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COL629: It’s the Holiday Season

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys get more festive as the holidays approach. Getting together, they go through some of the celebrations that happen during this time of the year. While there is a focus on one particular holiday (Christmas), there are at least seven spiritual holidays of note going on right now. How many do the cubs know about? Listen and learn as the guys spread the holiday cheer of many holidays to come.

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It’s the Holiday Season 

The so-called culture wars here in the U.S. of recent years have brought to light the inward focus of some faith communities amongst many that celebrate at this time of year. While there is a focus on one particular celebration/date, in roughly one month and a half there are seven spiritual holidays of note. How many do our hosts know about? Do you celebrate some or any of them? 

Hanukkah: November 28/December 6 – also known as Chanukah or the Festival of Lights, it is a Jewish festival that lasts for eight days and nights. Hebrew for “dedication” – based on the story of the menorah in the Second Temple of Jerusalem In the Hebrew calendar, Hanukkah starts on the 25th of Kislev, which corresponds to the time frame between late November and December in the Gregorian Calendar. 

Las Posadas: December 16-24 – celebrated throughout Mexico and Central America, is Spanish for “The Inns.” This nine-day festival lasts for a nine-day interval (called the novena) during the Christmas season, which represents the nine-month pregnancy while honoring the journey of Mary and Joseph from Nazareth to Bethlehem in search of lodging.

Winter Solstice/Yule/Christmastide: December 21 – Pagan celebration of the darkest day of the year, originally called Yule, is one of the oldest recorded winter holidays in history. Historically, celebrated by feeding a large oak tree into the fireplace. The tree would be cut down on the Winter Solstice and the yule log would be slowly pushed into the flames over the 12 days of Christmas.

Soyal: December 22 – Zuni and Hopi Native American tribes in the southern U.S. honor the Winter Solstice on Tuesday, December 22 with a ceremony to lure back the sun god, who is believed to have traveled away from the tribes during the winter. It also marks a new cycle of the Wheel of the Year.

Christmas: December 25 – These days it’s easy to mistake Christmas as the two months of the year where everyone airs their hot takes on Hallmark movies, consumerism, ugly sweaters, Black Friday, how early is too early to put a tree, and holiday ads that dare to evolve with the times. Christmas in America is also a trillion-dollar industry, with $10.8 billion spent on Cyber Monday alone in 2020. Between the baking, the decorating, the holiday movies, and gifts, Americans will shell out about $1,500 per household. It’s the most wonderful – and expensive – time of the year.

Kwanzaa: December 26-January 1 – Created in 1966 by Dr. Maulana Karenga, professor and chairman of Black Studies at CSU, Long Beach, Kwanzaa – which stems from a Swahili phrase meaning “first fruits” – honors African-American culture. Each of Kwanzaa’s seven nights involves a candle-lighting ceremony during which attendees light a candle representing one of Kwanzaa’s seven principles: unity, self-determination, collective work & responsibility, cooperative economics, purpose, creativity, and faith.

Epiphany: January 6 – Feast of Epiphany, most commonly known as Three Kings’ Day, happens twelve days after Christmas, on January 6th. It is a Catholic observance and a day for commemorating the visit that the Three Wise Men paid to Baby Jesus.

Orthodox Christmas: January 7 – Orthodox Christians in the United States celebrate Christmas a little bit later than everyone else, on January 7. This date falls on December 25 in the Julian Calendar, which existed before the Gregorian Calendar. Orthodox Christmas also celebrates the birth of Jesus Christ, the son of God. This holiday differs from Christmas Day because it does not observe Pagan traditions, like waiting for gifts from Santa Claus and decorating a tree, instead it focuses on religious customs.

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COL628: LoR: In-Laws

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this episode, the guys discuss the often dreaded in-laws. As media seems to make it seem that most straight couples have to deal with their in-laws and spouse’s families, the cubs review how this translates into the relationships of the LGBTQ+ community. Are they really that different or can similar tactics, communication and boundaries help ease the potential tension?

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Landscape of Relationships: In-Laws

Lots of research and media about how in-law relationships are really difficult.  That may be the case as some research out there says 3 out of 4 couples have difficult relationships with heterosexual in-laws.  Is that the case with same-sex relationships? 

Meeting the In-Laws

  1. Every family is different with a different rulebook that has been in creation for possibly generations.
  2. Possibility for conflictual interactions, difficult pasts, and crunchy presents.
  3. BOUNDARIES!!!!!
    1. Know your values
    2. Stay true to you.
  4. Brene Brown’s BRAVING…specifically the Generosity part.  
    1. Keep those conflict skills in check.

LGBT in-laws (2019) 400 interviews from children in law who identified as gay or lesbian.  Describe relationship with same sex in law parent.

  1. Many of those interviewed struggled with acceptance by one or both of their parents-in-law.
  2. Relationships usually improved with time
  3. While parents-in-law became increasingly accepting, there was often someone else in the family who was not accepting
  4. Acceptance by the mothers-in-law, according to the daughters-in-law, came as more of their friends and social circle either had children who were lesbian or gay, or their friends and social circle became more socially aware.
  5. Feelings of ambivalence toward family members are typical.

Be the subject of your life, not the object.  

  • You become an adult child the moment you set boundaries with your family (and in-laws).
  • What do YOU want to do with your partner in relation to each other’s families?
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COL578: What is. . .Gratitude?

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys present another “What is…” show. For this episode, the cubs explore the emotion known as gratitude. As Thanksgiving draws ever closer and the pandemic keeps us further apart, the guys reflect on what they are thankful for and what that means to themselves and the world as a whole.

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What is. . . Gratitude?

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COL343: Ho Ho Holidays

COL343In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, we take some time to celebrate some of the things that December has brought and is bringing. From the Wiz to Star Wars and other holiday movies, we enjoy these special treats in time for Christmas. Have a merry ho ho ho!

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What’s Going On?

  • Jeff – 11/13 Mythic, and WoW stuff.
  • Damon – Restaurant Cookies!
  • Gary – Decorations done

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Potpourri show – holiday randomness abounds

A Very Murray Christmas on Netflix

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COL284: It’s a Shady Halloween, Charlie Brown!

trick-or-treat-bear-costumesIn this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s a SHAAAAADY Halloween, Charlie Brown! The guys reminisce about their childhood Halloween memories and discuss/bitch about the way Halloween is now. We also get into costume parties, transporting, scary movies and helicopter parenting. So grab your pillowcases and flashlights and listen in.

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What’s Going On?

  • [Gary] – It’s for charity!
  • [Damon] – The Chocolates

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  • [Gary] – NEW APP/SITE IDEA! GRUMBLr

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Anonymous said: I just listened to episode 251 and think you guys should ask who on the panel is your type?

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Tricks are for Kids, Treats are for Adults – A comparative analysis of our views of Halloween in our adolescence versus our views upon reaching adulthood.

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