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COL717: LoR: Healing Our Queer Inner Child

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke joins the cubs again to discuss the psychological concept of the inner child. Initiating from a conversation about Bluey (who knew?), the idea of finding connections to your inner child to heal from the potential harm caused by trauma comes to the forefront in this installment. Listen in as Ed leads the guys on ways to cope with and celebrate with their inner child to bring about healing and growth.

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Landscape of Relationships: Healing Our Queer Inner Child

Our Inner Child is a self-state part of us that is still experiencing and processing emotions, thoughts, and memories from that time but also is playful, spontaneous, and creative. Erik Erikson’s stages of development suggests that we have MULTIPLE inner children/adolescent/emerging adults within us.  

Inner Child is a common topic in therapy 

  • Writing letters to your childhood self
  • Engaging in playful, creative, and spontaneous behaviors 
  • Mindfulness or meditation 

Current topic re: Inner Child “Bluey”

Queer Authenticity 

“Queer people don’t grow up as themselves, we grow up playing  a version of ourselves that sacrifices authenticity to minimize humiliation and prejudice.  The massive task of our adult lives is to unpick which parts of ourselves that are truly us and which parts we created to protect us.” -Alexander Leon

How can we heal our queer inner child?

  • First, talk to a therapist
  • Start asking yourself what you needed growing up and do that
  • Edward’s Disney adventure
  • Music
  • Concerts
  • Playing games
  • Watching cartoons
  • ….get creative!
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COL630: Jingle Mingle

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs have a little holiday mixer. With some listeners joining along, the guys play some games and spread a little holiday cheer.

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Jingle Mingle 

The COL hosts have an online year end social. It’s holiday themed games of virtual bingo, this or that, and we find out who’s on the naughty list!

If you’re interested in our Jingle Jingle Bingo virtual game, below are some details/links to play the same game online. Btw, yes Gary misspelled the word ‘bells’ as ‘beels’ in the list that created this specific game. The website myfreebingocards.com allows you to create virtual games with certain limitations but upgrade options for a cost. 

Play virtual bingo free

Share the Virtual Link below with up to 30 friends. They can play virtual bingo on any device or print out their bingo card. Virtual Link: https://mfbc.us/m/yj52w9w

Everyone who follows this link will get one of 30 random bingo cards. It’s possible that two players will get the same bingo card. If you want to make sure everyone gets a different bingo card you can send out these individual links. If you have more than 30 players choose a paid option. Each player will get a link to their own unique bingo card that they cannot change, and we provide a tool to quickly send out individual links by email. For more information check out our Virtual Bingo Guide.

 

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COL563: What’s Going On – July 2020

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of July. For this month, the guys talk about their work-life balances, family struggles, and a lot of D&D gaming. On top of this, the cubs share your recent feedback, give you some big bear love, and provide some fun shows to get you through your hot summer nights.

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff:  D&D Madness! and The Legend of Korra
  • Damon: Workload, A Tragedy, and a Guest
  • Gary: Welp, Another Month Gone

Feedback:

Facebook Likes:

  • Tiffany Wilson Lane
  • Kitti Sage
  • Anthony Cruz

Facebook Comment/Post:

  • COL558: LTAF: All Time Faves – Tim Shell – Love the episode I hope you do more. I tried Jeff’s version of grilled cheese with munster delicious I’m hooked !
  • COL559: ATNS: A Whole New PRIDE – Tim Shell – Another good episode. I hope you would have a topic about racism in the bear community. I think now would be a good discussion.
  • COL562: What is… Pleasure? – Edward Angelini-Cooke – I love aural pleasure!

