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COL636: LoR: Love Languages

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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this episode, the guys show how they feel the love within the five love languages. From learning what the languages are to sharing their results, listen in as the guys gift us some touching acts of quality words to help understand how these languages affirm the love and affection one can feel for their loved ones. In addition, learn more about more recent developments in the love languages from neurodivergent to kink play dynamics.

Show Topic

Landscape of Relationships: Love Languages

Love Languages (Gary Chapman):

  1. Words of Affirmation 
  2. Quality Time
  3. Acts of Service 
  4. Gifts
  5. Physical Touch 

The 5 Love Languages (according to Britney, Bitch!):

  • Physical Touch: My loneliness is killing me
  • Words of Affirmation: I must confess I still believe
  • Quality Time: When I’m not with you I lose my mind
  • Give Giving: Give me a sign
  • Acts of Service: Hit me baby one more time

The 5 Neurodivergent Love Languages:

  • Infodumping
  • Parallel Play
  • Support Swapping
  • Please Crush My Soul Back into My Body
  • “I found this cool rock/button/leaf/etc and thought you would like it”

Comparison of Results:

Gary Chapman, PhD, 1992, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts 

Fear not: John Gottman and the Gottman approach, which I reference often, is a good overlap with the 5 languages of love….and allows some flexibility with the concepts.

BDSM and Love Languages  

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COL606: ATNS: LGBTQIA+ Pride 2021 – Part 2: Kink

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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another All T, No Shade show. This time around, the topic is Pride and because the cubs have a lot to say about it, this will be a two-parter. In this second part, the cubs break down their views on the ongoing debate of kink at Pride and its inclusion in LGTBQIA+ spaces. From consent to caution, listen in as the guys paddle their way through this hard stop conversation.

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ATNS: LGBTQIA+ Pride 2021 – Part 2: Kink

This year for our annual Pride discussion, we have a two-parter – previously we discussed Corporations. Now that we’ve told big business to fuck off with their pandering, let’s piss off even more people with our thoughts on kink being a part of Pride for the LGBTQIA community. 

From COL previous guest Perrin on social media:

Perrin 

So here’s the thing… cause it apparently needs to be said. Wearing a leash in public harms absolutely no one. It violates no consent.

This discourse reeks of “think of the children” and “no kink at Pride” and I’m not here for this sanitization.

For years these types of excuses were used to actively harm homosexuals, transfolk, and anyone else who didn’t fit the public’s perception of normal. Still to this day, we see people crying foul when anyone dares deviate from that norm.

From Forged & Folded A Thousand Times in Rainbow Flame [aka @vaspider] on Twitter

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COL347: WYR1: Sex Edition

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WYR_SexEdIn this episode of Cubs Out Loud, we introduce something new for the new year. We present to you: WOULD. YOU. RATHER?! And to start things off, let’s talk about sex. Listen in as the cubs make some choices about their sex life in a this vs that game show.

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Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff – Other games
  • Damon – How to run an event
  • Gary – Cha-cha-changes

Did I Do That?

  • Gary – It lives!

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Urbandictionary with Gary

  • bitchplosion – An explosion of bitchiness; when someone/something pushes you so far that you just bitchplode

Dude… I was just joking and then she just had a massiv bitchplosion

Weekly Topic

Would You Rather: Sex Edition

  1. Would you rather have sex with a guy in athletic gear or in a bondage outfit?
  2. Would you rather be in a relationship with a totally submissive partner or a totally dominant partner?
  3. Would you rather have sex with just one person watching, or would you rather have sex with 50 people watching?
  4. Would you rather pursue a life where you could only ever have sex with one partner in the same position in the same bedroom or have sex with a completely different person every time?
  5. Would you rather sleep with someone much older than you, or simply never have sex during your entire life time?
  6. Would you rather remain a virgin from now until marriage and have a spectacular sexual partner, or would you rather remain unmarried for the rest of your life and have a ton of great sexual partners who never love or commit to you?
  7. Would you rather only ever have sex in bed or only ever have sex outside the bedroom?
  8. Would you rather proposition a complete stranger for sex (one who was exceptionally attractive), and face the possibility of being rejected, or would you rather receive guaranteed sex from a very unattractive individual as many times as you wanted?
  9. Would you rather be blind and sleep with the most attractive men in the world as often as you wanted or would you rather have your vision and be the same person you are now?

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