In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon review the next episode of RuPaul’s Drag Race! It’s the Pork Chopped Queens’ turn to bring to the runway! After sitting idle, are these ladies ready to take their laps? Find out who are phenomenal sensations and who’s just a regular bore as the guys critique their onstage debut.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of August. For this month, the cubs discuss birthday booboos, visits from family and friends, and colonoscopies. As the guys head into the final third of the year, listen in as their lives continue along similar lines due to the pandemic. Also, did somebody say “thicc”?
What’s Going On?
Jeff: Happy Birthday Boo Boos, and more of the same.
Damon: Family Visit/Gaming/Lots of YouTube
Gary: Busy month, how the hell is it September???
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COL567: Power Hour 8 – Joshua R. Pangborn: Had a blast! Happy Birthday, Jeff!
Re: COL565: LTAS: Gloryhole Safety – King R2K – “This was a pleasure!”
Re: COL567: Power Hour 8 – Oan R. – “Just thought about this just now, but like at the ends or when anybody leaves, y’all should like do a cheers with the shot glasses or the bottles or whatever you have. Always good to send people off.” Oan R. commented: “And now for my rundown of my favorite parts from this video.And now for my rundown of my favorite parts from this video. . In no particular order: – Josh taking his shirt off – Gary taking his shirt off and the millisecond of his nipple screen time. – Ed showing off his tattoos (they coo. Also, he has pierced nipples. That’s hot.) – Smashy taking his pants off (I mean…yeah. That was hot.) – The birthday bear taking his shirt off (yeah, pretty hot) – that one time everybody was talking about watches and I made a joke. Cause that was coo.”
Re: COL567: Power Hour 8 – Fruit Flake – Y’all all looking cute as hell
In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon dish the dirt as the queens do some celebrity improv. The classic Snatch Game of Love is back back back again and these All Stars are all about taking risks. Which gurls provide a laugh out loud performance worthy of continuing and which ones are a “swing and a miss”?
WEEKLY TOPIC
RuPaul’s Drag Race All Stars Season 5
Put the Pedal to the Metal:
“Snatch Game of Love” Improv Challenge
[Damon] – Several Missed Swings
[Gary] – What in the…
Stomp the Runway:
Prom Queen Fantasy
[Damon] – Prom? Where?
[Gary] – Whose Prom Was This??
Lip Sync for Your Legacy:
Bottom Two: Everyone!
The Top Queen is. . . Shea
The Lip Sync Assassin is. . . Miss Vanjie Mateo
“Open Your Heart” by Madonna
[Damon] – Anyone Else Tired of Her Yet?
[Gary] – Huh…
Shea assassinates and… India sashays away
Snaps & Eyerolls:
What was a high point and low point for you
[Damon] – Snaps for…Ru & the Judges on point
[Gary] – Snaps for… Taking Risks
[Damon] – Eyerolls for… the “Drama”
[Gary] – Eyerolls for… WTF was that gross ass Ru/Jeffrey shit?!? AND Shea… that clock oops
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to discuss the landscape of relationships. In this fourth installment, Edward and the cubs break down the complicated emotion of jealousy and how it affects romantic and other relationships. Is jealousy truly a green-eyed monster or just simply misunderstood?
Show Topic
The Landscape of Relationships – Jealousy
Jealousy Quotes
“Beware….of jealousy! It is the green-eyed monster, which doth mock/The meat it feeds on.”-Iago, Othello, William Shakespeare
“Jealousy in romance is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure and, under certain circumstances, can be life-threatening.” – Maya Angelou
“Jealousy is not a barometer by which the depth of love can be read, it merely records the degree of the lover’s insecurity.” – Margaret Mead
Cognitive Triangle
Emotions
Emotions are needed for survival
Universally accepted expressions of feelings
Notice there are more “negative emotions” than “positive emotions”….why?
Complex Emotions
examples : Grief, Regret, Jealousy, Envy
Complex emotions include various emotional states (e.g. grief is the one we are most familiar with….Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance). Freud’s model of Jealousy includes four major components: Grief (pain of losing a relationship), Realization (we can’t have everything we want), Enmity (towards the “winner” of affection/attention), and Anger towards ourselves that we are not good enough.
Complex emotions vary based on the person, situation, and culture….therefore, we can not rely on universally accepted facial expression.
Jealousy
What is it? Jealousy is a complex emotion that includes feelings of anger, sadness, fear. Typically experienced when a person experienced a threat to a relationship.
DISCLAIMER: This feeling is not only reserved for romantic relationships. We can have feelings of jealousy in familial, work, and friend relationships.
Is it normal? Absolutely. Evolutionary scientists have shown that animals, such as dogs, experience jealousy. It is a necessary emotion in order to preserve social bonds. While it may be normal, it may not be helpful.
People who experience jealousy in relationships, not shockingly, report decreased relationship satisfaction.
Why am I feeling Jealous? Research suggests that low self-esteem, possessiveness over others, high neuroticism , fear of abandonment are predictors of jealousy.
Suspicious jealous-feeling stimulated by a thought or a feeling….this is typically due to an attachment trauma, self-conscious, low self esteem.
Reactive jealousy-feeling stimulated by an actual event or triggers. (Second Life study)
What Do We Do?
Work on yourself first….
What is your relationship with jealousy? Do you have a pattern of jealousy in your life? How intense?
What are you feeling (angry, sad, or afraid)?
What evidence do we have? What am I thinking about?
Why am I feeling this way? Am I envious? At whom or what?
How am I experiencing this physically? If I feel tense, can I relax?
Notice that your thoughts and emotions shift and change….this isn’t going to last forever.
Once you do this….then we can talk to our partner.
Communicate with your partner your feelings. Recognize that jealousy isn’t a bad thing. Discuss boundaries.
If your partner is the one who is jealous….
Listen to them….completely (Mantra: Just Shut Up and Listen!)
Don’t respond
Reflect back what you are hearing
Practice empathy
Recognize that the jealous says more about them than it does about you.
Addressing your Jealousy
Refer to The Jealousy Workbook Chapter 17 through the end
Buddhism, mindfulness, meditation, attachment
Eye Movement, Desensitization, and Reprocessing (EMDR)
Positive affirmations
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) CBT therapy that disects thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
Compersion
Combination of pleasant feelings and thoughts towards your partner when they are in a positive romantic relationship with someone else.
Turning jealousy into compersion….finding neutrality. Increase empathy. Look through their eyes.
Constriction to expansion.
Exclusion, abandonment, and deprivation to belonging, autonomy, and responsibility.
Review:
Jealousy is a normal emotion, but not always helpful.
Listen to what jealousy is telling you as the person experiencing it or the person receiving it.
Don’t avoid that you are on the ride.
Communicate
If you feel you suffer from anxious attachment, talking to someone is helpful.
In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, ALL PRAISE THE DIVA! Grab your fans as the queens take you to church. Gary and Damon testify about this parody of public access evangelical talk shows. Watch as the cubs witness the gurls honor Britney and Mariah. Which queen is on the fringes of damnation?
In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon review the next episode of RuPaul’s Drag Race! It’s the Pork Chopped Queens’ turn to bring to the runway! After sitting idle, are these ladies ready to take their laps? Find out who are phenomenal sensations and who’s just a regular bore as the guys critique their onstage debut.
