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COLDR: S16E04: Welcome to the DollHouse & The Sound of Rusic

In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon are back again to set the stage of the most recent episodes. The hills are alive and the dolls are just getting started! Listen in as the guys harmonize on the queens musical chops and branding prowess. Do-Re-Mi and spill the T.

WEEKLY TOPIC

Put the Pedal to the Metal:

  • Serve(s):  
    • [Damon] – New Challenge!
    • [Gary] – The Cast Reading The Cast
  • Swerve(s): 
    • [Damon] – Plane’s Game
    • [Gary] – Mix ‘n Match Ru, Pinecones?!, ‘Upside Down Bouquet’
  • Nerve(s): 
    • [Damon] – Mother Sapphira
    • [Gary] – Q Ain’t Playin’

Snaps & Eyerolls:

  • Snaps for… 
    • [Damon] – Law Roach Keepin’ It Real
    • [Gary] – Flowerin’ Motha Sapphira
  • Eyerolls for… 
    • [Damon] – Unbalanced Rusical
    • [Gary] – Mean Girlz
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COL640: LoR: Chosen Family

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this episode, Damon is on assignment in Detroit, Michigan and will fill us in on his experience in a future episode while Jeff and Gary chat with Edward about what is a chosen family. From our origins to the aunties, cousins, sisters, and brothers we choose, the LGBTQ community has developed its own families. But are they still needed today?

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Landscape of Relationships: Chosen Family

Rina Sawayama and Elton John (2021)

Where do I belong?

Tell me your story and I’ll tell you mine

I’m all ears, take your time, we got all night

Show me the rivers crossed, the mountains scaled

Show me who made you walk all the way here

Settle down, put your bags down

(Ooh) You’re alright now

We don’t need to be related to relate

We don’t need to share genes or a surname

You are, you are

My chosen, chosen family

So what if we don’t look the same?

We been going through the same thing

Yeah, you are, you are

My chosen, chosen family

What is a Chosen Family?

  • “chosen families are nonbiological kinship bonds, whether legally recognized or not, deliberately chosen for the purpose of mutual support and love.
  • Families We Choose: Lesbians, Gays, Kinship, cultural anthropologist Kath Weston defines chosen family as consisting of “friends, partners and ex-partners, biological and non-biological children, and others who provide kinship support.”
  • The term originated within the LGBTQ community and was used to describe early queer gatherings like the Harlem Drag Balls of the late nineteenth century.
  • Movies like Paris is Burning, shows like Pose as well as RENT highlighted the concept of chosen families 
  • Often times a protective factor against forms of discrimination and violence at home and helps create positive and, hopefully, secure, attachments with others.

Chosen Families and COVID

 People Need Paid Leave Policies That Cover Chosen Family 

  • Last year, New York City began allowing workers to use paid time off to care for anyone they personally define as family, whether they’re “related by blood or affinity.” In doing so, NYC joined other major metropolises like Chicago, San Francisco, and St. Paul, MN, as well as states like Arizona and Rhode Island, in honoring non-biological kinship.

Chosen Family by Them 

  • A list of articles/blogs that include content on the topic of Chosen Families 
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COLDR: S13E13: Henny, I Shrunk the Drag Queens

In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon reach into their hot pockets as the queens live their sci-fi fantasy in an acting challenge. The guys share their tiny thoughts and give pocketfuls of shade and tea. Which queens make it to the final lap as the top 4?

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YouTube Comment:

  • COLDR S11E03: Diva Worship
    • Michael Ewing: “If I were on Rajah’s team, I would choose Cher because of Chad Michaels, Madonna or Lady Gaga” & “RuPaul should’ve made them apologize to Mariah Carey for that performance”

WEEKLY TOPIC

RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 13

Put the Pedal to the Metal:

Overall Thoughts – Acting Challenge Redux

  • [Damon] – You Gotta Take Risks  
  • [Gary] – It’s About Growth

Stomp the Runway:

Category/Theme – Haute Pocket

  • [Damon] – What’s in the Pocket?
  • [Gary] – Glow Ups and a Week 1 Throwback

Snaps & Eyerolls:

What was a high point and low point for you

  • [Damon] – Snaps for… Rose’ Rising
  • [Gary] – Snaps for… Gottmik’s Revelation on Trans Barbie/Ken & Scarlett Johansson Married Colin Jost!!
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for… Predictability 
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… The Outcome, She’s Bound for All Stars
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COLDR: AS5E06: The Charles Family Backyard Ball

In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon fire up the grill as the All Stars serve up some barbecue realness! From country cousins to backyard eleganza, the queens fix their plates to find out who’s in the top 4. Listen in as the guys “picnic” the episode apart.

WEEKLY TOPIC

RuPaul’s Drag Race All Stars Season 5

Put the Pedal to the Metal:

“Country Cousin Realness” Challenge

  • [Damon] – Ain’t No Cousins!
  • [Gary] – One can stay, bounce the rest

Stomp the Runway:

Backyard Eleganza

  • [Damon] – Creative Choices
  • [Gary] – CAN YOU F’N SEW?!?

Lip Sync for Your Legacy:

Bottoms: Everyone!    The Top Queen is: Cracker    

The Lip Sync Assassin is: Roxxy Andrews

“One Last Time” by Ariana Grande

  • [Damon] – Nothing Makes Sense
  • [Gary] – Upstaging again…

Roxxy assassinates and… Alexis sashays away

Snaps & Eyerolls:

What was a high point and low point for you

  • [Damon] – Snaps for… Helpful Shea
  • [Gary] – Snaps for… Staying On Target & Delivering
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for… So So Sewing 
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… Roxxy Nude Illusion
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COL473: More Fats, More Femmes

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys talk about the diversity of the bear community. In its over 30 years of existence, the guys give their opinions how much or how little it has changed in terms of inclusion, diversity, body positivity and more. Is this a trend heading towards inclusivity or a sign of the end of bear times?

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What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Insomnia and the Pokèmon addiction
  • Damon: Coworker Fun/Board Retreat
  • Gary: Rebalancing

Feedback:

Facebook Likes:

  • Gaith Shablow
  • Marco Gomez John Slater

YouTube Comment:

  • Re: COL472: Giving/Taking… Compliments
    • Woofy – I have a habit of when I get a compliment I have a compulsive need to throw one back, even if I’m not interested. Something I need to work on, to just accept the compliment with a thanks.

Social Media Comment:

  • To Jeff: RE: COL472: bostonareabear on Bear411: “Are you gonna talk or are you gonna gloss your lips?” Funniest line of the last COL podcast.
  • To Damon: RE: COL471: Gonzo Gonzales “I just heard your podcast on body positivity and wanna thank you for thinking of me. I was in tears. Love you so much.”

Show Topic

More Fats, More Femmes – we like to see diversity, but …

    • Where is the diversity in the Bear Community?
    • How much have things changed in nearly 30 years?
    • Are we satisfied with what is represented today?
    • Is Tumblr the new bear porn for showing the reality of bodies and sex?

I’ll Tumbl For Ya:

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