Hello, Ladies, Gentlemen and NBs. We’ve got a special treat for you while Damon and Gary have to run away this weekend. But have no fear! Today we’re time traveling back to FIFTEEN YEARS AGO. Yes, you heard that right. Today’s flashback is hot tub time machine to March 18, 2009. It’s the OG hosting crew with Jeff, Tim, JJ, and Griff! Awww, we were just a baby podcast. My how the times have changed, especially Twitter and we’ve grown up too! From green beer to turnoffs and addictions, it’s a flashback to COL Episode 058.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke joins the cubs again to discuss how adulting is a part of our lives. From anxiety to accomplishments, it’s a discussion about how we move through avoiding responsibilities to the other side.
Show Topic
Landscape of Relationships: Adulting
What is adulting?
“The characteristic of behaving in a way characteristic of a responsible adult; especially the accomplishments of mundane but necessary tasks.”
Avoidance
the action of keeping away from or not doing something.
Experiential avoidance
the unwillingness to remain in contact with aversive experiences such as painful feelings, thoughts, and emotions
the relief that comes after you don’t do something
instead of doing things that i need to do, i end up playing videos on tiktok or playing little games, or a get distracted
Workability
the concept of how our reaction to our thoughts are helpful or unhelpful and moving us towards the person we want to be. Less focus on whether our thoughts are right or not.
Example
EAC Therapy 2023 Business goals
Moving completely independent, get credentialed with insurance companies, and get my Sex Therapy Certification
I was unwilling to make room for the anxiety that came along with the thought of failure
Not doing them was easier than doing them….and I ALWAYS had an excuse NOT to do them.
Pick one thing from each category and do each of them until you are done….then repeat as much as your can until you are done for your day
The science tells us that if you can do something quick and easy then you have the momentum into a cleaning task. Then you are already up, might as well complete that big task you have been putting off. Once you are done, you can watch the season finale of that show you have been watching.
Dr. Edward’s suggestions:
Be kind to yourself, Be realistic, Be brave and you will be ready.
Get an accountability partner
“Of course, I don’t want to do this. It’s okay to feel scared about this.”
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another installment in the Let’s Talk About… series. After the audio issues a couple of weeks ago, the guys are returning to the discussion of their life experiences over the decades in the bear community. In this “redux”, the cubs discuss growing up, life lessons and how it feels to be adults. From finding your tribe to balancing your checkbook, listen in on the ins and outs of being big ole bears.
Show Topic
LTA… Adulting, Redux
Recently Jeff and Gary had a lovely chat about the passage of time as cubs of a certain age. After quite a few years in the bear community, our journeys through life had been down and up. Do we regret growing up? What lessons do we have for others to consider?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of November. As the guys end the month of thanks, they find themselves with not a lot to be thankful for. It’s been a month of ups and downs, so listen in as the cubs share their goings-ons as we close out on the year.
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COL719 comments and more: Hey Guys, I hate to be complaining, but am sending this email in case if you are unaware. I downloaded COL 719 and sadly could not hear Jeff speak at all. I could hear Gary and background music. I went to look at youtube today and it seems to be operating the same way. I’ve listened to quite a few podcasts where Jeff’s volume was very low and hard to hear, while all the other guys were ok. COL 719 is the first that I recall not hearing Jeff at all. Just wanted to let you know. – MTNB
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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another installment in the Let’s Talk About… series. Damon’s away spreading love and affirmations at the 2024 Virginia Bear Contest Weekend. Jeff and Gary have a nice chat about what they’ve discovered in becoming grown ups including lessons learned. Speaking of, there was a bit of an oops in this show. Let’s just say this is pretty much a one-sided conversation. Listen in as Gary gives his views on adulting.
Show Topic
LTA… Adulting
With the passage of time, as cubs of a certain age, we’ve had to deal with some things that came along our paths that we weren’t exactly prepared for in our youth. In recent years we’ve discussed the desire for aging cubs to relive their youth. Has adulting been too stressful? Is getting older not so enjoyable? Are there any shining moments we recall from being adults and on our own?
Hello, Ladies, Gentlemen and NBs. We’ve got a special treat for you while Damon and Gary have to run away this weekend. But have no fear! Today we’re time traveling back to FIFTEEN YEARS AGO. Yes, you heard that right. Today’s flashback is hot tub time machine to March 18, 2009. It’s the OG hosting crew with Jeff, Tim, JJ, and Griff! Awww, we were just a baby podcast. My how the times have changed, especially Twitter and we’ve grown up too! From green beer to turnoffs and addictions, it’s a flashback to COL Episode 058.
