Tag Archives: representation

COL510: Honesty vs Truth

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys share their honest opinions about the ongoing debate between honesty and truth. Do we really want others’ honest opinions? Listen in as the guys discuss the differences between these two similar but different words. Do they really want to hear the T or are they good with just a little honest-T?

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We say we want people to tell us how they feel. But do we really? And what exactly is the difference between being honest versus telling the truth? Are they the same? Or do we confuse the two?

 

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COL503: Gayming Characters

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs welcome back the adorkable Chris Diorio to geek out on some gaming representation. The cubs converse about the video game industry and characters that are part of the LGBTQ+ spectrum. How has the changing culture of gay acceptance affected the characters depicted in modern gaming? Is it just lip service or part of the game development? With Chris’s experience and inside knowledge, the cubs delve into these questions and more.

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Discussion with Guest Host Chris D on ‘gayming’ characters in video games and how the player communities have reacted to date.

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COL482: Addiction / Cheating with Dr. Cisco

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Dr. Cisco. First, the cubs chat about Cisco’s current research project regarding opioid addiction. After this, the guys review a recent British article regarding a survey/“study” about gay men and cheating. What is cheating? Can you cheat while being in an open relationship?

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Dr. Cisco Salgado returns to discuss his recent work in opioid addiction studies and how much ‘weight’ we should give a study from earlier this year that most gay men cheat on their partner.

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COL473: More Fats, More Femmes

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys talk about the diversity of the bear community. In its over 30 years of existence, the guys give their opinions how much or how little it has changed in terms of inclusion, diversity, body positivity and more. Is this a trend heading towards inclusivity or a sign of the end of bear times?

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What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Insomnia and the Pokèmon addiction
  • Damon: Coworker Fun/Board Retreat
  • Gary: Rebalancing

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  • Marco Gomez John Slater

YouTube Comment:

  • Re: COL472: Giving/Taking… Compliments
    • Woofy – I have a habit of when I get a compliment I have a compulsive need to throw one back, even if I’m not interested. Something I need to work on, to just accept the compliment with a thanks.

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  • To Jeff: RE: COL472: bostonareabear on Bear411: “Are you gonna talk or are you gonna gloss your lips?” Funniest line of the last COL podcast.
  • To Damon: RE: COL471: Gonzo Gonzales “I just heard your podcast on body positivity and wanna thank you for thinking of me. I was in tears. Love you so much.”

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More Fats, More Femmes – we like to see diversity, but …

    • Where is the diversity in the Bear Community?
    • How much have things changed in nearly 30 years?
    • Are we satisfied with what is represented today?
    • Is Tumblr the new bear porn for showing the reality of bodies and sex?

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COL282: Let’s Talk About Kink – Dom/sub, you don’t say!

LTAKIn this episode of Cubs Out Loud, we welcome Ches and Matt to lead an in depth discussion on Dom/sub relationships. From defining some of the terms to offering their takes on the dynamics, the guys exchange insights and provide an intriguing dialogue on power exchange and control.

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What’s Going On?

  • [Damon]-Where I Have Been (Comic Con, Bluegrass Leather, Ren Fair)
  • [Gary] – Getting Older

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BDSM Discussion: Dom/sub Dynamics

  • Dom/sub, Daddy/boy, Sir/boy, Master/slave
    • Role play vs Power Exchange
    • Power Exchange
      • Dom/sub – umbrella
      • “With great power comes great responsibility”
        • Master/slave – focus on pleasure of Master; steward/guardian of slave
        • Daddy/boy & Sir/boy – conditional submission; varying kinds
          • Daddy/boy – mentoring, growth and nurturing for better service in and out; temporary relationship with a defined beginning and end
          • Sir/boy – personal service tailored to the Sir ; extended dynamic with long term possibility
  • Labels, Identities & Titles
    • Look at the power exchange
    • Self-identification
    • Thoughts on Being a Bear
    • “Respect somebody else’s kink”
      • Needs, Activities, Experiences
    • “Safe, Sane, and Consensual” – old mantra?
    • “RACK – Risk, Aware, Consensual, Kink” – new mantra?
  • Play Dynamics vs. Scene Dynamics vs. Relationship Dynamics
    • Play – experiencing with known boundaries
    • Scene – substantial power exchange; individuals familiar with aspects of time, players, experience levels
    • Relationship – extend outside of private settings, more public appearance
  • Closeness of Leather/BDSM Community
    • Support structure for others
  • Respect, Reciprocity and Abuse
  • Personal Responsibility in Representation
  • Local Community Reaction
  • For Da Noobz

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  • [Gary] – No Boyfren Bon Qui Qui feat. Tammy

  • [Jeff] – Matt Alder – Handsome Man

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