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COL421: Couples Age Differences

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud,  we are joined by Ches to talk about intergenerational relationships: the good, the bad, and the uncomfortable. We get it on with the May-December, throw down with All the Young Dudes, dust off our Silver Daddy/Santa fantasies, and talk about how cubs and Daddy bears make age-gaps in relationships work.

Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Computer Down, Repeat, Computer Down!
  • Damon: Part of an panel
  • Chester: It’s been a hell of a month!
  • Gary: Guess who’s back in the house?
  • Ches: Pride; Birthday; Welcome baby Finnian!

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  • Andrew Ealy ordered a COL T-Shirt and sent us a photo with the message “How YOU doin’ !!! Got my new COL shirt today!”

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  • @dftbapaul in re: to
    • COLSP06: Daddy’s Day Storytime
      • “Whew that was sexy. Blushing at work
      • In a reply to @fyzzgiggidy
        • Btw a good way to get more info is to go to the @cubsoutloud podcast and use the search feature and look up the ltak (let’s talk about kink)
    • Missing COLDR tweets.

Weekly Topic

Relationships with Age Spans between the Partners

  • Age is a number… Generational Gaps no longer defined
  • Values, Morals, and Ethics.
    • Values: Are having an emotional investment (either for or against something)
    • Morals: Are your ideas of what is right and what is wrong
    • Ethics: Are a set of rules which are explicitly adopted by a group of people
  • Age, Maturity, Life Experiences
    • Older Age =/= Mature, just as Younger Age =/= immature
  • Friends and Family Reactions/Acceptance
  • Challenges
    • Lack of life experiences can be frustrating
    • Facing down the question of mortality
  • Advantages
    • Experiencing new things together
      • Sharing our favorite things
        • music, movies, Gaming/TTG
      • Seeing things “new” again
      • The ability to help teach

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COLDR: S9E10: Makeovers: Crew Better Work

In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, the guys are again joined by Brady to discuss the magical makeover challenge of the most recent episode of RuPaul’s Drag Race. This time, the show’s crew are the victims of this dragnificent makeup challenge. Which queen lip-sticks the competition? Check out the cubs’ looks as they put down the foundation for a blushing makeover.

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  • AJ Lewis: “I have a request, although the season is almost over, could you all please stop talking around the episode and out of order? I ask because you guys do not mention names, the scene or anything as though a spoiler will be released a week after the show aired. Yes we all know Valentina didn’t know the song and was sent home as a result, so please critique that action. Pick apart Debbie downer Nina or better yet their outfits.”

Weekly Topic

RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 9 Episode 10

Thoughts on This Episode:

  • [Gary] – It took 10 to be entertained
  • [Damon] – The cast and crew are family
  • [Chester] – SO. MUCH. FUN.
  • [Brady] – Mothertuckers!

Thoughts on Untucked:

  • [Damon] – Peppermint and Trinity have had it.
  • [Chester] – Fun carried over…
  • [Brady] – Not surprised…but hamburgers!?
  • [Gary] – Where’s Nina? Oh, nevermind

Cooldown Topics

Takeaways:

  • [Chester] – True sisterhood
  • [Brady] – Let’s talk about Brady ;D
  • [Gary] – Mental Health for All to See
  • [Damon] – Walking a Mile…

Snaps / Eyerolls:

  • [Gary] – Snaps for… Wintergreen Tastes Great & Donatella Velour’s Shade at Trinity
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… Unavoidable Behaviors
  • [Damon] – Snaps for… Kesha and Wintergreen banter..EPIC!
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for… Nina giving up, but not giving up.  
  • [Chester] – Snaps for… Wintergreen for All Stars 3!
  • [Chester] – Eyerolls for… Nina just laying on the couch
  • [Brady] – Snaps for… Nina attempting to sew.
  • [Brady] – Eyerolls for… Consistency!

