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COLFB424: BEAR: Play Lists

The Bear and Gaymer community learned this past week about the unexpected passing of Greg Ballard. As we mourn our collective loss, this week we present a COL Flashback to episode 424 from July 23, 2021. Join us as we listen to a special show of COL Episode 424 with the unforgettable Greg Ballard.

If you would like to contribute to the GoFundMe campaign to cover funeral expenses for our beloved Greg Ballard, click here. The donation campaign established will help his cousin cover the cost of funeral expenses with any overage of funds being donated in his name to the Trevor Project, a cause he deeply believed in having experienced prejudice and hatred in his youth. 

Greg followed up after recording this episode with us and provided the following comment from his previous collab channel on YouTube to the posting of the original COL424 episode.  GAMER: REDEFINED: So much fun being on the show! Great group of guys!

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys continue the Bear Experience Action Readiness series, AKA BEAR, with a new topic. They are joined by special guest Greg from Men of the Den to discuss playlists: the music kind, not who you have planned to boink. What music do you play on your roadtrips? What’s your soundtrack when you’re gettin’ it on?

Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Rise of the Necromancer
  • Damon: Mr. Kentucky Leather
  • Chester: Final move prep, Legendaries arrive in Pokemon!
  • Gary: Weekend Pup Time
  • Greg: Auditions for our new Tuesday host. The future of the den. Youtube side projects.

Did I Do That?

  • Tech Fail made me do what?!

Feedback:

Facebook Likes:

  • Patrick Bishop
  • Daniel Rodriguez
  • Kelly Gene Parsons

YouTube Subscribers:

  • Richard Borkovec
  • Ray Evans

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A message from CurvesandCrevices re COL423: Get A Lucky Buddy – Great show with an important message! Recommend it to anyone who meets other people.Also want to throw in a recommendation for an app called Kitestring. (https://www.kitestring.io/) Personal safety when meeting others is a common challenge for women, and there’s a tool already out there! (@cubsoutloud)

Weekly Topic

Play Lists [roadtrip, pooping, sexy time]  

Recommendations:

On the road:

  • Jeff: Push It by Garbage
  • Chester: Music that gets your blood moving! Beyonce’s album “Lemonade”
  • Damon: Waiting for Tonight
  • Gary: Whatever Yo Jam Is! Mine is Bonnie Tyler’s ‘Holding Out For a Hero’
  • Gary: Shrek 2, Jennifer Saunders “Holding Out For A Hero” 

  • Greg: One Many Army by Our Lady of Peace

Fert:

  • Gary: Things That Get You Movin’ & Groovin’

Brown Chicken Brown Cow:

  • Jeff: The Sound of Silence – Not the song, just silence
  • Chester: Industrial – Nine Inch Nails, Tool, KMFDM
  • Damon: Touch of Your Love – Little Mix
  • Gary: NIN – Closer

Cooldown Topics

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COL601: Landscape of Relationships: FWB

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this installment, the cubs share their thoughts on FWBs, otherwise known as friends with benefits. What are the building blocks of this type of relationship and how do you make it work? And, what exactly are the benefits?

Show Topic

Landscape of Relationships: Friends With Benefits

Is a friendship a relationship????

  • Thoughts?
  • Many cultures define friendships as a very important relationship
    • LGBTQ community- “chosen family”
  • Atlantic 2020 article that discussed the cultural and historical importances of friendships

The relationship escalator

A set of societal expectations for intimate relationships.  Partners follow a set of progressive set of steps, each with clear markers, with a goal in mind.

  • Making contact / Flirting
  • Initiation 
  • Claiming and defining 
  • Establishment 
  • Commitment 
  • Merging 
  • Conclusion 
  • Legacy

What does the science say about FWB relationships?

  • In 2017, 171 University of Denver students (more women than men) were surveyed on sexual satisfaction, commitment and trust of FWB relationships
  • Big takeaways? *drumroll please* communication and setting healthy boundaries
  • They found sexual satisfaction was important but so was sacrificing for the good of the partner, and not looking for the next best thing.
  • Why?  Lots of research is looking at young adults who are in school.  Romantic relationships are oftentimes an added stressor that takes away from studying.  Some students opt for FWB arrangements to reduce overall stress.  

How to make a “friendship with benefits” work.

  • FWBs are supposed to decrease pressure, not add pressure.  
  • You need to be friends in order to call it a FWB.  Those take time, trust, shared history, etc. 
  • Must be mutually beneficial and convenient 
  • If the FWB ends, you are allowed to be upset.  
  • It’s confusing to try to develop friendship founded on a sexual relationship guided by a rule system that has to be invented as you go. Or, when you’re trying to force a friendship so that you can add sex as a benefit, where does the friendship part fit in? That’s putting the benefits before the friendship.”
  • “Sexual exploration can and often does become a part of an existing friendship between consenting people. Or you may have been in a romantic and/or sexual relationship with this person earlier in your life, but now it’s morphed into a friendship. In such circumstances, the sexual connection may remain, or may be reintroduced. But the common thread is the history between you, the investment you share in the friendship, and the trust that has formed. You recognize that you both enjoy the chemistry, but that you may not be as compatible emotionally as you are sexually. It’s a mutually understood experience. The connection you have as friends determines whether this time in your life and in your relationship is right to be sharing benefits.”

Tips for Having a FWB relationship that isn’t a mess

  • Make sure you can handle the emotional complexities 
  • Define “friend” and “benefit” and make sure the other person is on the same page
  • Don’t start an FWB with someone who wants something more
  • Transparency with each other’s sexual history
  • FWB’s and Fuck Buddies are two different things
  • FWB relationships are about respect and boundaries
  • Prioritize the friendship over the benefits

 

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COL504: What’s Going On – March 2019

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On episode for the month of March. Here, the guys talk about work, dating and the 90s, as well as an itch that desperately needs to be scratched! Also, feedback, porn stars, and an emotional cameo make the month of March quite intriguing.

