In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, we welcome Ches and Matt to lead an in depth discussion on Dom/sub relationships. From defining some of the terms to offering their takes on the dynamics, the guys exchange insights and provide an intriguing dialogue on power exchange and control.
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What’s Going On?
- [Damon]-Where I Have Been (Comic Con, Bluegrass Leather, Ren Fair)
- [Gary] – Getting Older
Weekly Topic
BDSM Discussion: Dom/sub Dynamics
- Dom/sub, Daddy/boy, Sir/boy, Master/slave
- Role play vs Power Exchange
- Power Exchange
- Dom/sub – umbrella
- “With great power comes great responsibility”
- Master/slave – focus on pleasure of Master; steward/guardian of slave
- Daddy/boy & Sir/boy – conditional submission; varying kinds
- Daddy/boy – mentoring, growth and nurturing for better service in and out; temporary relationship with a defined beginning and end
- Sir/boy – personal service tailored to the Sir ; extended dynamic with long term possibility
- Labels, Identities & Titles
- Look at the power exchange
- Self-identification
- Thoughts on Being a Bear
- “Respect somebody else’s kink”
- Needs, Activities, Experiences
- “Safe, Sane, and Consensual” – old mantra?
- “RACK – Risk, Aware, Consensual, Kink” – new mantra?
- Play Dynamics vs. Scene Dynamics vs. Relationship Dynamics
- Play – experiencing with known boundaries
- Scene – substantial power exchange; individuals familiar with aspects of time, players, experience levels
- Relationship – extend outside of private settings, more public appearance
- Closeness of Leather/BDSM Community
- Support structure for others
- Respect, Reciprocity and Abuse
- Personal Responsibility in Representation
- Local Community Reaction
- For Da Noobz
I’ll Tumbl For You:
- [Gary] – Yes Sir, as you wish, Sir
- [Jeff] – Gorgeous Ben
- [Damon] – Damien at FSF
- [Ches] – Brendan McVantes
Links:
- [Gary] – No Boyfren Bon Qui Qui feat. Tammy
- [Jeff] – Matt Alder – Handsome Man
