In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another installment in the Let’s Talk About… series. Damon’s out on travel this week and we’re excited to have PupZeo return for a chat about the changes in recent years to events for LGBTQIA+ communities. From volunteerism and feedback to the challenges of feeding the masses, it’s time to line up and enjoy ample servings.
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LTA… The Future of Events
Since the inception of the leather, bear, and kink communities events have been a way for people to come together and share time and space to make memories. With over fifty years of events having occurred, a lot has changed the landscape. From the digital revolution to worldwide pandemics, now we’re looking at how things have evolved. But has it all been for the betterment of the experience for attendees? Are there areas that need work? What opportunities are there for the coming years of activities?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another All T No Shade episode. As the calendar shifts into June, LGBTQ+ Pride rears its fabulous head once again. With this in mind, the guys reflect on what that means this year as legislation reaches new heights of removing all the progress that has been made in recent years. From drag & book bans to transfolk in sports & bathrooms, the cubs get frank and discuss the changing landscape of the community.
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ATNS: LGBTQIA+ Pride in 2023
At midnight June 1st, internet and social media codes around the world swapped basic images for ones with suddenly colorful versions of their corporate logos. The ‘gays’ awoke in the morning to choose wrath or being a demon. Which means it must be that season once again, PRIDE is here and it’s 2023. The landscape has changed vastly. Drag entertainment is at the height of professional productions while states have been legislating all over the place to reverse gains in equity over recent years.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined by BuilTABear, another trans listener who, after hearing COL514, shared his feedback and brought some perspective that may not have been touched on at that time 4 years ago. The cubs revisit the topic of trans identity and the bear community while also getting to learn more about BuilTABear’s upcoming projects regarding the older trans community.
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Trans Bear Listener 2
In the summer of 2019, we did an interview with listener Trans Bear, or T-bear, to discuss previous episodes where we here and there touched on transness in the broader bear community. In 15 years of the podcast, our understanding of being trans has evolved. True to our nature, we’re excited to come back to this topic with another listener that reached out to us with feedback on episode COL514 from almost 4 years ago amongst others. Thank you BuilTABear for joining us!
What was discovering you’re Trans like?
What has your experience been so far with self-image, coming out to family, friends, co-workers?
How has the Bear community responded to you in general/specifically?
The NEW podcast series OG Transmen: Life After Transition
New Facebook business page: BUILTABEAR PRODUCTIONS
Designed to be an information / networking hub for trans guys
There will be links to relevant articles, any trans producer podcasts, resource page links, trans guy product reviews, trans guy / LGBTQ merchandise, and whatever else comes up…
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of January. As winter chills the air, the guys warm you up with their monthly shenanigans. From new podcasts to new jobs they didn’t want, slide along with the cubs through another month.
What’s Going On?
Jeff: Forced Focus
Damon: New Podcast / Home Repairs
Gary: Ok-yeah, coulda been bettah
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Submission from BuilTABear:
Hey Guys! I am listening to your podcast COL514: Trans Bear Listener.
First — GOOD JOB! Thank you for bringing up the topic of trans guys! Please note — not all trans guys are the same or have the same needs, critiques or sensitivities. MANY (not all) guys who are earlier in the process (first 5 years) can be SUPER SENSITIVE about just about everything and often have NO idea they are being that way. I know it’s not politically correct to say that – but it’s the painful truth. After a handful of years living life passing as a cis man we learn to understand the whole world is not out to make us all miserable or be disrespectful to us. ugh. Some guys can really be hard work. Just like any other community, there are some cool guys and some really ODD guys. Mileage may vary :-0
I thought I’d share some of my thoughts about what your email guest had to say:
FEMALE genitalia = In my general experience I agree, we usually prefer words like birth born parts, genetic bits, front business, ANYTHING but being reminded about the emotionally painful word “female” when you are talking about a trans guy. Testosterone makes some pretty significant changes to it and it’s not “standard issue female parts” after a short while anyhow.
JUNK = agree, just ask the guy what he wants his junk called (don’t offer options – just ask)
Bottom Surgery = not being attracted to someone who has had bottom surgery.
Again, those who HAVE HAD bottom surgery are often super sensitive about rejection (as might be expected!). There are some trans guys who have had bottom surgery realizing folks (including other trans guys) are NOT into them BECAUSE of the lower surgery choice. VERY ouchie. Very VERY ouchie (I’d imagine). That’s a lot of work mentally, surgery and money to go through to realize you just put yourself into a VERY narrow date scene. I know of two trans men who committed suicide because of this topic. Saying I’d never have sex with a trans guy who has had bottom surgery is simply unnecessary and rude. It’s like saying “i’d never have sex with a guy with a small penis” — you might think it in your mind and maybe have a general desire for guys 6” or more, but going around admitting you’re a size queen is not pretty. Hope this helps!
Kindly, BuilTABear
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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this episode, the guys discuss QPRs or Queer Platonic Relationships. QPRs are intimate relationships that are neither romantic nor sexual in nature. Listen in as Ed builds up the fundamentals of this different relationship dynamic and its origins and brings it up to date for modern audiences.
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Landscape of Relationships: Queer Platonic Relationships
Landscape of Relationships returns. Queer platonic relationships are our focus this month when it comes to relationships. QPRs are committed intimate relationships which are neither romantic nor sexual in nature and that differ from close friendship by having the same structure and status as a romantic relationship. The concept originates in aromantic and asexual spaces in the LGBT community. The term has begun to also be used in polyamorous communities to help describe the complex relationships. The term “queers” social norms for defining relationships, it isn’t a friendship nor is it a romantic relationship.
Asexual (Ace)
“Sexual orientation where a person experiences little to no sexual attraction to anyone and/or does not experience desire for sexual contact” (aceandaros.com, 2021)
Aromantic (Aro)
“Romantic orientation, which describes people whose experience of romance is disconnected from normative societal expectations, commonly due to experiencing little to no romantic attraction, but also due to feeling repulsed by romance, or being uninterested in romantic relationships.” (AUREA FAQ on Aromanticism.org, 2021).
Allosexual
“Describes people who are not on the asexual spectrum. They can have any romantic orientation, including aromantic” (TAAAP.org, 2021).
Alloromantic
“Described people who are not on the aromantic spectrum. They have any sexual orientation, including asexual” (TAAAP.org, 2001).
Historically speaking , QPR has been described as an “ancient practice made new again”.
Boston Marriages – A Boston marriage was one in which two independent women chose to build a life and a household together, rather than marrying.
Romantic Friendships – Close but often times non-sexual relationship. Used primarily in historical contexts (e.g. Alexander Hamilton and John Laurens; Abraham Lincoln and Joshua Speed).
Zucchini
Term of endearment used to describe a queerplatonic partner.
Also, “squish” has been used to describe a non-romantic crush.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another installment in the Let’s Talk About… series. Damon’s out on travel this week and we’re excited to have PupZeo return for a chat about the changes in recent years to events for LGBTQIA+ communities. From volunteerism and feedback to the challenges of feeding the masses, it’s time to line up and enjoy ample servings.
