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COLDR: S7E6: The Bitches of Untucked

COLDRS7-Ep6In this episode of Cubs Out Loud Drag Race, Damon and Gary talk about the sixth episode of RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 7! In tonight’s episode, the drama becomes real as the queens spill the tea on each other. Who’s to blame for the stirring the pot: Ginger or Max? Also, the cubs tackle the acting challenges, the bullshit and more. And, will Miss Fame ever SHUT UP?!?!

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Episode 6 of RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 7

First Impressions:

  • [Gary] – Hacks… poor acting jobs
  • [Damon] – Give Violet a chance?

Thoughts on This Episode:

  • [Gary] – The bitchiness has arrived
  • [Damon] – What’s with all the acting challenges?

Thoughts on Untucked:

  • [Gary] – Ginger tastes nasty and Max is hated
  • [Damon] – The Stitch & Bitch Club (Ginger, Katya, Kennedy)

Cooldown Topics

Take Aways:

  • [Gary] – Snaps for… Ross Matthews trying to work
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… all the shade and shit stirring aka ghosts of drama past
  • [Damon] – Snaps for…Merle Ginsberg is back/Ariana Grande during LSFYL/Untucked
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for … Max poking the fire (at Kennedy)

Closing Thoughts:

  • [Gary] –
  • [Damon] – SNATCH GAME!!

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COL295: LTAK: Pup Play

PupPlayAOn this episode of Cubs Out Loud, we have another Let’s Talk About Kink. This time, it’s pup play! We are joined by Chester/AlphaShutter, Daniel aka BearberlyCrusher, and pup Jericho to discuss this aspect of kink.Grab your favorite chew toy and cuddle up.

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What’s Going On?

  • [Jeff] – 7/7 Heroic
  • [Damon] – Louisville Trip
  • [Gary] – No NY Crud!
  • [Chester] – There’s No Place Like Home
  • [Daniel and Jericho] – In Bed

Feedback:

BU:

  • Mysterysammy

FB Likes:

  • Aaron Sobczak

FB Comment:

  • COL287: Canadian Extravaganza!: Thomas Hammond: listened to show at work with my headphones, made my monday enjoyable

Weekly Topic

  •  Pup Play – definition
    • A ‘fetish’ derived from Dom/Sub side of BDSM where the sub counterpart takes on behaviors of a dog, a Dom counterpart takes on a role of “handler/trainer.” Puppies will get into a “headspace” where it is easy for them to shed their human self and accept their puppy self.
  • Roles/Duties
    • As with any fetish, there is no black and white.  It’s not uncommon for pups to take on a slave type of role.
  • Reasons for experience
    • Chester: For me, it allows me to express myself with a different persona. Being obedient is very easy for me, and I enjoy the interactions of a Dom counterpart treating me as a pup.  I also have more self confidence when I am in a public space like a bear run or gear night, I also draw attention to myself and I get hit on quite a bit more.
  • Prevalence/Awareness
    • It is becoming more and more accepted throughout the BDSM/Fetish community, especially at events like Folsom, IML, and CLAW. Particularly “Puppy Moshes.”
  • Outside misunderstanding [what people think it is vs. truly is]
    • As with most BDSM/Fetishes, people not familiar with the community often believe that the “sub” counterpart is not a strong person and enjoys being abused. Puppy play is very much the opposite. Trainers/handlers often treat pups with more caring and playfulness than a regular BDSM/Fetish relationship. It’s very similar to how a person would treat a biological puppy.

 

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COL282: Let’s Talk About Kink – Dom/sub, you don’t say!

LTAKIn this episode of Cubs Out Loud, we welcome Ches and Matt to lead an in depth discussion on Dom/sub relationships. From defining some of the terms to offering their takes on the dynamics, the guys exchange insights and provide an intriguing dialogue on power exchange and control.

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What’s Going On?

  • [Damon]-Where I Have Been (Comic Con, Bluegrass Leather, Ren Fair)
  • [Gary] – Getting Older

