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COLFB321: Goldilocks and the Three Bears

Welcome to another Flashback episode this week! We’re off this week. However, I present to you a COL Flashback to episode 321 on July 12th, 2015 – five years ago. In this episode you will hear us interview the truly amazing, one and only special guest Ms. Tammy! Let’s take a listen to our discussion with her about women and their involvement in the Bear community in this special Flashback show to COL Episode 321!

321In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined by the lovely Ms Tammy to chat about “Goldilocks”, women who are friendly with the bear community. As we discuss the idea of allowing biological women into bear clubs and bars (& even Growlr), we learn more about why Ms Tammy got involved in the community.

Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff – Contract ended
  • Damon – First Holiday at the House…sort of
  • Gary – Gay camping recovery mode

Urbandictionary With Gary

sausage fears – a term to describe the actions of straight men who are afraid of showing any physical or emotional bond to the men they are friends with. This is akin to saying “no homo,” and is a result of toxic masculinity and homophobia

“Why is Derek afraid of hugging Jonathan?” “He’s got mad sausage fears, bro.”

Weekly Topic

Goldilocks [women in the bear community]

  • History
  • Involvement
  • Representation
  • Experience
  • Future outcomes

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COL557: LTAK: Gear Part 3

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another Let’s Talk About Kink. The guys are again joined by Tony aka Cubziz to discuss gear. In this third part, the cubs break down the purchasing of gear. From thrift stores to online sites, Tony provides some handy information to build your gear collection from sparkling brand new to slightly flavored.

Show Topic

Let’s Talk About Kink: Gear – Part 3

We’re joined one again by kinky boy Tony aka Cubziz for a chat about the ‘gear’ we see and experience when it comes to leather/BDSM/kink. Previously we discussed…

This week:

  • Purchasing/Using
  • Building an Inventory
  • Where to Locate
  • Steps to consider purchasing/using
    • Once you have determined your interest and intent, now you can start purchasing. There are companies that sell full uniforms and there are places that will make custom.
      • Back to the Leather analogy. I can buy a harness from Wish dot com for 10 bucks, or I can have a custom made harness from an IML vendor for $400. 
        • Again depends on YOUR interest level.
        • And you will start at one level and move up in time.
        • In short, until you are happy, you will try to remove the negatives with your gear. (Too loose, too tight, not bulgey enough, not “real” enough…)
        • The store bought harness is probably not perfectly sized. But if your only use is to wear during the puppy mosh, it may not NEED to be better. But if you want to be inverted and suspended by it… you probably want better quality.
        • Rubber is a perfect example here. Cheaper rubber tends to be thinner and thus does not last as long BUT… may stretch more. It depends on what you want. And if you plan to wear it once, thinner may be fine. But if it is your new image, you’ll probably want something that will last and can be repaired.
  • How to build an inventory of items
    • As mentioned, you WILL “up your game” in time as you will gain/lose weight, find a pair of pants that “feel” better, or just one rough play too many and the old gear shreds.
    • Recommendation is to ask someone IN that gear category.
      • (I’ll give some examples from sportsgear.)
      • For example, someone getting into wrestling gear… RIGHT NOW is the time.
      • Now is NOT the time for Baseball gear though (as it is in high demand so not a lot of sales.. BUT you can get a lot of fancier designs that may not be available after the season… Again depends on your purpose.)
      • Now is also not the time for Football gear. Been too many months and so excess stock is very limited.
    • Consider the availability of gear.
      • In Iowa, you can walk into any sports gear store and they will carry wrestling singlets for adults.
      • In Missouri, just one state south, you RARELY will find any singlets at all, youth or adult sizes.
      • The culture is different. Iowa is a big wrestling state whereas Missouri isn’t.
      • Likewise, in Minnesota, I can buy hockey gear… In Iowa, not so much.
    • Your ABILITY to buy gear is another factor.
      • Police Uniforms are a great example.
        • You won’t be able to buy a full uniform at once unless you have LOTS of money. It will be piecemeal.
      • Baseball Uniforms are another example.
        • This depends on your level of interest. Do you want a full uniform from a particular school/team/player? Then you’ll only focus on THAT particular gear.
        • Likewise depends on style. If you want an all grey or white baseball uniform, that’s easy to come by. Want a Royal blue pinstripe on white pants and a matching jersey? That’s going to take more time and searching.
      • If you want custom leather, going to IML or another run is your best bet if you don’t have a local leather shop. But again, if you are willing to settle for not a perfect fit, ordering from Mr. S is perfectly fine or even Amazon. (Mr. S will do some alterations whereas Amazon won’t. Again, various levels of support. Likewise Mr. S can do custom on some items, so they may be able to see you at IML..)
  • Where one might locate some gear
    • Depends on the gear.
      • For work style uniforms, usually from supply stores, goodwills, ebay. Mechanic uniforms for example are typically just Dickies pants and a generic work shirt that you can get from JcPenney (are they still around?)
      • For a police uniform, you’ll have to hunt for that and probably build your own piece by piece (shirt, then pants, then patches, then accessories…)
      • For sportsgear, fortunately it is designed typically to have a range of styles; some is easier to obtain than others. (Again, my main thing is sportsgear so I’ll give examples.)
        • Wrestling Singlets – Earlier mentioned walking into a sports gear store and getting a singlet. Probably will be a generic kind. But if you want a particular style or team, you may be hunting multiple places, like ebay, Facebook marketplace, hell maybe the school’s own website
        • Mail order. Suplay for wrestling. Baseball Express for baseball attire. Goaliemonkey for hockey. Etc. But also Police uniforms can be via mail order. After all, policemen have to buy it from somewhere too.
        • Garage sales/Swap meets/Charity yard sales at the bar/event.
          • Some of us gearheads have WAY too much and are more than happy to GIVE it to someone who shows a genuine interest. (Or sell it, or sell it for charity… Depends on how much space we don’t have left…)
          • Likewise, some of us tend to hop on sales and buy WAY too much. For example, I picked up some Under Armour baseball pants for $0.50 recently, so I bought six pair. Do I need six pair? Of course not, but I know I’ll give some away to friends… 
          • So ask your gearheads as they may have spares and it’s probably better quality than what you’d find on your first search.
        • Above all, set a budget before buying. It is VERY easy to chase the rabbit hole and spend $2,000 on a football uniform worn by a particular player which may not even fit you…
          • However, just because one can’t wear it doesn’t mean it isn’t fetish attire. Sniffing, holding, putting someone ELSE in the gear, are all possible.
  • Above all, decide what you want and enjoy it.
  • One benefit of FULL uniforms can be that you can play rougher, roleplay better, etc.
    • Sex in a full football uniform can be FAR rougher than you could otherwise do.
    • But wrestling in a full football uniform is quite painful… (and you will lose.)
    • And this doesn’t even include topics like bondage in gear or forced roleplay (IE hypno/captured play). 
  • Above all, no one path will work for everyone. But go with your desires. Focus on what YOU enjoy and go from there, even if it is just enjoying how it makes someone ELSE act.
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COL451: BEAR: Skin or No Skin

