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COL775: LoR: Relationships with Labels

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke returns after a brief hiatus to discuss the labels we use and ascribe to our lives and relationships. From identifying where we belong to reclaiming some labels, listen as the cubs break down the theories of labels and some of the positive and negative views associated with them.

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Landscape of Relationships: Relationships with Labels

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke returns for a discussion about the labels we use and ascribe in our relationships.

  • Labels are an abstract concept used to group people together based on a perceived set of identifiers or information.  
  • We see labels in our description of our identities (e.g.  gender, race, ethnicity, sexuality).  They can also describe our relationship to something or something (e.g. brother, sister, Catholic, Liberal, Conservative). 
  • In my field, I see labeling related to medical and mental health diagnoses (e.g. anxiety, depression, autism, cancer, heart disease, HIV).  
  • These labels might be viewed positively or negatively or some other reaction, like fear or anger (e.g. addict).
  • Common labeling theories 
    • Social Identity Theory (Tajfel and Turner, 1979) Our sense of self is determined by our membership to social groups.  And our connection to groups is important to our self-esteem and pride.  
    • Labeling Theory (Howard Becker, 1963) discusses how others label us can determine how we see ourselves and how we behave (e.g. fun, trustworthy, thief, depressed, difficult)
  • Labels can be limiting and do not fully capture the complex, diversity, and wholeness of humanity.  This can then reinforce stereotypes and discrimination.  

“In and Of Itself” (Derek DelGaudio, 2020)

“You are a stained glass window” – Dr. EAC

“Hold your labels lightly” – Russ Harris

“The label on the jam jar is not the jam” – Russ Harris

COL774: LTAK: Uniforms

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another installment in the Let’s Talk About Kink series. The guys are joined again by Tony aka Cubziz to discuss uniforms. From military fatigues to sporty spandex, listen in as the cubs address the types of uniforms and give some advice on how to handle them in our current climate.

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LTAK: Uniforms

The Let’s Talk About Kink series returns and we’re excited to welcome back Cubziz! In the Kink Community, uniforms hold a special place. We’ll be discussing the different types and their cultural references, especially in today’s age.

Uniforms as kink vs fetish

Types of uniforms:

  • Military
  • Law Enforcement / Prison
  • Athletic
  • Trade
  • Specialty / Hiviz / Diving Suit

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Cautions: Context Matters

  • In Private: Enjoy the scene. Careful with pictures when taken OUT of that context.
  • In Closed Public: Go by expectations of the environment. For example, a BLUF bar night, a full cop uniform may be acceptable. Regular bar night, be very careful of other patrons. Unknown city bar night, keep that uniform at home.
  • In Open Public: VERY careful and always make sure it is known to be not authentic uniform for the role.
  • In Porn: Touchy. Depends on studio/audience. (i.e. Military porn studios usually won’t try to make things authentic, but just enough to be believable. But others, like “The Academy” strove for authenticity and their videos were geared more to fetish than sex.)

Things to note on uniforms

  • Stolen Valor vs Impersonation
  • Authenticity (ties into BLUF) – Badges, Pins, Nameplates, Sashes
  • Generally major issues tie into Trust.
  • Know every piece and be able to explain.
  • The “Awkward” / Punishment / Self-Conscious Uniform

COL773: WGO: January 2025

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of January. For the first month of the year 2025, the guys reveal that their January was low-key and chill (blame it on the weather?). From catching up on TV shows to watching the world find out, listen in as the guys bring the wintry month to a cool close.

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Whooo are you?  Who Who
  • Damon: Laying Low
  • Gary: Up, Down, and In-between

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Recent Shows

  • COL769: WGO: December 2024
  • COL770: LTAF: Potatoes
  • COL771: LTAS: COL Hosts Freak Bingo 
  • COL772: 2025: F*Ç¢% Around and Find Out?

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COL772: F*Ç¢% Around and Find Out?

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s a sort-of Hostful News Update. As the new US administration concludes its first week and its President makes sweeping changes via executive orders, listen in as the cubs discuss the drastic new direction of the country. From ICE raids to LGBTQ+ rights, the guys ponder on whether the country will come together and what more 2025 has in store.

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2025: F*Ç¢% Around and Find Out? 

