In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About Food. For this one, the guys bring back a familiar topic on the show: Thanksgiving! From tasty turkey to perfect pies, listen in as the cubs gobble up their faves and also discuss Turkey Day during a pandemic.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke for an in depth discussion on relationships. For this second part, the guys delve into boundaries and rules. With Edward’s help, the cubs discuss the similarities and differences between these two terms, how they relate to each person and those involved in the relationship, and also discord on the potential minefield of expectations. How do we set our boundaries? Are expectations a good or a bad thing? What’s on your relationship checklist? The guys hash out these questions and more.
Show Topic
The Landscape of Relationships – Boundaries and Rules
Boundaries (“I Will/I Won’t”) v. Rules/Agreements/Expectations (“You/We Won’t”)
debated topic within relationship communities
Is this a rule or a boundary?
Boundary as skin metaphor (protects us from bacteria, allows the good stuff in and sweats the bad stuff out, elastic with limitations [you can break skin], boundaries are about me
Rules are about us and you, jealousy, usually some form of control
Pros and Cons of Rules
Pros:
Contracts
Establishing or Re-establishing solid foundation of connection and intimacy
Conditional…not unilateral or controlling
Spoken
Cons:
Can be Controlling
Can be rigid and unhealthy
Can be Set up to be broken
Unspoken
Agreements are similar to the idea of a relationship contract or vows
Expectations are resentments waiting to happen
Kinds of Personal Boundaries
Emotional
Example: Don’t go to the hardware store for bread
Physical
Examples: allergies, personal bubble, DON’T COME INTO MY ROOM, MOM!!!!
Time
Examples: don’t make plans within 24 hours, I have office hours on Tuesdays
Sexual
Examples: Consent, Refer to checklist
Intellectual
Examples: Agree to disagree, awareness of who and what you are talking about
Material
Examples: Don’t lend out money, I need that sling back by Friday etc
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are finally back together after about 4 weeks apart. While it feels like forever, the cubs get right back into the swing of things and never miss a beat. The gang catches up on our listener feedback, shares what’s been going on their lives, gives some congratulations, and listens to some recent voicemails they have received.
Gary: Up, Down, and All Around [DF, CLAW, Todrick, X Drop]
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Re: COL458 – Turn Ons/Offs: James Martin – Fuck this was bloody hilarious! Keep it up guys!
Thanks handsome! I’m curious what was specifically funny? There were a few good moments. -chester
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Re: COL461: BEAR: Solo or Not – FURinTeeth: The only Bear Run I ever went to was Drenched Fur 4. Was fun but if I ever attend another run I would want to be solo. Less drama all around! As far as the drive, the ride home consisted of me loudly stopping the bitching going on and me blasting my hard rock back to CMH Ohio. lol over all, good and bad times. (never share a room with friends to cut costs)
Re: COL462: OTR: DF14
Grey: I definitely found Aaron to be a source of entertainment, so his badge was accurate
Bobby Miller: Great podcast Gary S. My first bear run was Hibearnation23.
Blog Comment:
Re: COL462: OTR: DF14 – Patrick B.: Let us know when the t-shirts saying “Bear Runs… #buffetsdanceparties&buttstuff” are available. LOL
Bear411:
FurInTeeth – Hey where have all 4 of you been for the past 4 episodes.
@cubsoutloud – You guys are awesome, thanks for the shoutout and yes I made it through the “bullshit or whatever”😂 My favorite Disney film is The Aristocats so yeah…..
In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Chester and Gary welcome extra special guest host Mark. The queens develop panel discussions in front of a live audience about face, body, and hair. And this week word is… ‘proportion-izing’! But it’s the runway Hat’s entertainment…where hair and even IKEA lamps sit atop these queens. Tune in to find out which moments made the guys weep, and which panel discussion they would attend at the next DragCon.
[Mark] – The Vixen is shook … I think she pushed a lot of the negative feedback onto her teammates to save herself emotionally
Snaps / Eyerolls:
[Mark] – Snaps… Eurekas mama made me cry … Blair is exposed and it was raw. #twirlforpeggy
[Mark] – Eyerolls… Vixen thought she was safe … for realz!! That lip sync shook her a bit but she pulled it out.
Last Call:
[Mark] – It was good to see Eureka making amends and building bridges again by owning her big personality and YYYYYAAAAAASSSSS NEXT WEEK IS SNATCH GAME, Bianca is here and the penultimate question of “who should go home and why?” Is asked … check you edges and your alliances/friendships … it’s about to get real!
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are in the center ring as they discuss North American Bear Weekend 2018. Gary, Chester, and Damon ringlead the conversation about the freaks, the clowns, and the menagerie of experiences of the weekend. From the contest and dances to the workshops and more, the cubs shine the spotlight on this international spectacle!
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About Food. For this one, the guys bring back a familiar topic on the show: Thanksgiving! From tasty turkey to perfect pies, listen in as the cubs gobble up their faves and also discuss Turkey Day during a pandemic.