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another Bear Experience Action Readiness or BEAR show. This time around, the cubs channel their inner Joan Rivers and discuss “What are you wearing?”. Just in time for NAB, the guys talk about what to and what not to wear at your next bear run, leather event, or pool party.

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Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Thirsty
  • Damon: Conversation
  • Chester: Drag Race Premiere, Zelda, TSA Redux
  • Gary: Being Distracted and Male Hot Flash

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  • Re: COL448: Shutdowns IRL vs Online – Sean Mulligan: Why was I not a special guest lol

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  • Comment on “COL450: Gay Genetics” by Chris Greene “Dr. Cisco really nailed it. Great breakdown of the meaning of studies, how to draw conclusions, and method of explaining some complex genetic concepts to non-scientists. Thanks for having him on!”

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Show Topic

BEAR Series: Skin or No Skin – what clothes do we take, or not

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COL422: LTAS: Playspace Etiquette

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud,  it’s another Let’s Talk About Sex! For this topic, we start the discussion about playspace etiquette. Listen in as we give the dos and don’ts about your favorite back bar space, dark room, bathhouse, frolic and mingle rooms. So, should you enter a playroom chatting on your cellphone while eating a plate of nachos?

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Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Back in Action/W Bear
  • Damon: Glamping Trip
  • Chester: Apt Approved, packing, and Evan’s first drive-in
  • Gary: July is here!

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  • euthman alkhatib عثمان الخطيب
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  • Ches Clark SHOW NOTE [re: COL421]: I realized after the fact that I didn’t get in the whole story about my birthday dinner. (I think I cut myself off because I felt like I was monopolizing and rambling on.) That being said, I wanted to make a small addendum, especially given that I was giving someone who wasn’t present to defend himself a bit of a hard time. Brady *did* sincerely apologize for initiating the song and spectacle debacle as part of owning up to it, and had no idea beforehand that I was so vehemently opposed to that sort of public display. He truly did feel terrible about it afterward, but I was just in no mood to hear it at the time. He was just trying to be playful and funny, and so for those who might be worried about him getting “two black marks in my little book,” have no fear–most of that accounting business is tongue-in-cheek. Brady and I are very much okay with each other. Cheers!
  • Re: COL421: Greg Ballard I would love to do a co host spot someday. Love this channel! Watching right now!

 

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  • Rotundaplomb mentioned us in a comment and asked
    • I’m looking for some movie recommendations! I’m after a movie featuring the bear/chub community. Romantic, drama, comedy – all work. Not looking for a porn flick but sex scenes are fine. I’ve heard BearCity might be a good place to start. What are some others? Maybe some ideas on the next @cubsoutloud? Thanks Tumblr folks!
  • Rotundaplomb in re: to COL420: State of the Community 2017
    • Wish I could have stayed for more of the live stream. You miss so many of Gary’s faces on the podcast version. Great list of some Pride documentaries to watch – check the show notes.
  • FirstRonin in re: to COLSP06: Daddy’s Day Storytime 2017 directed to Hadrian…
    • I just want to say that you have an amazing voice! No matter what you’re reading or saying, you make me melt a little.
  • NE-Plus-Ultra-Bears in re: to COLSP06: Daddy’s Day Storytime 2017
    • Now that’s what I call a late Sunday night delight!!

Weekly Topic

Article from Bear World Magazine website interview re: the W Bear app

Let’s Talk About Sex: Playspace Etiquette

  • You may/will be seen/watched – not possible to be invisible
  • Always be respectful
  • Consent needs to be given, whether subtle or pronounced
  • You know what is best for yourself, not anyone else
  • Keep safety in mind, yours and everyone else’s
  • Be courteous to others in the space
  • Prepare yourself; mentally and physically

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