Closing Thoughts:

  • [Damon] – Top 5 Bitches!! Not who I thought it was…
  • [Chester] – Pure entertainment, fun all around
  • [Brady] – Great episode, and the top 4 is…
  • [Gary] – We Are Family & Queens will be slayed by the cuts from 1,000 nit picks

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COLDR: S9E07: 9021-HO

Hey dudes and dudettes, it’s time for another episode of COL Drag Race T Time. Radical! SO, like in this episode, the queens turn back time to 1993 and take the guys to Beverly Hills, 9021-HO. Find out who was “all that” and who wasn’t “fly”.

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Weekly Topic

RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 9 Episode 7

Thoughts on This Episode:

  • [Gary] – Comedy & Acting Challenge!!
  • [Damon] – Bitter Bitches get Bagged
  • [Chester] – Yawn. Another filler episode

Thoughts on Untucked:

  • [Damon] – Memories
  • [Chester] – Aja gifts Nina some dresses
  • [Gary] – Keepin it 100 & Family Values

Cooldown Topics

Takeaways:

  • [Chester] – Strongest look for Aja, I mean Adore 2.0
  • [Gary] –  Too little, too late
  • [Damon] – High School can suck

Snaps / Eyerolls:

  • [Gary] – Snaps for… Drama Slaps & Aja’s Runway
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… The gawd damn production crew
  • [Damon] – Snaps for… RuPaul’s crack at Farrah being born in 93
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for… Aja & Nina’s 9021-Oh no she better don’ts
  • [Chester] –  Snaps for… Sasha’s on-point look
  • [Chester] – Eyerolls for… Alexis and perfecting 90210

Closing Thoughts:

  • [Damon] – Shine when you can, or you just might lose
  • [Chester] – Numbers Game: Shea/Trinity w/ 2 wins
  • [Gary] – Eight remain, let the nitpicking begin

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COL410: Underbears Podcast Crossover at DF13

In this episode Cubs Out Loud, Chester and Gary take an hour during their time at Drenched Fur 13 to join Dave and Jason from The Underbears Podcast for a repeat crossover episode. Plus they’re joined by Brady and Ray, current and previous titleholders from the North American Bear Weekend. Listen in as they discuss getting caught by their Moms, Tumblr posts, winning titles, and more.

Weekly Topic

  • Two podcasts join forces on camera to discuss their experiences at Drenched Fur 13 in Erie, PA
  • Last crossover episode was Underbears Podcast Episode 21

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COL399: Tabletop Gaming

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs roll the dice on the topic of tabletop gaming. Listen in as the guys throw their cards on the table about what games they enjoy, what they like and don’t like about tabletop and card gaming. From the groans when someone mentions Monopoly to the joy and excitement of Exploding Kittens, have some fun gathering around for a great gaming adventure.

Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: AGDQ
  • Damon: Fuck You, Mother Nature!
  • Chester: Travel!
  • Gary: Ick

Did I Do That?

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  • Mathew Scheuring (Shoo-ring)
  • Jake Dzadon (Zay-duhn)
  • Joshua Vijiyakumar

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  • Chester Beltowski: I’m listening to episode COL398: Bud Sex and I am laughing my ass off at the “old fluids” bit, man I wish I was on the show for this! BTW Damon, the “wall” you were describing can be considered anthropologically significant.

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  • Chels m
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  • Maxx Dennis
  • Adam Medina

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From right after Christmas…

Hi, guys.  I’m about 2 months behind in listening to your podcast, and I’m having a problem with Chester’s “I’ll Tumbl For You” links.  Whenever I try to open one (current example), I get “The URL you requested could not be found.”  I tried following Chester’s “The Cub Up There” blog back to the date of the show (slow-scrolling thru 2 months of backlog), but I couldn’t find anything there that looked like what he described on the show.

Is it possible that Chester deletes his Tumblr posts after the “Cubs Out Loud” podcast?

Keep ’em coming, & merry holidays,

Henry

Atlanta, Ga.

From after COL398 ‘Bud Sex’

Hi there cubs!