Instagram Followers

  • Sirkingbearlamar
  • Justice_for_the_family
  • kybubbabear

YouTube Subscribers:

  • Seika The Bear
  • Dustin Jacobs
  • Eulalia

YouTube Comment:

  • Re: COL562: What is. . . Pleasure? – TheNaishproductions. To some extent Cellphones are glorified portable dopamine dispensers. Not convinced people actually use them as a communication device or more for the narcissistic posting of Food, i’m here & you’re not and the ever impressive “Best Night Everrrrrr!!!” photos. 
  • Re: COL562: What is. . . Pleasure? – Oan R. – Was the self-harm road really the best way to go about talking about pain and pleasure? That was a bit triggering. Edit: I don’t know, maybe I was hearing that wrong. 
  • Re: COL562: What is. . . Pleasure? – Oan R. – About the mask thing: for autistics, sensory issues come into play. Although I haven’t had any issues myself, there are people who have had issues. 

Twitter Followers

  • @CowboySlutty
  • @MAN_UPP01
  • @harmaakarhu
  • @HungdaddyUK
  • @LeilaGr80769383

Recent Shows:

  • COL560: What’s Going On – June 2020
  • Week Off
  • FB321: Goldilocks and the Three Bears
  • COL561: LTAS: Asking and Receiving
  • COL562: What is. . . Pleasure?

Tweet Tweet:

https://twitter.com/BigBeefyBear1/status/1288555370072412163?s=20

https://twitter.com/Dinohunter68/status/1284083219311333377

https://twitter.com/CowboySlutty/status/1289878823954194432?s=20

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COL442: ATNS: Feedback

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another cup of tea as the guys present an All T, No Shade show. This time around, the cubs read and respond to your feedback on some of our most recent episodes. Also, some Thanksgiving leftover conversations and the guys thirsting on some pics.

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Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Marriage & Adoption in Stardew and lazy grocery shopping
  • Damon: I’m Back! ATL and Thanksgiving.
  • Chester: Banned, Birthday, Visitors, Escape Room
  • Gary: Recovery Mode Engaged

Feedback:

Facebook Likes:

  • Mark Wolf
  • Nick DeCoopman
  • Drew Littlefield
  • Bob Green
  • Boy Quinton
  • Lovel Trahan (Pugsley’s BF)
  • Princess Baron
  • Milady Lyn
  • Tom Wray
  • Donnie Royse
  • Morgan J McChurch

YouTube Subscribers:

  • Zak Jackson
  • Brian McGee

Blog Comment:

  • Re: COL430: TTO: Labor Gay: @twatTUBBS’ comment: “just catching up on this show after I been doing alot of travelin, Im the “cigar at work” guy and it made my day that you liked my post. I watch your show all the time guys, love it and thanks for the shout out. O and to the points broght up about the pics, I am faily built but I am a foodie, it was a great cigar yes.  (Alec Bradley) and its not sweat it was oil, those are clips from a vid I made on youtube, let me know if you want the link. TUBBS”
  • Re: COL437: Old School Bears Online: tnliving’s comment: “Having a different view in some part of one’s personal life shouldn’t disqualify them from being a valued member of a community.  Just like we don’t want to be excluded or discriminated from normal civic life because we are gay, we also shouldn’t exclude others based on their political views in general. As with most issues there are plenty of grey areas but being a Donald Trump supporter is not comparable to maybe being a founder of a gay reformation group.  Being an active participant in the Westboro Baptist church should probably preclude somebody from  being taken seriously leading a gay social group.  Being a Republican (even a Trump Republican) certainly should not in my opinion.”

Tumblr Followers:

Tumblr Comment:

  • Mapleleafcub: Thank you so much for the bear of the day
  • wingmandbq to foxbear: Not An Ask but a thanks
    • Not an ask but a thanks … It was great to hear you on the latest episode of Cubs Out Loud!! I kinda fan boyed a bit and may have even did a bit of a squeeeee!!!! too!! Thanks for being involved, it was great to hear you share your knowledge, experience and perspective.
    • Sure, bub!  I’m a semi-regular guest host with the boys from @cubsoutloud, and have probably been on eight or ten episodes–including at least three video episodes that are available on their YouTube channel.  You can probably find them all using the tag cloud over on the COL website.

