In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Sex. This time around, the guys go vintage as they recall some of their favorite porn stars from movies past. With the sudden passing of bear porn actor Steve “Titpig” Hurley, listen as the guys get pensive and wonder “where are they now?” From nostalgia to morbid curiosity, the cubs ponder which of their adult entertainers have daddied up or who might be sitting in the video booth in the sky.
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Lets Talk About Sex: Aging Adult Entertainers
We discuss the aging of generations and how we feel regarding the news that adult entertainers we enjoyed in our youth are no longer with us.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Sex. For this episode, the cubs talk about being hangry for handjobs, famished for facials and in anticipation of anal. As the pandemic heads into its 3rd year, the cubs discuss sexual starvation. As many gays & others are dealing with the lack of touch of another person, what can be done to get their freak on while still mitigating risk? From creating sex bubbles to taking matters into your own hands, listen as the guys find ways to satiate the sexually starved.
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Lets Talk About Sex: Sex Starvation
The cubs return to talk about sex, or the lack of it…for a long time. The pandemic isn’t ending soon so are the gays getting their freak on or holding back due to COVID?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Sex. This time around, the cubs (sans Jeff) get into the spooky season with some sex horror stories. From bathrooms to bathhouses, the guys share their bad hookups while also giving advice on safer consensual practices to hopefully soften the blow of your next sex slip up.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this one, the guys continue the discussion from COL604 about apologies and move on to forgiveness. What is forgiveness? After apologizing, should you ask for forgiveness? Are there any benefits to forgiving someone? The cubs give their answers to these questions and more.
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Landscape of Relationships: Forgiveness
Last time we talked about apologies, and we started to talk about the process of forgiveness and how that can relate to the apology process.
According to the 5 languages of apologies, requesting forgiveness is the last language….and I disagree. I don’t think it is fair to request, assume, or expect someone to forgive you. The responsibility lies on the person hearing the apology whether or not they want to forgive the situation….because at the end of the day, it isn’t really about that other person….it is about them.
So what is forgiveness?
“Forgiveness” is the act or process of forgiving or being forgiven. And “forgive” means to end the resentment or anger felt towards another person, situation, or think for an offense, flaw, or mistake.
Cultural idea that forgiveness is one of the greatest of virtues, the highest form of love, and necessity for good mental and physical health. This view says that forgiveness helps reduce stress, blood pressure, lowering risk of heart attacks, and other mental health concerns such as depression and anxiety.
Studies have indicated that the benefits of forgiveness include lowered cholesterol, decreased risk of heart attacks, and other mental health concerns such as anxiety and depression.
The problem with this model is that it gives the idea that forgiveness is the only path and if you don’t forgive an unapologetic person, then you are somehow less spiritual and more inclined to physical and emotional problems. Rushing to forgive can have its own costs as psychologist Janis Abraahms Springs believes.
In “Why Won’t You Apologize”, Harriet Lerner mentions that many of her clients are not necessarily looking to forgive someone but rather to be rid of the anger, bitterness, resentment, and pain. They want to let go. We don’t have to forgive in order to let go. While for some people, seeking to forgive others may be the goal and an important part of their spiritual journey. That is called radical forgiveness. Studies indicate that forgiveness is important to a successful relationship.
To go back to the health benefits of forgiveness…it is more the act of letting go of what you can’t control that is the most healing.
Apologies should never be forced, demanded, or commanded. “It’s been twenty years, why can’t you forgive him?”
Forgiveness also isn’t all-or-nothing. We can forgive someone 95 percent to 2 percent or anywhere in between. It is up to you. And that is powerful.
Also….lets not forget self-forgiveness or self-compassion. We are oftentimes our own worst enemy. We need forgiveness just as much as other people….if not more.
Final thing: You do not need to forgive a person who has hurt you in order to free yourself from the pain of negative emotions. And it is no one else’s job to tell you to forgive…or not to.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs get sexy online. For this installment of Let’s Talk About Sex, the guys discuss the creator-driven content sites such as OnlyFans and JustForFans and their recent uptick in popularity during the pandemic, particularly for those wishing to share their body positivity and other sexual exploits for profit. As the guys share their thoughts on these sites and their popularity, what kind of impact is this having on traditional pornography? Is this another fad or the eventual evolution of the porn industry?
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Lets Talk About Sex: JustForFans / OnlyFans
The COVID-19 pandemic in 2020 shifted the world economy in serious ways. Prior to the global pandemic, the landscape of self-promotion as an artist was already taking off in the digital realm. Social media platforms like Twitter, Facebook, and YouTube rose to the top of the field. However these entities expend a lot of effort, time, and energy to limit access or remove adult content out of their own legal protective interests. Sites like XTube have recently taken actions that have limited adult content creators options.
Now it’s 2021 and over that past year it appears that the LGBTQIA broader community has become more familiar and possibly comfortable with sites like JustFor.Fans and OnlyFans.com as platforms where personal freedoms are housed for body positivity, sexual expression, art/modeling, and more.
What do we think about this development? How much have these options helped people financially through the past year plus? Is this a natural evolution while portions of society struggle with conservative vs progressive viewpoints?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Sex. This time around, the guys go vintage as they recall some of their favorite porn stars from movies past. With the sudden passing of bear porn actor Steve “Titpig” Hurley, listen as the guys get pensive and wonder “where are they now?” From nostalgia to morbid curiosity, the cubs ponder which of their adult entertainers have daddied up or who might be sitting in the video booth in the sky.
