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COL681: WGO: January 2023

January 31, 2023 boxtech Leave a comment

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of January. As winter chills the air, the guys warm you up with their monthly shenanigans. From new podcasts to new jobs they didn’t want, slide along with the cubs through another month.

What’s Going On?

Jeff: Forced Focus
Damon: New Podcast / Home Repairs
Gary: Ok-yeah, coulda been bettah

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Submission from BuilTABear:

Hey Guys! I am listening to your podcast COL514: Trans Bear Listener.

First — GOOD JOB! Thank you for bringing up the topic of trans guys! Please note — not all trans guys are the same or have the same needs, critiques or sensitivities. MANY (not all) guys who are earlier in the process (first 5 years) can be SUPER SENSITIVE about just about everything and often have NO idea they are being that way. I know it’s not politically correct to say that – but it’s the painful truth. After a handful of years living life passing as a cis man we learn to understand the whole world is not out to make us all miserable or be disrespectful to us. ugh. Some guys can really be hard work. Just like any other community, there are some cool guys and some really ODD guys. Mileage may vary :-0

I thought I’d share some of my thoughts about what your email guest had to say:

FEMALE genitalia = In my general experience I agree, we usually prefer words like birth born parts, genetic bits, front business, ANYTHING but being reminded about the emotionally painful word “female” when you are talking about a trans guy. Testosterone makes some pretty significant changes to it and it’s not “standard issue female parts” after a short while anyhow.

JUNK = agree, just ask the guy what he wants his junk called (don’t offer options – just ask)

Bottom Surgery = not being attracted to someone who has had bottom surgery.

Again, those who HAVE HAD bottom surgery are often super sensitive about rejection (as might be expected!). There are some trans guys who have had bottom surgery realizing folks (including other trans guys) are NOT into them BECAUSE of the lower surgery choice. VERY ouchie. Very VERY ouchie (I’d imagine). That’s a lot of work mentally, surgery and money to go through to realize you just put yourself into a VERY narrow date scene. I know of two trans men who committed suicide because of this topic. Saying I’d never have sex with a trans guy who has had bottom surgery is simply unnecessary and rude. It’s like saying “i’d never have sex with a guy with a small penis” — you might think it in your mind and maybe have a general desire for guys 6” or more, but going around admitting you’re a size queen is not pretty. Hope this helps!

Kindly, BuilTABear

Patreon Updates

Happy One Year Anniversary to Uber patron Tim on 1/15
Happy Upcoming 4 Year Anniversary to Ubehr patron Li on 1/31
BIG BEAR CUB HUGS to our Patrons:
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Recent Shows

COL677: WGO: December 2022
COL678: LTAF: New Year, New Dishes
COL679: 15 Years and Counting
COL680: LoR: Parasocial Interactions

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Each of us find and share something on Twitter that we link to.

Jeff: One Happy Bottom

https://t.co/pzwI6BC9az

— Lucas (@chubbybigbody) January 28, 2023

Damon: Butt Check / The Feast

https://twitter.com/thickpipebear/status/1615488648509636608

https://twitter.com/MadGreyWolf/status/1611557412569235456

Gary: Work Strip / Hottest image on Al Gore’s internet

https://twitter.com/BDC83xxx/status/1614158658262429696

https://twitter.com/ThxccBxtch/status/1614353086599798784

Links:

Jeff: The Legend of Vox Machina – S2 – Trailer (Red Band Trailer) | Prime Video, Mighty Nein – New Show Coming to Prime, Rowan J Coleman’s Star Trek Retrospective

Gary: HBOMax: The Last of Us

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COL591: LTAS: Orgasm vs Ejaculation

February 23, 2021 boxtech Leave a comment

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke for another Let’s Talk About Sex. For this episode, the cubs “cum” together to discuss ejaculation and orgasms. The first thing to learn is that they are not the same thing. Listen in as Ed breaks it down from the scientific to the emotional and all that’s in between.

Show Topic

Let’s Talk About Sex: Orgasm vs Ejaculation

This topic is going to be super straight forward, y’all….

