniform night where you might*.
      • Don’t wear JUST a speedo to the bar in the middle of winter. But in summer, by all means.
      • Don’t wear a ghillie suit in the hottest part of summer either. You risk your life there from overheating. (fireman gear is the same problem.)

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