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COL731: Bears in the Future

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys hop in their DeLorean and discuss the future of bears. The cubs gather together to talk about what another 30 to 40 years down the road might look like for the broader bear community. From disappearing bear runs to growing inclusivity, listen in as the guys ponder the next steps of the community.

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Bears in the Future

The cubs gather together to talk about what another 30 to 40 years down the road might look like for the broader bear community. Will runs still exist? Are more animals coming into the menagerie? What about the ‘aging’ of the cubs in the year to come?

Wikipedia – Bear culture

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COL688: LoR: Sexual Desire

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke joins the cubs again to discuss sexual desire. While not a usual LoR topic, it can be part of the conversation. Listen as Ed speaks on the complicated definition of sexual desire, where it comes from, and what impacts it in our day-to-day lives.

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Landscape of Relationships: Sexual Desire

First, sexual desire is complicated. 

  • Is it an emotion? Yes
  • Is it a motivation? Yes
  • Is it a state of being? Yes
  • Is it required to have sex? Not necessarily

Sexual desire is the interest (or lack of interest) toward engaging in sexual activity.  This presents itself with thoughts, feelings, and fantasies.   Some people look at sexual desire existing on a spectrum from disgust to neutral to excited.

One way I have heard sexual desire described is akin to hunger.  And I like this analogy for a few reasons that we will discuss.  

Let’s go back to the idea of a smorgasbord….let’s imagine that there is not a Golden Corral that can hold the variety of sexual desire (Rule 34 of the Internet).  So when we talk about sexual desire, the limit does not seem to exist.  

What impacts sexual desire?

  • Biology/Evolution
    • Age can be a factor, Propagation of the species (sex as a reward); amygdala (emotional center) and hypothalamus (responsible for sexual arousal) Men’s desire is more based on visual cues when compared to women, cued interest “we don’t know why we desire something” v. uncued interest “has an origin story”; the “absolute territory” (Japanese zettai ryouiki), the band of skin between the bottom of the end of the skirt and the top of the socks.  Disclaimer: this is based on statistics and not all human behavior can be reduced to statistics.  If this isn’t your experience, it does not mean you are not valid.  
  • Medical
    • Low testosterone, heart disease, Cancer, physical pain, psychotropic medications
  • Relational
    • Relationship conflict, and sexual scripts 
  • Intergenerational
    • Abuse and religiosity and culture 
  • Psychological
    • Anxiety, Unhelpful body/sexual narratives, other sexual disorders
  • Social
    • Cultural sexual narratives and scripts 

“For most of Western Civilization low sexual desire has been a goal, not a problem.” – David Schnarch 

  • In a sex negative world, no wonder people are so confused about their sexual desires or lack thereof.  Remember the sexual smorgasbord idea?  If dominating cultural narratives created the smorgasbord, then there would only be a few options for a few people….the rest would be closed.

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COL671: LTAK: Drummer Magazine Returns

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Kink. The guys are again joined by Tony aka Cubziz and reminisce about the adult magazines of yore. As Drummer Magazine makes a resurgence in both print and digital forms, the cubs discuss the shift from physical materials to digital ones to fap to and whether there is an audience for it. From Honcho to American Grizzly and from BEAR to Mandate, listen in as the guys peruse their porno roots to wonder about the future.

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Let’s Talk About Kink: Drummer Magazine Returns

Once upon a time, bears, cubs, admirers and more around the world enjoyed turning the pages of hard copy print magazines until the pages stuck together. Then the internet appeared on the scene, shifting focus for where we got our smut. 2007 sees the landscape change with turning a mobile phone into this thing called a smartphone. Soon after paper pages are replaced by swiping and sexting. Over a decade after the iPhone’s debut, the once very much enjoyed Drummer Men adult magazine is coming back on the scene. Is there an audience for a ‘zine’ – be it online with a print option?

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COL645: LTAS: Aging Adult Entertainers

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Sex. This time around, the guys go vintage as they recall some of their favorite porn stars from movies past. With the sudden passing of bear porn actor Steve “Titpig” Hurley, listen as the guys get pensive and wonder “where are they now?” From nostalgia to morbid curiosity, the cubs ponder which of their adult entertainers have daddied up or who might be sitting in the video booth in the sky.

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Lets Talk About Sex: Aging Adult Entertainers

We discuss the aging of generations and how we feel regarding the news that adult entertainers we enjoyed in our youth are no longer with us.

Steve ‘Tit Pig’ Hurley RIP

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COL546: LTA. . . COVID-19

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined by Tony (Cubziz) to get a little kinky…Actually, no. In light of recent events, the cubs get together to discuss COVID-19 and the effects it is having on bear runs and other social gatherings. As government regulations are being put in place to help lessen risk, events are being cancelled or postponed left and right. Listen in as the cubs share their thoughts on how these social distancing tactics are affecting our communities.

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Let’s Talk About – COVID-19

 

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