Weekly Topic

BDSM Discussion: Dom/sub Dynamics

  • Dom/sub, Daddy/boy, Sir/boy, Master/slave
    • Role play vs Power Exchange
    • Power Exchange
      • Dom/sub – umbrella
      • “With great power comes great responsibility”
        • Master/slave – focus on pleasure of Master; steward/guardian of slave
        • Daddy/boy & Sir/boy – conditional submission; varying kinds
          • Daddy/boy – mentoring, growth and nurturing for better service in and out; temporary relationship with a defined beginning and end
          • Sir/boy – personal service tailored to the Sir ; extended dynamic with long term possibility
  • Labels, Identities & Titles
    • Look at the power exchange
    • Self-identification
    • Thoughts on Being a Bear
    • “Respect somebody else’s kink”
      • Needs, Activities, Experiences
    • “Safe, Sane, and Consensual” – old mantra?
    • “RACK – Risk, Aware, Consensual, Kink” – new mantra?
  • Play Dynamics vs. Scene Dynamics vs. Relationship Dynamics
    • Play – experiencing with known boundaries
    • Scene – substantial power exchange; individuals familiar with aspects of time, players, experience levels
    • Relationship – extend outside of private settings, more public appearance
  • Closeness of Leather/BDSM Community
    • Support structure for others
  • Respect, Reciprocity and Abuse
  • Personal Responsibility in Representation
  • Local Community Reaction
  • For Da Noobz

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Links:

  • [Gary] – No Boyfren Bon Qui Qui feat. Tammy

  • [Jeff] – Matt Alder – Handsome Man

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COL069: Egos and Emos

Feedback, Age of Listening, Summer, SQUIRREL! . . . and a Jeffery Rant

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Amazing Weekends

Feedback:

  • Email from Ray
  • Email from Daniel

Topics:

  • Underage listeners – JJ
  • Mid-year goal review
  • Summer is here! What are your plans?
  • Is 69 really all that?

WTP:

  • Jeffery Rant
  • Wait? Sotomayor is hard to pronounce because the emphasis is on the last syllable?! Really? – Jeff
  • Hulu Desktop (After Jeff’s Pick) – Griff
  • Image Below –  JJ

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From Ray

Another great episode guys!

In response to the discussion about the San Diego school giving that student beef on their report on Harvey Milk: I think as far as the gay community is concerned, yes sexuality is heightened. But I think that it has more to do on our response to the heterosexual world and our history than our own impulses. Many of our older generation of gays came from an era of extreme repression about not only gay sex, but just sex in general. As Margaret Cho so gracefully put it, “If you’re hated for who you like to fuck, you are gonna kick up your heels and fuck”. They really exemplified that by the period of extremely overt sex in the pre-AIDS era. We have holdover from that period today, with our generation and the younger, newer gays on the scene – not because of fighting against repression, but because wanton sex was romanticized. Yeah, we became a lot more conscious about it because of AIDS. Yeah, free love is still a pretty awesome concept whether it’s gay or straight. But it’s so prevalent; pick up a LGBT newspaper and I can guarantee that there are a minumum of five ads with bare chests, thinly-veiled nakedness, or hook-up chatlines.

We let our own media and the media of the heterosexual world tell us how we should be looking and acting. We should be creative, well-groomed, nicely dressed, hung like a horse, look like an Adonis whether we’re clothed or naked, and above all – promiscuous. We’re expected to sleep around. We’re expected to have hundreds of sexual partners – it’s what was beat into our heads by our own gay elders, and it’s what heterosexual institutions like the Religious Right (Wrong) need in order to continue villifying and condemning us.  If being slutty is ultimately how one truly feels, then so be it – be safe about it and enjoy yourselves. We’re one of a small handful of creatures on this planet that has sex for the sheer enjoyment of having it. But for those of us who aren’t into night-after-night sexcapades, that’s nothing to be ashamed about. We don’t have to be promiscuous to be gay. It’s when we finally grasp that being gay is as much emotional as it is sexual, we can start turning back the tide against institutions like the Catholic Church and Focus On The Family.  We can show them that, with the only difference being our choice of the gender of whom we sleep with, we are no more or less human.

– RaytheFLcub

Smyrna, GA

From Daniel

You were talking in your latest podcast about segregation in the gay community and it got me to thinking — one thing good about living in a smaller city like I do (Charleston, West Virginia) is that with so few gay clubs, everyone is sort of forced to socialized together. Each group can’t go off into their own separate place. The only relatively big club in town attracts an extremely diverse crowd … bears, twinks, drag queens, lesbians, etc … We’re all sort of forced to congregate in the same few places. There are actually a handful of gay bars in town, including a scary pick-up bar where nobody who isn’t on meth or coke tends to go, and a new “alternative dance club” (whatever that means). There’s also few other decent clubs in Huntington, about 45 minutes down the road, and a campground/resort out in the countryside that’s home to our local leather club and the occasional bear party.

And in case you were wondering, yes — there really is a gay community in West Virginia. And we’re getting ready for Pride, here, too. =D pridewv.org

BTW, I’m a very new listener to your show and I’m absolutely in love. You guys are terrific. Keep up the good work!

Regards,

Daniel in West Virginia

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