In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, we welcome Ches and Matt to lead an in depth discussion on Dom/sub relationships. From defining some of the terms to offering their takes on the dynamics, the guys exchange insights and provide an intriguing dialogue on power exchange and control.

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What’s Going On?

• [Damon]-Where I Have Been (Comic Con, Bluegrass Leather, Ren Fair)
• [Gary] – Getting Older

Weekly Topic

BDSM Discussion: Dom/sub Dynamics

• Dom/sub, Daddy/boy, Sir/boy, Master/slave
  • Role play vs Power Exchange
  • Power Exchange
    • Dom/sub – umbrella
    • “With great power comes great responsibility”
      • Master/slave – focus on pleasure of Master; steward/guardian of slave
      • Daddy/boy & Sir/boy – conditional submission; varying kinds
        • Daddy/boy – mentoring, growth and nurturing for better service in and out; temporary relationship with a defined beginning and end
        • Sir/boy – personal service tailored to the Sir ; extended dynamic with long term possibility
• Labels, Identities & Titles
  • Look at the power exchange
  • Self-identification
  • Thoughts on Being a Bear
  • “Respect somebody else’s kink”
    • Needs, Activities, Experiences
  • “Safe, Sane, and Consensual” – old mantra?
  • “RACK – Risk, Aware, Consensual, Kink” – new mantra?
• Play Dynamics vs. Scene Dynamics vs. Relationship Dynamics
  • Play – experiencing with known boundaries
  • Scene – substantial power exchange; individuals familiar with aspects of time, players, experience levels
  • Relationship – extend outside of private settings, more public appearance
• Closeness of Leather/BDSM Community
  • Support structure for others
• Respect, Reciprocity and Abuse
• Personal Responsibility in Representation
• Local Community Reaction
  • EXCLUSIVE: Buechel residents oppose so-called ‘social club’
  • The outing of Ms. Constance.
• For Da Noobz

I’ll Tumbl For You:

• [Gary] – Yes Sir, as you wish, Sir
• [Jeff] – Gorgeous Ben
• [Damon] – Damien at FSF
• [Ches] – Brendan McVantes

Links:

• [Gary] – No Boyfren Bon Qui Qui feat. Tammy

• [Jeff] – Matt Alder – Handsome Man

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