First of all, Happy New Year and thanks for having Hadrian read those stories a few episodes ago! It definitely made the cold weather somewhat warmer 😀 Second, I just finished listening to the Bud Sex episode you just released. I also briefly read the scientific journal article afterward. Being that you have indirectly summoned the COL scientist (thanks for the title, Jeff), I considered writing about a few things relevant to the discussion.

  1. Defining/measuring sexual orientation: A few of you mentioned the Kinsey scale to define sexual orientation. As revolutionary as this scale was back in the 50s, it does not represent sexual orientation accurately. Consider it more of a legacy instrument than a good one to define and measure sexual orientation. More recent models have proposed at least 3 dimensions to sexual orientation that can explain most of what we observe: identity, behavior, attraction.

        Identity refers to how you define yourself, in this case, sexually. If you identify as gay, bi, straight, queer, etc. that is your identity.

        Behavior refers to what people do sexually. In other words, who are people having sex with?

        Attraction refers to the gender you are attracted to.

Further, imagine that these 3 dimensions can be measured on a scale (for example, 1 to 10) instead of a “yes” or “no.” For example, I identify as gay (10) and do not identify as bi (0), straight (0), or queer (0); I have only had sex with men (10) and I have not had sex with women (0); and I feel very attracted to men (9) and a little attracted to women (3).  Now, based on our understanding of sexual orientation with these 3 dimensions we can conceive the existence of men who identify as straight, have sex with men and women at different levels, and feel attracted to both males and females at different levels. That is what sociologists, anthropologists, and the community at large may consider MSM, brojob, or bud-sex dude. Consider also those guys who identify as gay (8-10), who have only had sex with women because of social expectations or other reasons, and may be attracted to men way more than to women. I have met bears who were married, had kids, ended up getting a divorce, and are in a current relationship with another guy. They do not consider themselves as bisexual. The combinations are endless and could also encompass asexual (identity) people who are not interested in sex (behavior), but like people of their own, opposite, or both genders(attraction). I have found in my own research that this model captures way more information than a simple yes/no or Kinsley scale. Also, with this more comprehensive model, there is no need to challenge anyone’s identity because of who they are having sex with. Science is not barely catching up. In psychology we have had this and similar models for a long time (probably 30 years) but since it is more complicated to understand and does not raise much controversy, popular publications outside the field pay little attention.

  1. Sample size: Yes, 19 participants are not much and all of them are self-selected. Both things affect generalizability. Unless you have millions of dollars to conduct a study or you are gathering data for a census, this limitation is common, especially on research using interviews as the method to collect data. This limitation does not prevent the information to be valuable, especially when it elicits new ideas and a few hypotheses just like the ones Hadrian presented.

As usual, if you have any extra questions please let me know.

Cisco

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  • Several private photos from GBearTrekker65, there’s also a photo of him with another person, is this your partner?

Weekly Topic

Bears and Tabletop Gaming

Why do so many bears like TTG/CG?

  • Common interest
  • Forced social interaction

Kickstarter:

  • Cards Against Humanity leads the charge
  • Exploding Kittens, Joking Hazard
  • Bears vs Babies!

Chester’s Quick Poll Results:

  1. Favorite Games
    1. Betrayal at House on the Hill (because the game changes every time you play it)
    2. Magic: The Gathering (for deck customization)
    3. Super Dungeon (because it’s co-op)
    4. Zombicide
    5. Joking Hazard
  2. Preference for group size
    1. People enjoy going to parties with lots of people, but prefer to play in smaller groups
  3. Gaming at bear runs?
    1. Absolutely!  They feel that official time slots should be part of the event schedule
  4. Where do people find other gamers?
    1. Word of mouth
    2. Facebook groups (Bears Be Gaming, Nerdybears, Geekybears)
    3. Personal ads (growlr shouts)
    4. Bear Runs
    5. Gaming stores!
    6. Gaming bars!   

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