W Bear – Chester:

  • Rootbeer Pup and Grizzly: You guys are awesome, I love your shows. Keep up the good work. I love listening to you guys when I can.
  • (We then got into a discussion about cigars from COL436: Smokin’ in the Bears Den

W Bear – Gary:

  • Cody says “Hey I love your pictures handsome and I relly like your podcast it got me through my weekend cleaning job and now my commute 😉
    • Yay! Thanks for letting us know. We’re glad it helped you pass the time. 🙂

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ATNS: Feedback

  • Re: COL440: The Klondykes: From [Redacted]: This is NOT a comment of hate, this is a comment of reality……I 1st saw pics of this “contest” on the old (better) Bear Underground site. They were posted by the winner of the “Glitter Bear” title, ya know, the guy who is dolphin smooth and not bear like in any way.. After looking at these very disturbing pictures I simply asked- What do the red\pink stripes stand for then? Of course he replied that he didn’t know and that they were just shades of red and pink. So one can only figure the color stripes stand for the “Klondikes” heavy to lite flow days. The True Bear Community has been being tainted for years and years. This is the straw that breaks the community and welcomes camel toe. Bear means hair, with that in mind I wonder, do these so-called lesbian bears not shave and grow huge bushes?? This entire Bear’s Welcome Everybody thing has gone way too far. There is a line, and the Klondikes are it. Sad to see so many forget their roots.
  • In show response regarding the colors in the logo: Per our guest Courtney Chesser: “I’m so glad someone asked! The logo was made by local Aly shine. It is a mixture of the bear pride flag and femme flag on our behalf. The pinks are the bear pride “skin” colors translated into shades of pink. Pink is traditionally displayed in the femme pride flag so it’s accepting of all ranges of skin as well as ranges of femininity.”
Cooldown Topics

I’ll Tumbl For Ya:

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COLDR: S7E14: Grand Finale

COLDRS7-FinaleIn this episode of Cubs Out Loud Drag Race, Damon and Gary talk about the final episode and crowning of a new queen in RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 7!  The guys discuss the finale, the winner, and breakdown all the tears and laughter throughout.

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Feedback:

From Google+:

Anthony Mendoza

Replying to the question you guys asked, yes sometimes I do find myself agreeing with you. You guys make a lot of valid points and I enjoy your perspective. Early on I found myself agreeing with Gary more (and still do more often than not) but Damon has made compelling arguments that have swayed me before. But then again sometimes I think your both full of shit but I deeply enjoy your commentary anyway because whether I agree with you guys or not I find pursuing other viewpoints that I may not have explored without your opinion. I love your guys’s show and I love the podcast, keep doing what you guys do best! Hugs!!!

spreilly2

#I was born in 92

Weekly Topic

Current episode of RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 7
The Finale!

First Impressions:

  • [Gary] – Work the runway mamas!
  • [Damon] – So many beautiful looks/NOPE!!!

Thoughts on This Episode:

  • [Gary] – Final LIVE lipsycs and one-on-one interviews with Ru
  • [Damon] – Ginger/Big Gurl Winning/Soooo Emotional

Cooldown Topics

Take Aways:

  • [Gary] – Ru’s addressing the ‘hate’ online these days
  • [Damon] – Confidence/knowing your shit really pays off

Snaps / Eyerolls:

  • [Gary] – Snaps for… Kennedy’s runway, Ru’s one-liners, Benda LaCreme’s stunt, Katya’s award, Ru’s dramatic pause
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… Pearl’s wig coming undone during the interview, Kandy Ho’s reveal that she doesn’t typically do her makeup, Ginger’s crowning look
  • [Damon] – Snaps for… Final 3 LSFYL/Jasmine Masters truthfulness/Ginger’s dad and Jaidynn’s mom
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for… Miss Fame and the fuckin’ chicken

Closing Thoughts:

  • [Gary] – The Brand with a Vision is key
  • [Damon] – Now what?

Bonus Material

Logo opened the vaults! A bazillion extra bonus clips on YouTube with too many to list. Use the link and then watch them all.

All three finalists released original music videos!

Ginger Minj – Ooh Lala Lala

Pearl – Love Slave

Voilet Chacki – Bettie

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