We’re basically one week into the new US Administration. And headlines have been all over the place covering what has been happening. Is this the beginning of a drastic new direction for the country? And will 2025 be the year of F*Ç¢% Around and Find Out? Will the various populations of the US come together in solidarity or continue to be divided in unwavering camps of disagreeing opinions?

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COL771: LTAS: COL Hosts Freak Bingo

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About Sex. This time around, the guys play some good ol’ fashioned Bingo. But, what makes that LTAS worthy? Well, the cubs are putting a twist on the sexy bingo memes and combining it into a fun time. Listen as the guys learn about each other and see who is the “freakiest” of all. Take your bets now and see if there are single BINGOs, multiples, or a coverall.

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LTAS: COL Hosts Freak Bingo

Let’s Talk About Sex series returns and it’s BINGO time! And we’re putting a twist on the bingo memes. We’re going to learn about each other and see who is the “freakiest” of all. Take your bets now and see if there are single BINGOs, multiples, or a coverall. 

Is anyone surprised by the winner? LOLz.

COL770: LTAF: Potatoes

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About Food. This time around, these spuds discuss that fabulous starchy root veggie: the potato. From tasty tots to covered concoctions, listen as the cubs debate its a-peel!

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Let’s Talk About Food: Potatoes

Last time around we talked about the almighty tuber. This time it’s PO-TAY-TOES! 

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COL769: WGO: December 2024

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of December. As holidays end and winter comes through, listen in as the guys share their end of the year joys. From traveling across the country to traveling to the couch, listen in as the cubs fill you in on their jolly adventures.

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Spontaneous Staycation
  • Damon: Holiday Vacay / NYE
  • Gary: Snow, HNY Travel, Bring on 2025

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YouTube Comment:

  • Re: COL765: LTAS: The Santa Fetish – @ericswann1417 commented: “Question at the outset: Good or bad? Yes, definitely. Simultaneously. The distinction between fetish and kink requires too much thought. 🙂 Maybe it’s a kinky fetish, or a fetishistic kink? “Does it all in one night.” YES!!! “You’ve been a very good boy this year. Instead of coal, you get hole.”

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Patreon Updates

  • Welcome our newest Buddy level Patrons: Oan R and Cyy!
  • BIG BEAR CUB HUGS to our Patrons: 
    • Cubsters: Charles W. and Michael K.
    • Ubehrs: Dave T., Li, and Michael Q
    • plus our Buddies: Cyy, Lloyd G., Michael V, Oan R.!

Recent Shows

  • COL764: WGO: November 2024
  • COL765: LTAS: The Santa Fetish
  • COL766: LTAK: Social Media Memes
  • COL767: COL Jingle Mingle 4
  • COL768: 2024 Look Back

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COL768: 2024 Look Back

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys use their final show of 2024 to look back at the year that was. Reflecting on the highs and lows and in-betweens, listen in as the cubs share what made this year memorable for them (or not). Does the year end with a bang or a whimper?

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2024 Look Back

It’s the final show as the year comes to an end. The cubs reflect on the year that was 2024. We had job changes, relocations, and some travel thrown in too. Was there anything truly memorable? Or will this all blend into the unremarkable past when we think back on this year?

COL767: COL Jingle Mingle 4

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s a holiday fun time with our 4th annual Jingle Mingle 4: Sexy Advent Calendar! This time around, laughs, stories and more ensue as Gary leads the sleigh. Joining the cubs, Joshua, Lloyd and PupZeo help determine whether or not an adult advent calendar is truly naughty or just meh. We even learn about spanking at the Haufbrau Haus in Las Vegas!

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Jingle Mingle 4

The COL hosts are gathering online again for a year end social. It’s holiday themed games as we check out an adult advent calendar! But is it really naughty or just meh?

COL766: LTAK: Social Media Memes

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another installment in the Let’s Talk About Kink series. The cubs are rejoined again by Tony aka Cubziz while Damon is away. The cubs discuss the recent social media memes of the kinky kind.

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LTAK: Social Media Memes

With the suregence of Bluesky, it feels like the old days of Tumblr. Lots of kink memes have surfaced as people are resharing their proclivities. But are they being a little overly empowered to reveal everything to the whole world?