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COL730: LoR: Tolerance vs Acceptance

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke returns and this time we discuss tolerating versus accepting behaviors in our relationships. Do we let the annoying Aunt Ida in?

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Landscape of Relationships: Tolerance vs Acceptance

What is tolerance?

  • Tolerance is the state of “putting up with something without directly opposing it.”  It brings up ideas of enduring or allowing certain behaviors.  But it doesn’t mean embracing or supporting these behaviors or actions.
  • It’s a head thing

What is acceptance?

  • Acceptance is the state of opening yourself up completely to a situation, not how your mind sees it.  Acknowledging the reality of a situation without the need to change it or resist it.  Being open to differences and embracing them through love and compassion.
  • It’s a heart thing

Tolerance 

  • It involves the suppression of difficult emotions.  Can lead to feelings of resentment and anger due to lack of acceptance or understanding.

Acceptance 

  • This process can lead to feelings of love, compassion, and empathy.  The more that we feel connected to someone the deeper our understanding is.  

ACT with Love by Russ Harris [purchase on Amazon]

DRAIN

  • Disconnect
  • Reactivity
  • Avoidance
  • Inside your mind
  • Neglecting Values

LOVE

  • Letting go
  • Opening up
  • Values 
  • Engage 

“Annoying Aunt Ida”

  • Acknowledge 
  • Allow
  • Accommodate
  • Appreciate
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COL679: 15 Years and Counting

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs celebrate the show’s 15th anniversary! Many years ago, our producer, Jeff, got the itch to create a podcast and invited his friends to join him. Fifteen years, two generations of hosts, several guests and 100s of episodes later, COL is still going strong. Listen as the guys reminisce about the past and ponder the future.

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15 Years and Counting

Many moons ago, a cub had an idea to get some people together and record their thoughts on dang near everything and anything. They called it Cubs Out Loud. Since then, 678 sequential episodes have been produced, two generations of hosts, thousands of hours for listening/watching guys yammering, and over 450 videos on YouTube. It’s been a wild ride for a decade and half. What comes next? Hell if we know!

 

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COLFB265: OTR: Tidal Wave/Gay Days 2014 PART ONE

Damon and Gary are on the road in Orlando Florida at World Bear Weekend. Speaking of Orlando? Did you know Cubs Out Loud has been there before? Well you’re in luck because this week it’s a flashback EIGHT YEARS to the summer of 2014. Ahh…memories. How little we knew back then.

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COL544: The Return of Bathhouses?

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys make a splish-splash as they talk about bathhouses. With decades old laws in San Francisco soon to be removed, the cubs discuss the relevance of bathhouses and whether there is still a necessity for them in today’s modern culture, especially with apps and PrEP.

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The Return of Bathhouses? – San Francisco is considering making bathhouses legal once again, a quarter century later. We’ve come a long way from the height of the AIDS epidemic when they were outlawed in 1984. Has PrEP created this turning point for MSM? 

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COL462: OTR: DF14

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, Gary takes a break during Drenched Fur 14 to have a chat with returning COL guests Aaron and Ray of the Kentucky Bourbon Bears. They chat about their experiences with hosting, volunteering, and attending bear runs. Tune in to see what they have to say about working an event and what helps to create one guys enjoy.

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On The Road Show: Drenched Fur 14 in Erie, Pennsylvania

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