Orgasm refers to the subjective experience of pleasure associated with ejaculation.
Ejaculation is the process of pushing the seminal fluids out of the verumontanum (“balloon”) inside the prostate through the urethra and out of the penis.

Usually these are experienced at the same time, however they are two different physiological processes.

Basically, ejaculation happens between your legs, and orgasm happens between your ears.

Human Sexual Response Cycle (Kaplan, 1974; Masters & Johnson, 1966)

Desire
Excitement (Arousal)
Plateau
Orgasm/Ejaculation
Satisfaction

The Journey to Ejaculation

Erection (brain, nervous system, vascular system leads to penile rigidity….this process is controlled by the parasympathetic nervous system…think “Point”)
Emission
- Collection and transport of fluids that make up semen in preparation for ejaculation. Sperm travels from your testicles through the vas deferens, which meet at the prostate gland with the exiting your bladder to form your urethra tube. The urethra tube runs through the prostate gland and out through the penis. When we get an erection, the exit of the bladder closes (which it is why it is hard to pee in the morning when you have a hard on), your testicles are drawn up against your body, and semen collects in the verumontanum or the “balloon”, which is a balloonlike chamber inside the prostate gland. When someone gets so stimulated to the point of ejaculation, the verumontanum fills with semen to three times its size. The pressure triggers the ejaculatory inevitability sensation and then the reflex of ejaculation. Once we reach this point, there is no turning back, someone could walk in your room with gun’s ablazing, you are still going to shoot your load.
Ejaculation
- Ejaculation does completely happen between your legs, your brain is involved too. When a critical level of nerve input from the verumontanum reaches the spinal cord, that triggers the ejaculatory response. The pelvic floor muscles play a role here too in contracting which helps in the pushing out of the semen. (This process is controlled by the sympathetic nervous system….think: s for shoot) Pro-tip: if you want to delay ejaculation, learn some relaxation pelvic floor exercises to use during sex.

What’s going on between our ears when we orgasm?

During sex, the logical part of our brain (the lateral orbitofrontal cortex) shuts down. This is the part of the brain that is responsible for reason, decision making, and value judgements. Also, likely why we might not always make the best choices when we are having sex. We are less likely to experience a decrease of fear and anxiety during this time.
Oxytocin and vasopresin, the “cuddle hormones” are building up, and are released out of the hypothalamus at the point of orgasm with a rush of dopamine, the “the feel good hormone”.
As we are revving up closer to orgasm, the mix of endorphins, oxytocin, and vasopressin, help to make us less sensitive to pain during sex (note to all you kink-folks out there). So, the same areas in our brain that process pleasure ALSO PROCESS PAIN THERE!
After we orgasm, the body releases serotonin, the happy hormones, which can also stimulate a sense to take a nap.

Questions:

What are some common problems men face during sex?
What are some other questions you guys want to ask me?

Final take-aways: Erection is not needed for orgasm; ejaculation is not required for orgasm; ejaculation and orgasm are not required for a positive sexual experience.

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COL448: Shutdowns – IRL vs Online

January 10, 2018 boxtech Leave a comment

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys share the lowdown on shutdowns. Whether it’s online on your favorite website or in person at your neighborhood bar, everyone has dealt with being dismissed in some capacity. Here, the cubs share their feelings on this recurring issue and discuss how it has changed with the times.

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What’s Going On?

Jeff: A Pitchin’ good time, Civ and Diablo
Damon: A Chill NYE/NYD & The Greatest Showman
Chester: Accepted a “job,” Trident Pledge, ToF Viewing
Gary: An ultimate IRL shutdown

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- Just wanted to send happy New Year’s wishes to the hosts at COL. I know you don’t know us listeners, but through the magic of podcasting you are like friends, keeping us company through chores and commutes. Thank you for being awesome people and for putting your time and effort into a wonderful show that makes our weeks brighter. May 2018 be everything you need it to be. Lots of love.
Huge thanks to TUBBS for the fan art sketches he’s been doing sending us.