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COL636: LoR: Love Languages

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this episode, the guys show how they feel the love within the five love languages. From learning what the languages are to sharing their results, listen in as the guys gift us some touching acts of quality words to help understand how these languages affirm the love and affection one can feel for their loved ones. In addition, learn more about more recent developments in the love languages from neurodivergent to kink play dynamics.

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Landscape of Relationships: Love Languages

Love Languages (Gary Chapman):

  1. Words of Affirmation 
  2. Quality Time
  3. Acts of Service 
  4. Gifts
  5. Physical Touch 

The 5 Love Languages (according to Britney, Bitch!):

  • Physical Touch: My loneliness is killing me
  • Words of Affirmation: I must confess I still believe
  • Quality Time: When I’m not with you I lose my mind
  • Give Giving: Give me a sign
  • Acts of Service: Hit me baby one more time

The 5 Neurodivergent Love Languages:

  • Infodumping
  • Parallel Play
  • Support Swapping
  • Please Crush My Soul Back into My Body
  • “I found this cool rock/button/leaf/etc and thought you would like it”

Comparison of Results:

Gary Chapman, PhD, 1992, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts 

Fear not: John Gottman and the Gottman approach, which I reference often, is a good overlap with the 5 languages of love….and allows some flexibility with the concepts.

BDSM and Love Languages  

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COL398: LTAS: ‘Bud Sex’

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, we are joined by Hadrian for another Let’s Talk About Sex! This time around we talk about “bud sex”, where rural guys are hooking up with other guys, but are totally “not gay”. Is this a new phenomenon or just a rebranding of something the guys already knew about?

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What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Hibernation Mode
  • Damon: Union Suits and Revisiting Spaces
  • Gary: New Year, SSDD
  • Hadrian: Travel and Fun

Weekly Topic

Let’s Talk About Sex discussion with guest Hadrian on ‘Bud Sex’. Part of the topic will be covered by two recent articles about men having sex with men and ‘dropping’ labels.

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COL335: LTAS: Cuddling

COL335In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another Let’s Talk About Sex! We are joined by special guests Hadrian and Gabriel to talk about cuddling. Is cuddling just a gateway to the orgasm or is it something more? Listen in as the guys discuss the various types of cuddling and what benefits we reap from the cuddling.

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Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff – Back into GoT
  • Damon – JANET!, CLAW & Timing
  • Gary – Virgins are fun!

Weekly Topic

Cuddling; likes, dislikes, pros/cons, benefits

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