COL725: LoR: Adulting

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke joins the cubs again to discuss how adulting is a part of our lives. From anxiety to accomplishments, it’s a discussion about how we move through avoiding responsibilities to the other side.

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Show Topic

Landscape of Relationships: Adulting

What is adulting? 

“The characteristic of behaving in a way characteristic of a responsible adult; especially the accomplishments of mundane but necessary tasks.”

Avoidance

• the action of keeping away from or not doing something. 

Experiential avoidance 

• the unwillingness to remain in contact with aversive experiences such as painful feelings, thoughts, and emotions
• the relief that comes after you don’t do something 
• instead of doing things that i need to do, i end up playing videos on tiktok or playing little games, or a get distracted 

Workability 

• the concept of how our reaction to our thoughts are helpful or unhelpful and moving us towards the person we want to be.  Less focus on whether our thoughts are right or not.  

Example 

EAC Therapy 2023 Business goals 

• Moving completely independent, get credentialed with insurance companies, and get my Sex Therapy Certification 
• I was unwilling to make room for the anxiety that came along with the thought of failure 
• Not doing them was easier than doing them….and I ALWAYS had an excuse NOT to do them.

Bullet Journal method 

• an analog productivity tool that is designed to help someone structure their tasks with rapid logging.  
• Ryder Carrol designed this method to help get people into action faster 
• separated into rapid logging, monthly logs, weekly logs, and then daily logs
• think of it like a more structured to-do list

1-2-3-4 Method

1. Quick and easy task
2. Cleaning task 
3. In-depth task 
4. Something fun to you

• Categorize your rapid log into the 1,2,3 or 4
• Pick one thing from each category and do each of them until you are done….then repeat as much as your can until you are done for your day 
• The science tells us that if you can do something quick and easy then you have the momentum into a cleaning task.  Then you are already up, might as well complete that big task you have been putting off.  Once you are done, you can watch the season finale of that show you have been watching.  

Dr. Edward’s suggestions:

• Be kind to yourself, Be realistic, Be brave and you will be ready.  
• Get an accountability partner 
• “Of course, I don’t want to do this. It’s okay to feel scared about this.”

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