In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined by BuilTABear, another trans listener who, after hearing COL514, shared his feedback and brought some perspective that may not have been touched on at that time 4 years ago. The cubs revisit the topic of trans identity and the bear community while also getting to learn more about BuilTABear’s upcoming projects regarding the older trans community.
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Trans Bear Listener 2
In the summer of 2019, we did an interview with listener Trans Bear, or T-bear, to discuss previous episodes where we here and there touched on transness in the broader bear community. In 15 years of the podcast, our understanding of being trans has evolved. True to our nature, we’re excited to come back to this topic with another listener that reached out to us with feedback on episode COL514 from almost 4 years ago amongst others. Thank you BuilTABear for joining us!
What was discovering you’re Trans like?
What has your experience been so far with self-image, coming out to family, friends, co-workers?
How has the Bear community responded to you in general/specifically?
The NEW podcast series OG Transmen: Life After Transition
New Facebook business page: BUILTABEAR PRODUCTIONS
Designed to be an information / networking hub for trans guys
There will be links to relevant articles, any trans producer podcasts, resource page links, trans guy product reviews, trans guy / LGBTQ merchandise, and whatever else comes up…
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of January. As winter chills the air, the guys warm you up with their monthly shenanigans. From new podcasts to new jobs they didn’t want, slide along with the cubs through another month.
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Jeff: Forced Focus
Damon: New Podcast / Home Repairs
Gary: Ok-yeah, coulda been bettah
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Submission from BuilTABear:
Hey Guys! I am listening to your podcast COL514: Trans Bear Listener.
First — GOOD JOB! Thank you for bringing up the topic of trans guys! Please note — not all trans guys are the same or have the same needs, critiques or sensitivities. MANY (not all) guys who are earlier in the process (first 5 years) can be SUPER SENSITIVE about just about everything and often have NO idea they are being that way. I know it’s not politically correct to say that – but it’s the painful truth. After a handful of years living life passing as a cis man we learn to understand the whole world is not out to make us all miserable or be disrespectful to us. ugh. Some guys can really be hard work. Just like any other community, there are some cool guys and some really ODD guys. Mileage may vary :-0
I thought I’d share some of my thoughts about what your email guest had to say:
FEMALE genitalia = In my general experience I agree, we usually prefer words like birth born parts, genetic bits, front business, ANYTHING but being reminded about the emotionally painful word “female” when you are talking about a trans guy. Testosterone makes some pretty significant changes to it and it’s not “standard issue female parts” after a short while anyhow.
JUNK = agree, just ask the guy what he wants his junk called (don’t offer options – just ask)
Bottom Surgery = not being attracted to someone who has had bottom surgery.
Again, those who HAVE HAD bottom surgery are often super sensitive about rejection (as might be expected!). There are some trans guys who have had bottom surgery realizing folks (including other trans guys) are NOT into them BECAUSE of the lower surgery choice. VERY ouchie. Very VERY ouchie (I’d imagine). That’s a lot of work mentally, surgery and money to go through to realize you just put yourself into a VERY narrow date scene. I know of two trans men who committed suicide because of this topic. Saying I’d never have sex with a trans guy who has had bottom surgery is simply unnecessary and rude. It’s like saying “i’d never have sex with a guy with a small penis” — you might think it in your mind and maybe have a general desire for guys 6” or more, but going around admitting you’re a size queen is not pretty. Hope this helps!
Kindly, BuilTABear
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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About…Well, actually, the guys bring back COL Movies for a bit to discuss the movie “Bros”. Talked up as the first mainstream LGBT rom-com, listen in as the cubs share their thoughts on the film, its hype and the recent uproar it has received from fans and critics alike. Does it live up to expectations or is it just another gay movie?
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LTA… BROS (film)
Hollywood made the first ever ‘mainstream’ all LGBTQ romantic comedy, BROS. Opening weekend box office numbers did not match expectations/hopes. Opinions abounded online with digital finger pointing. Having seen the film, what do we think are the ups and downs of this movie? Did it meet our expectations? Do we care about it much?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s Jeff’s Birthday (well almost). As the cubs gather to celebrate Jeff reaching the ultimate question of life, the universe and everything, listen in as they share the fun with Lloyd, Grey and Oan! From bingo to trivia to some naughty this or that, the guys have some hilarious shenanigans to commemorate Jeff’s next turn around the sun.
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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Kink. The guys are again joined by Tony aka Cubziz to discuss their experiences with visiting the Leather Archives and Museum located in Chicago, IL. From rotating exhibits to archiving the leather kink dynamic, listen in as the cubs give their thoughts on the relevance of this piece of queer history. With connections to many aspects of the LGBTQ+ community, find out more about what the LA&M has to offer to everyone; from established kinksters to the fresh-eyed “baby gays”.
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Let’s Talk About Kink: The Leather Archives and Museum
We’re joined once again by kinky boy Tony aka Cubziz for a chat about their experiences with visiting and supporting the Leather Archives and Museum in Chicago, IL.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined by BuilTABear, another trans listener who, after hearing COL514, shared his feedback and brought some perspective that may not have been touched on at that time 4 years ago. The cubs revisit the topic of trans identity and the bear community while also getting to learn more about BuilTABear’s upcoming projects regarding the older trans community.