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: 2nd date, and an itch
  • Damon: Putting on a Show/Work Improvements
  • Gary: Work, Werk, and Woke?

Facebook Likes:

  • Cliff Jumper Jr.
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  • Clint Maillig

Facebook Comment/Post:

  • Re: COL500: Cisco Salgado – Congratulations on 500 episodes and thanks a lot for the shout out Damon 😃. I’m honored to be part of COL history
  • Re: COL502: Eric G. – Personally I’d just like to see some new development. There hasn’t been anything added to the app in ages. I still like it for now and will wait and see what happens.

Instagram Followers:

  • Biobehr38
  • Breakthestereotype.info
  • puptibbers

YouTube Subscribers:

  • Jason Johns
  • Robert Fischer
  • Wes

YouTube Comment:

  • Re: COL501: bossmrgEveryone looking great! Hope you all feel great!
  • Re: COL502: oscar orozco orejel – My fear is it’s gonna be like tumblr where after it got bought off it just gets worse and worse and eventually killed by its own incompetence
  • Re: COL503: oscar orozco orejelI wonder if boon cotter means he’s s top

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Recent Shows

  • COL500: 500th Milestone!
  • COL501: LTAS: Bathhouse Etiquette
  • COL502: HNU: GROWLr Acquisition
  • COL503: Gayming Characters

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COL424: BEAR: Playlists

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys continue the Bear Experience Action Readiness series, AKA BEAR, with a new topic. They are joined by special guest Greg from Men of the Den to discuss playlists: the music kind, not who you have planned to boink. What music do you play on your roadtrips? What’s your soundtrack when you’re gettin’ it on?

Play

Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Rise of the Necromancer
  • Damon: Mr. Kentucky Leather
  • Chester: Final move prep, Legendaries arrive in Pokemon!
  • Gary: Weekend Pup Time
  • Greg: Auditions for our new Tuesday host. The future of the den. Youtube side projects.

Did I Do That?

  • Tech Fail made me do what?!

Feedback:

Facebook Likes:

  • Patrick Bishop
  • Daniel Rodriguez
  • Kelly Gene Parsons

 

YouTube Subscribers:

  • Richard Borkovec
  • Ray Evans

 

Twitter Followers:

Tumblr Followers:

Tumblr Comment:

A message from CurvesandCrevices re COL423: Get A Lucky Buddy – Great show with an important message! Recommend it to anyone who meets other people.Also want to throw in a recommendation for an app called Kitestring. (https://www.kitestring.io/) Personal safety when meeting others is a common challenge for women, and there’s a tool already out there! (@cubsoutloud)

Weekly Topic

Play Lists [roadtrip, pooping, sexy time]  

 

Recommendations:

On the road:

  • Jeff: Push It by Garbage
  • Chester:Music that gets your blood moving! Beyonce’s album “Lemonade”
  • Damon: Waiting for Tonight
  • Gary: Whatever Yo Jam Is! Mine is Bonnie Tyler’s ‘Holding Out For a Hero’
  • Gary: Shrek 2, Jennifer Saunders “Holding Out For A Hero” 

  • Greg: One Many Army by Our Lady of Peace

Fert:

  • Gary: Things That Get You Movin’ & Groovin’

Brown Chicken Brown Cow:

  • Jeff: The Sound of Silence – Not the song, just silence
  • Chester: Industrial – Nine Inch Nails, Tool, KMFDM
  • Damon: Touch of Your Love – Little Mix
  • Gary: NIN – Closer

Cooldown Topics

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COL383: All T, No Shade: Biphobia

col383In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, we present a new series of shows. This one is called “All T, No Shade” and allows the hosts to provide a more frank opinion on some potentially polarizing subjects. For this first show, the cubs discuss biphobia. From our personal dealings with bisexuality to admitting our personal biphobic tendencies, the cubs keep it real about their feelings.

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Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Pain in the Butt
  • Damon: Being Sick
  • Chester: Back in the USA
  • Gary: Living with parents

Feedback:

GROWLr:

So I just finished listening to episode 374 of COL, and I’d just like to thank you Sir. It was a touching conversation and many good points were brought up in the discussion.

You are most welcome. I’ve been a longtime listener but during that episode the discussion shifted to include someone in my situation. Which unfortunately, I find is rarely addressed since for many it isn’t an issue.

I will say that y’all were spot on when discussing how many of my generation are more aware of who they are attracted to at a much younger age.

Oh, I would just like to thank you again, the podcast has helped me a lot over the years. Whether it was for entertainment (comedic or sexual), informative, or just something to detract from the loneliness.

Facebook Likes:

  • Jeff Beumer
  • Terry John-Carls

 

YouTube Subscribers:

  • Princesa Dream Maker
  • TimV82
  • Dustin Abreu

 

Bear Underground COL Entourage Group:

  • NurseCub225

Weekly Topic

  • Biphobia definition: Biphobia is aversion toward bisexuality and bisexual people as a social group or as individuals. People of any sexual orientation can experience or perpetuate such feelings of aversion. Biphobia is a source of discrimination against bisexual people, and may be based on negative bisexual stereotypes or irrational fear.
  • Bi-now, gay later.
  • Bisexuals are just plain selfish!
  • Is there Biphobia in the kink community?
  • I’m Bisexual, But I’m Not Buzzfeed Video:

  • Opinions on choosing the label of bisexual, how people act towards them, and personal experiences.

Cooldown Topics

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