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COL416: LTAK: Consent & Respect 2 Part 1

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another Let’s Talk About Kink. This time around we bring back an old topic in light of recent discussions on social media. The guys are joined by kink favorites Ms Tammy and Ches as well as Brady, Mr. North American Bear Cub 2017 and Ray, Mr. North American Bear 2016 to contemplate consent and respect. In this first part of a two-part series, the guys describe what consent is and when and how things can go wrong with it.

Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Farming
  • Damon: 91st BDay,  Poker and Old Friends
  • Chester: Lots of new music! Chainsmokers and Todrick Hall
  • Gary: SSDD on loop
  • Ches: FUCKING MOVING, but I still love my husband, CLAW
  • Ms. Tammy: Judging Contests, Leather Events, Mr. KY Leather, Mom and grandsons, Hammy
  • Ray: Finally taking some time from traveling
  • Brady: Travel!

Did I Do That?

Weekly Topic

Let’s Talk About Kink: Respect and Consent

Our previous episode COL314 [found here] was nearly two years ago. Some things though do not change with time…

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COLDR: S9E05: Reality Stars: The Musical

The “stars” are out tonight as we shoot another COL Drag Race T Time. The songs are bright as Gary, Chester and Damon belt out their feelings on this musical themed episode. Will they be starstruck over the shocking ending?


Dan McCord: So, I love when you guys do this series. As someone who only recently started watching RPDR, you guys are a great addition to watching the show.

I have a few things I want to say/ask.

  1. Damon, I’m not sure what was going on but your mic kept going in and out. I’m not sure if you could hear that or not. 🙂
  2. I can tell in your voices that you really enjoy talking about this show. You seem much more excited than you do on the regular COL shows sometimes.
  3. Have you had any of the RPDR contestants or judges contact you to say they’ve listened to the show?

Thanks! 🙂

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RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 9 Episode 5

First Impressions:

  • [Gary] – The sisterhood tightens
  • [Damon] – The shade of it all
  • [Chester] –  Attention finally snatched

Thoughts on This Episode:

  • [Gary] – It was a bit fake like the Kardashians
  • [Damon] – The role could have been a scene stealer
  • [Chester] – Group Therapy Race

Thoughts on Untucked:

  • [Gary] – ANOTHER gawd damn speech!
  • [Damon] – Really Queen?
  • [Chester] – One big happy drag family

Cooldown Topics


  • [Gary] – Trinity is HOW OLD?!?
  • [Damon] – Coming together
  • [Chester] – Anyone’s game

Snaps / Eyerolls:

  • [Gary] – Snaps for… Alexis’ as Mom-manager
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… nearly all the runway looks
  • [Damon] – Snaps for… Mama Ru’s runway look
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for… Nina Bo’Nina Brown
  • [Chester] –  Snaps for… Shea/Nina 1 on 1
  • [Chester] – Eyerolls for… Runway looks: Alexis, Cynthia, Trinity

Closing Thoughts:

  • [Gary] – Eye of the storm is the path to take
  • [Damon] – Still a sistahood
  • [Chester] – Eureka did you know?

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COL248: Common Relationship Mistakes Gay Men Make

Louis-Kwong-Jr-Hot-Gay-Bear-11In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys tackle the common relationships gay men make. From neediness to comfort and all that’s in between, we review a recent Tumblr article that talks about gay men and potential relationship mistakes. Some we agree with and some we think are shit. Listen in to find out what we think.

What’s Going On?

  • [Gary] – When it rains, it monsoons
  • [Damon] – Bear Potluck


  • Facebook: Chris Ransdell

Hearing about Gary’s Facebook friend who challenged somebody about leaving a dog in cold weather made me really frustrated. What kind of dog they are talking about wasn’t mentioned but the idea that dogs (most dogs) are in peril being in a car for some period of time when the temperature is either 32 OR 11 is silly. Many breeds of dog are perfectly safe in a wind protected enclosed space (like a car) at below freezing temps. They do have fur and tails to cover their nose with etc. Wolves, coyotes and lots of domesticated sledding breeds live in northern climates far colder than 11 or 32 degrees and without benefit of a car wrapped around them!

  • FB Likes: Morgan Longbeard, Phillipe Tan
  • Tumblr: requiem496, Otterbahn, Live4xo

Weekly Topic
Common Relationship Mistakes Gay Men Make

I’ll Tumbl For You:


An Act Of Love from Riccardo Pittaluga on Vimeo.

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